DisneyPhD said:O.K. I will try to explain that comment more. I guess it just goes to show that no matter what you say, someone somewhere is going to get offended.
Comments like "we only had 2 because we want to give them the best of everything..............." and things like that really bug me. Because $$$ is not the best of everything, even attention is not the best of everything. Teaching your children values, respect, self esteem (in a postitive way, not just being snotty!) cooperation, learning to share, care for others etc....... This is all more important then "the best things in money can buy." If family was the important factor, not oh my kids might have to share a room, we might only be able to take 1 vacation a year instead of 2 ect.... that would be better for kids and families in general. You know the whole with 2 kids we can aforrd to stay at a deluxe resort, with 3 we are going to have to stay in 2 value rooms, agruement (my DH has come up with that one, when it comes down to it, that is a small price to pay for another member of your family.)
In cases like yours where (for whatever reason) your life and family is compelete the way it currenlty is, that is just fine.I am sure you have a lovely child who you should be proud of and are a wonderful parent. I am sorry your dream of having more hasn't happened. Please don't take offence so easily.
My point is perfect family and american dream isn't just 4 people, a mom, dad, 2 kids (boy and a girl) It comes in all shapes and sizes, sometimes as small as 2 people, and as big as 12! If there wasn't this mind set and everything set up for a "family of 4" I think that things would be better. Also all the spoild rotten kids today (and everyone has seen them) it is much harder to spoil a child in a large family, they just don't get that kind of indulgance. Yes, it is possible not to spoil a single child, or 2, but it becomes less of an issue the more kids you have.
I am currenlty guilty of the "family of 4 syndrome" We may or may not ever have more, DH and I are not currenlty a place where we can say "we are done" or let's try for another. But coming from a family of 6 I say large familes are specail in ways that people who say "more then 1 or 2 kids are just too much work" (or things along those lines) will never understand.
djm99 said:Three is no big deal IMO, - but I have a friend that just had her 6th last week(yeah you read correctly - 6th child). I feel so sorry for her - her husband claims to want more - that is just insane IMO - so be proud - you might luck up and get a girl - think about the name JOY -
Signed Afraid to be pregnant again - mother of one!!!
who is almost 10 months old. Our boys who are now 16 and 13, who were less than pleased with the news now want us to have another whereas the little one won't be bored with her geratric parents when shes older.
lost*in*cyberspace said:
As my Mom always said, "if you dont have anything nice to say, than dont say anything at all." But you know what they also say, "Opinions are like... everybodys got one." 
I guess it could just be my hormones.... 
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welovedis said:djm99-Just curious why 3 is ok but 6 is not? Playing devil's advocate and wondering where the cut-off is your mind? I say if they can afford to provide for children then it is their business.
djm99 said:
Being pregnant for 79 weeks of my life was a challenge for me, but worth it. (on the same hand adoption is a lot of effort, emotional and otherwise and money also). If we don't have another it won't be because I can't bear to be pregnant again, because I know it is tempary and I can make it though it, (I did before at least.) My personal health or that of the baby was never at risk, I just felt horrible most of the time. I may feel differenlty if I was risking my own health and risking leaving the children I have with out a mother. 
I can understand how you feel though. Everyone has different life experinces that leads to to where they are and how they think and feel. Labor is often easier the 2nd time though. 
You DD really is a cutie 
you and DH do good work. djm99 said:
Carrie Ellis said:djm99,
I hope you have twins too! It is fun but alot of work. I considered the 1st year very similar to boot camp!!! After the first year, I thought, it was easier than having a singleton. They sleep better because they have eachother (but not the first year), play together and always have a buddy.
But, twins have nothing to do with your husband or his side! Fraternal twins runs on your maternal side. It is the gene (or something) that cause you to drop more than one egg. My great-grandmother had two sets of twins like me. Identical twins is when your egg splits and seems to be just a freak of nature. I am sure there might be argument there but it is when for some reason your egg decides to split.
My husband was bragging about his twin making ability and I had to bring reality to him....he had nothing to do with it anymore than creating one child. One million sperm is one million sperm!
Carrie Ellis said:
- oh my goodness, the thought - I'm loosing oxygen - breath in - breath out! 
One last THANK YOU for all of the great posts, input, opinions and kind words! I recieved far more posts than I was expecting and wish you all well! All the great information has helped me adjust to being a new mom again and to see the greatness in our future life with 3 children, as you all have experienced ! ((Remind me I said this when I am up with feedings and diapers in October )) Enjoy your families as I/we will be sure to enjoy ours and our new addition come October! 
