If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[mom2four1]

Congrats on your pregnancy! My 3rd pregnancy turned out to be twins so you can imagine the comments I got and still get having 4 kids. People can be quite rude and I have found sometimes family/friends are the worst! I hope you have a healthy and problem free pregnancy and come October a healthy new bundle of joy!!
Tracy

 

[Carrie Ellis]

Oh I almost forgot another "great" thing that people fell compelled to ask- "That's it right? You're not having any more are you?" Hmmm...since when did these people become population control? We will have as many as suits us thank you very much!

So so true!

Good luck Grendalynn! It seems like a lifetime that first year but then "poof" it is over!! I truely believe that "family" is what life is about. Everything else will not even be remembered after we are gone.....I sure don't want them standing at my gravesite saying "gee she sure could clean", "I am so glad she went to work to work everyday", "remember mom..she had a nice car" etc... I want them to say "mom loved us so much and gave us the best life!!"

So don't worry and enjoy your wonderful family!!

 

[jim and meesie]

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? :

Congratulations, 3 is a magic number!!! When I found out I was having my third I was totally in shock and it has turned out amazing. My kids are about the same age spread DS (18) was almost 8 when 3rd was born, DD (13) was just 3 when 3rd was born and DS (10). There is alot of juggling because each is at a different stage so with 3 kids they do outnumber us but it definitely keeps us younger longer!! We were 35 (and the youngest parents in the class when our oldest started 1st grade), and 43 when our youngest started (and definitely on the older end for parents). Looking back, we couldn't have planned it any better!!!!!

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

oh that's was so nice in taking the time to repond. no culture/no society can exist without the family unit. nobody loves you like your mother.
even in a zillion years, the development from newborn to sucessful adulthood
will depends on family values. forget about fancy cars, clothing or big houses,
what really is a reachin parenthood and being part of a . what i know was passed on...a parent has two major objectives--to educate & to protect. the insights from carrie were prefect. and yes there are things not to like--sure glad when we no longer had to buy diapers. so~after every
darn fool in egypt likes to eat eggs [ the jig for labor] ,you'll have a .
just wanted to mentioned...to the person wanting twins....older women increase their chances by nature. and to the "mom of sleepy,doc and bashful"
that blond sure is lucky. families need strong supporters and i got to say your attitude is , , and
. as for the op, i think this destiny meant for you . and you
will meet every challenge with tender loving care. and great for you for
standing up!

 

[MommyPoppins]

Congrats!

We have 4, ages 5, 4, 3, and 1. All boys. You should see the looks I get when I tell people, "Yes, they are all mine, and we want at least 2 more!" It's priceless.

 

[myboysnme]

I only have two right now, but am looking forward to having number three in the future. My oldest is 5, youngest almost six months, so mine will be pretty spaced out as well. I am getting the opposite. "So are you planning number 3 yet? However, I do get the shocked looks when I say I am actually considering it!

Congratulations! Children are such a blessing and I would love to have more than three! I don't understand why people feel the need to act as though they are such a burden. If you are happy, and your children are well cared for and happy, what difference does it make to anyone else?!

Again, Congratulations on your new little blessing.

 

[SanDiegoDayTripper]

Been reading this thread for days -- just talked to a dear friend with one DS, age 13...She had the greatest line for nosy people in the check out line when asked when she was having another one:

"We spent $10,000 on in vitro procedures for this one, we're currently raising money for a second, would you like to contribute?"

I also have two set of friends who both had lovely only children, and both couples (separately, they don't know each other) went on 10th anniversary trips to Hawaii and came back with a surprise souvenir!!

 

[Alice28]

Congratulations from another mom of 3.

My favorite was, "I sure hope you get a girl this time." (I had two boys); since when did boys become second best? I also got lots of comments like, "Oh wow....I can't believe you are having three....are ya nuts? Are you sure?" Our third was quite carefully planned out to the "T" thank you very much! And SHE is an absolute joy- can't imagine our family without her.

Like you, our children are spaced evenly by about 3.5 years. It makes things quite easy in my opinion. The boys are pretty independent now, but oh, they love their sister so much!

Many congratulations to you and your family!

 

[KristiKelly]

Congratulations!!! I got alot of comments like that when we were expecting #3 as well. I still get people asking, "How many more are you planning on having?" I had my tubes tied so this is it.

 

[BuzzNutt]

Congradulations are your happy addition. We planned on having at least three but were only blessed with one. If others don't want three or four than so be it. Do what is right for you and enjoy the adventure.

 

[DisneyPhD]

Congratulations from another mom of 3.

My favorite was, "I sure hope you get a girl this time." (I had two boys); since when did boys become second best? I also got lots of comments like, "Oh wow....I can't believe you are having three....are ya nuts? Are you sure?" Our third was quite carefully planned out to the "T" thank you very much! And SHE is an absolute joy- can't imagine our family without her.

Like you, our children are spaced evenly by about 3.5 years. It makes things quite easy in my opinion. The boys are pretty independent now, but oh, they love their sister so much!

Many congratulations to you and your family!

I think that when you have 2 girls, people hope your 3rd is a boy.
2 boys, hope you have a girl
Just natrual really.
But the truth is most of the time if you have 2 girls, you think they are great and would love a 3rd, but then again a boy would be nice too.
Same goes for boys and girls.
However my mom really did want a girl. She had 3 boys before she had me.

If you have a boy and a girl they wonder why you are having a 3rd at all.

I must admit my college roomate has 2 little very active and fun boys. She is pregnant with her 3rd and as a mom of girls, I was thrilled for her to hear it was a girl. I am sure she would of been thrilled either way.

 

[paigevz]

Huh..........I don't bat an eyelash until they're pregnant with number 5..........and then only in private!

I am considering another, too, it will be the third. Mine are very spread out also. I don't understand what they are so shocked about?

 

[Bea]

Congratulations. I have 2 older daughters (now 12 and 8) and a 7 month old son . Because I am in my late 30's, and there is a huge age difference between the baby and the other kids, I had even strangers ask if he was planned. There is nothing more rude than that . Even though he wasn't exactly planned I can't imagine life without him. Iam so glad things worked out the way they did. He is lucky, he has 3 moms (me and my 2 daughters). It has really bonded our family.

I have lots of friends who have 3 or 4 kids and I to be honest, I used to think they were crazy (I would NEVER express that to them though), but now that I have my 3rd, I totally understand.

 

[Befferk]

I haven't read through all the comments, but 1st of all - congratulations!

I am sure you have gotten a lot of comments from the great people here. Sometimes I think the rude people just think they NEED to say something witty. They don't realize how dumb they really sound. Just have your witty comebacks ready.

Please remember though that when people say/post things like "I didn't want my child to be an only" or "I didn't want my child to feel like an only child" that hurts just as much as the rude people you are putting down for commenting on your larger family.

We have an only child, partly by choice and partly because of health reasons. I get the rude comments too. I always tell them "We did it right the 1st time". They don't need to know our reasons for only having one.



Beth

 

[Motherofboys]

Congratulations on your third! Our third child added such an interesting dynamic to our family, and then the fourth made it complete! I just laugh at the people who come up to me and marvel at our "big" family (I come from a family of 7 kids). My husband grew up with one sister and he's always been envious of the "big family" bond my siblings and I share. I think most people today just don't understand that some people view their children as assets and not liabilities. I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy.

 

[checkwriter]

Congratulations! It reminds me of when my wife was having our fifth. She has a small frame, and he was a big baby, and when she was in the latter stages of her pregnancy, someone came up to one of our close friends and asked "Is she having twins and doesn't know it?"

Our friend gave what I consider to be the only appropriate answer: "Well if she doesn't know, then I sure don't know!"

 

[zookeeper]

We've got 5 kids, the first 4 were born in 4 1/2 years and the last one came 3 years later. I think people assumed we would stop after #3 because she was a girl after having 2 boys, but I always wanted a big family. As for the comments when I'm out with them I always say:

when we had 3 people would say "Oh, you must be a busy mom!"

when we had 4 people would say "Are they all yours? Wow!"

when I'm out with all 5 they don't say anything they just stare at us in horror like we're a circus sideshow!!!

BEST OF LUCK!!!

 

[Lil' Grumpy]

...just wanted to add. to princessbaby. God bless. you are very brave as you
are special. a r n, huh? i worked with some over the years allowing me to observed their life saving/changing dedication. in fact, some 10 years ago
i wrote some poetry to honor how much they gave "my" life...without them, i would not be here today. your comments about your children were very touching. talk about unconditional love! i think how much you love your children make them very special indeed!! and it carries the potential to overcome any odds. look at me...writing this...overcoming a few obstacles
[life threatening]..many,many years ago. just because i had a mother who
refused to give up [ on me] and nurses like yourself. there is no credit i can
express to you [and all mothers] & dedicated rns'. way back then, it wasn't
make a wish but cripple children. nurses made it worked. as for having
a third, well i wanted to be an only one but after the ninth,tenth- that
sorta vanished. now we are all over the country... with children and even grandchildren. together we have given each other a wonderful life. don't let
no one limit their future. for the challenges they face today may give them the insights to do great things tomorrow. nor does it has to be big for it
to be special. in my case it happened when we had our firstborn, the first
grandson...the year before we lost our father. to our family, this was a major
event. being one of seven brothers, i was the least likely. sometimes i feel the most important meanings for life are the things planned for us...but we had nothing to do with. our third child wasn't the charm but full of it...i wouldn't trade her for anything! it always makes me feel good watching disney caring for children with special needs...after all i was one of them many years ago. thus, i believe iam paying walt back by taking my
children to wdw and dcl cruises. as long as disney remains walt's inspiration, it will always belong to children. boy [girl], this thread should been done on mother's day...thanks,again.

 

[tigger0215]

My Best Friend's Mother just had her 8th child... AND GET THIS!! HER MOM IS OVER 50!!!.... She Also HOMESCHOOLS THE OLDER ONES.. The oldest is in collage and the youngest is turning 1 on easter sunday!!

I appreciate her love of children!

 

[idreamofdisney24/7]

OUr #4 is due May 1. It's the last for us! Our others are 11, 8, and 2! I remember my mother in law silent on the other end of the phone. Speechless!! Everyone else was and is excited.. My friends are excited because they can continue having babies through me..most have 1 or 2 kids..and don't want more either!

Congratulations!!