If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[jamzots]

Congratulations!! A baby is always a blessing!! When we found out we were pregnant with #3, I have to admit I freaked a little, and we got the "are you nuts?" comment from everyone. I think because of the age span, my kids are 14, 9, and the baby is almost 9 months. But what a joy he is, the best baby, he is so good. I am almost 40 now, and I didn't envision I would have another child, but I have to agree with another poster that said 3 is quite average these days, seems everyone I run into has 3. Good Luck!!

 

[Bethminor]

I also have three children all boys. I really get the comments because our children are all adopted, its like "YOU CHOSE 3 BOYS!" and two of them we got around the same time (biological brothers). Our boys are 6, 3 and 3 months, the two youngest are brothers. I would love to have more if I had a little help (maybe a part time nanny). Hubby says when we get rich we'll hire some nannies and have 10 kids. I definately want a girl at some point and so does my oldest...he wants a sister. He'd gladly trade in the 3 yr old for a girl, lol.

-Beth

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Me (36) DH (29) DS (6) DS (3) DS (3 months)

Personal visits to WDW
1975- offsite age 5
1982-offsite age 12 (give or take a year)
1986-offsite age 16
1992-offsite age 22
1997-offsite age 27
2006-onsite (don't know where yet) age 35 (birthday at Disney will be 36) with family none of whom have ever been

 

[Our 2 Princesses]

I don't think you're crazy!! I want 3 dc very badly!! When I was pregnant with my 3rd last Fall (I ended up having a miscarriage) a few people asked me if I was crazy because my girls will be 7 and 11. They said "You want to start all over again?" Yes, I DO!!!

 

[tazleiten12]

Congratulations!! I think 3 is great, of course i have 3. Ages 10, 8, 5.

 

[nliedel]

I also have three children all boys. I really get the comments because our children are all adopted, its like "YOU CHOSE 3 BOYS!"

Two of ours are adopted and we get comments, in front of them, "Where did they come from?", or "Are they yours?" "Do they know they are adopted?" Umm no lady they don't, thanks for telling them. (They both have always known so that was a joke). They are both Hispanic so they do not look like my husband at all. I have dark hair (unless I dye it) and once a lady came up to us in a mall to inform my husband our baby at the time (the 8 year old) was not his. I was so upset that she would do that, obviously trying to point out that I had cheated I wanted to whap her (I actually was not party to the discussion, so was kept from a battery charge), my husband told me you cannot educate people so why try? Good point but I would have been really yelling up a storm had I heard it.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I can totally feel your aggravation. We have 3 kids- 3years old, 2 years old and 4 months. They are 20 months apart and were well planned. We feel very lucky to have them and wanted them so much. BUT..... if one more person asled me if the baby was planned before they congratulated me I was going to punch them out!!! First off- that is rude!!! Second off- does it matter? Will you not be happy for me if we didn't plan it? Third off- IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!!! If we are happy then you should be happy for us. Just wait until you are out at the store and people say things like "Oh you poor thing!" Are they kidding? What is so terrible about having 3 healthy happy kids? I love my children with all my heart and soul. They are everything to me. And yes... I would like to have more! So I will congratulate you!!!

 

[SqueakyMouse]

We have 3, and I have to admit that 3 is a whole lot more work!! Dc #3 was not planned, but we cannot imagine life without her!! She keeps us smiling alll the time.

 

[Feelslikeadream]

I am a Mom of 4!!!!!!! All I have to say to the so called know-it-alls, is you are not the ones who have four sets of arms around your neck at night kissing you and hugging you, I would consider ourselves pretty darn lucky'!!!! So who the heck are they to judge!!! Maybe they know they wouldn't personally be able to handle it.... God gives us only what we can handle!!!!!!

Good luck and God BLESS you and your beautiful family!!!!!!


Tyler 9 Austin 9 Brady 4 Jenna 2

There is never a dull moment!!!!!!


Nov 1-9 Celebrating the twins 10th and my 35th at the WORLD!!!!!

 

[jennifer293]

People did this to us when I found out I was PREGGO with DD#2. Especially DH's mom, (then she had the nerve to ask me what DH thought about it) HMMMMMMMM I don't know...He was thinking pretty good thoughts at conception..LET ME TELL YA!!! I mean COME ON who asks that??? Some people talk before they think about what they really want to say. Don't let them bring you down. I am sure your hormones are in OVERDRIVE right now so try not to let it upset you too much!!!

Oh and CONGRATS on the baby!!!!

 

[DisneyPhD]

Ok, after thinking about it more I realized that I do tend to make small talk with other, espcailly families. I most admit I have made comments to familes with a many kids myself. However they are mostly of the nature of and how impresed I am at how well behaved all their kids are (most of the time they are, more so then just one kid out with 2 parents.) I hope I have not offened anyone. I know people make comments, some rude some nice. I remember when my 1st daughter was born and a few weeks old a stranger was admireing her. She asked if she was my only child (she was at the time) the lady said "oh honey, you have to have more, you and your husband do good work.:" It made me feel good.

I was at the zoo with a friend and her 2 kids (I only had one at this time) and as we struggled with the 3 kids between the 2 of us a women with 4 little ones all under 6 came by. She had a double stroller, a baby carrier and one walker and was doing much better then we were. My friend almost died and wanted to know her secert. She thought she was the bravest women alive. (now you have to realize my friend was just adjusting to having 2 herself.)

Anyway my point is I think when people make rude comments it is more about their own inadquatices (sp?) then your situation!

 

[Fainfamily5]

I know the feeling. WE have 3 also and people think I am the old lady that lived in the shoe. He was not planned but he is the most wonderful thing to happen to our family. He is so full of life, he constantly keeps us laughing. We have DS#1 10, DD 6 and DS#2 5. So you are not crazy, you are blessed. I figured that if God wanted him here despite our trying not to have any more then who am I to argue with him!!!!!

 

[welovedis]

OP-Congratulations! Sounds like you've got a great family and I wish you luck with your pregnancy.

Whether it is one child, 3 or more, people are just far too rude and openly sarcastic these days. I have one child (not by choice) and here all the comments. Finally one day I broke down and said to someone "I'd love to have another, can you donate some of your husband's sperm or your egg?" Shut her up for good. What families choose as far as family size is their business & no one else's, IMO.

Honeslty most families that I know with 3 or more kids are the nicest families in the world with the best kids. The families really work together, the kids are responible, well behaved ands smart. Mostly because they HAVE to be. They learn to help others and work together. I think if we had more famlies with 3 or more kids society would be better off. It is too easy to spoil just one or 2 kids! (belive me I know.)

DisneyPhD-Just wondering why you feel that families with 3 or more kids would make society better off? Isn't that sort of reverse discrimination? I cannot have more children, but that doesn't make my child less well-behaved or more spoiled than anyone else's. Just thought that was a strange comment.

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!

kerry34-awesome comeback!

 

[DisneyPhD]

DisneyPhD-Just wondering why you feel that families with 3 or more kids would make society better off? Isn't that sort of reverse discrimination? I cannot have more children, but that doesn't make my child less well-behaved or more spoiled than anyone else's. Just thought that was a strange comment.

The point of this thread was not to make comments on people abilties to have kids (or not have kids or in your case more kids) but that people often look at families today with more then the average 2 children as well odd, when truth be told they are often GREAT families that work well together as unit, helping each other and kids learning responibilites. (no of course we can't say this is the case with all larger familes, just like it isn't with all very small families.) As many of the people here with more then 2 kids have pointed out many of them did not come to be part of their family by biologcal conentions, so the ability to have more really isn't the point.

 

[vanreg]

I think that a lot of people just think that it's hardest to go from 2 to 3 kids because you're outnumbered. Personally, I thought #2 was a lot harder than #3. We have 3 girls, 3, 6 & 9.....now we just have people asking when we are having number 4! It seems that they think we should keep trying for a boy.

 

[nliedel]

My in-laws keep asking us how we can afford all these kids? I get tired of that. We are not exactly talking about hundreds here. In for a penny in for a pound I say.

 

[admepo]

I completely understand! I am due with our 4th child - our 4th little boy in April and I get the same all of the time!
Congrats on your new addition and best of luck!

 

[Debbie7452]

I am currently full term with #4 and going in tomorrow for induction. I have gotten many comments but have found it easiest to just laugh when they mention how crazy it is... I tell them with a smile and a chuckle that they are probably right! Even if they meant it in kind of a rude way this turns it around and we all are happy.

Just an idea...because the comments are not going to stop and this helps you keep your stress down. For what it's worth...I found adding number three to be a breeze. It was much harder going from one to two for me. Best of Luck...I ADORE my large family (but this is it, really, I'm stopping at four!)

 

[Grendalynn]

Well, I have to thank you all for the great info, advice, for sharing your experiences, and above all sending the support my way. As sad as it is to say - I am glad that I am not the only one having these experiences. I am soo impressed!

There has been a thread posted about just the opposite as this one. I also want to say that I do not resent anyone for only having one or two children... "To each his/her own." Frankly, when I had just had DS#1 I was only 22. When he was going through the whole "Terrible Two" stage I vowed I would never have any more children, and same last year when DS#2 was in the smae stage... Funny how those things happen. All families are different...

But as I grew older and matured, focused more on my family and children and less on my social life and being 20-something, I came to realize there was still something missing. ((I also stopped worring about what Dear MIL and FIL would think. I knew my family would be happy and supportive))Then when we took our first family vacation to Disney and on a Disney Cruise as just the 4 of us, no extra friends or family members, it became very clear as to just how important our family was and put things into perspective. We needed an addition! And at this point - its doesnt matter if its a boy or a girl, just as long as its healthy. I used to think I have to have a girl, I want a girl so badly. But Boys are so familiar to me now I think it would be a great fit and an automatic adjustment for DS#3! But we wouldn;t love a DD any less...

So, in closing, Thank You again for all of your hugs, Congrats, support, kind words, and most of all "words of wisdom". I never thought I would get so many responses!!! I keep checking in to see what additions have been made to this thread. And by any and all means, please keep posting! Boy, I never realized what a great support system The DIS Boards can be! We arent even planning on going to Disney til after this baby is born (possibly March of '07) and I still find my self spending so much time here! Thanks so much!! I guess now I will start researching the whole Disney Vacation Club idea!!

 

[Disneyenthusiast]

We have 3 now-grown children. Our 3rd was a bit of a surprise. We already had a boy and a girl. It was so nice not even thinking about the sex of the baby and just thinking about having a healthy baby. After you practice on the first two, the third is hardly work at all. You finally know what you are doing and feel comfortable with your decisions. It is true that they want to grow up faster than the older siblings! Enjoy your children and don't let anyone else rain on your parade!

 

[Princessbaby]

I think that a lot of people just think that it's hardest to go from 2 to 3 kids because you're outnumbered. Personally, I thought #2 was a lot harder than #3. We have 3 girls, 3, 6 & 9.....now we just have people asking when we are having number 4! It seems that they think we should keep trying for a boy.

I agree! #2 was so hard because I had to adjust my schedule to fit in everything. With one it was easy because it was just the 1 child and could do things at his pace. #3 was easy because I was already used to juggling and I think her brothers helped me relax about the little things. I can easily sit back and laugh (because sometimes you just have to!) where as before I would stress about the little things!