I wonder if this is supposed to mean anything...

[UrsulasDaBomb]

We've decided to re-tile our bathroom.This morning,DH and I went down to Lowe's Hardware to have the tile we purchased cut to fit in the bathroom.While DH was having the tile cut I wandered over to where the wallpaper samples,borders,etc are kept and I picked up a book of Disney wallpapers with matching borders.For some bizarre reason,I kept looking at this one border with Cinderella and wondered what it would look like in our spare bedroom with a pink paint.SO I ran over to the pain chips and grabbed a handful of about 45 different colors of pink and started comparing the different pinks to the pink in the border.Then I wondered,well,what if I had a boy?I couldn't very well do a pink Cinderella bedroom for a BOY.SO..I flipped to the back where there was a really cute Peter Pan border and compared it with a handful of different green paint chips I picked up.
Could this mean I"m pregnant or is it just wishful thinking?
What do you think?
:-D

UDB

 

[Bumbles]

I'd run right out and pick up a First Response test...I think your hormones are trying to tell you something

 

[Buckalew]

I don't want to be a party pooper but I doubt that it means you are pregnant. I think it means you are ready to have a baby and are thinking towards baby/kids things. They are (toys, clothes etc.) become more interesting when we are wanting to become pregnant. Are you late? My pregnancy test showed positive in somewhere between 1-2 weeks. Good luck!

 

[ratsrule]

I think it means you need to hire an interior decorator

 

[Toby'sFriend]

Somehow I always thought you'd do the baby's room in Goth Ursula. :lol:

 

[Jenzebelle]

Nope.. just means you're thinking about it

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

LOL@ratsrule*
Buckalew...I think you are right.I don't know if I'm pregnant and I won't be late for...*looks at calendar*another three and a half weeks or so.
I dunno...maybe I"m just caving to pressure to produce.My boss,who has a 4 mo old son,keeps telling me how wonderful kids are and how I need to have one before I'm too old.Since WHEN is 24 old?My mother,every single time I talk to her or see her,asks me if I"m pregnant yet.My SIL(Dh's sister)keeps telling me I need to get going because my 'biological clock is running down' she says.I've also been told that because I have fairly irregular cycles it's darn near impossible to get pregnant WITHOUT a dr's help,which I don't want.I also keep wondering if I'm infertile...I'm afraid to go to the dr to find out because if I am it would be a HUGE letdown to EVERYBODY and I can't let everybody down.I have to please everyone.
I was raised to be pleasing and to not please people really gets to me,ya know?
Urgh..I hate this.It's making me nuts...*sighs*
Thanks for listening tho,guys.

UDB

 

[wvjules]

Originally posted by ratsrule
I think it means you need to hire an interior decorator

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

Toby--I don't want to frighten the poor kid.There'll be plenty of time for th at later.Besides..do you know how hard it is to find baby goth accesories,bedsheets for the crib,etc?

UDB

 

[Toby'sFriend]

If you are not late for another 3 1/2 weeks - you are most likely coming up on the time period when you will ovulate. The egg is typically released 1/2 way through your cycle.

So no, most likely you are not pregnant - but it's a good time to "get busy."

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

But I don't KNOW if I'm ovulating,Toby.I think I need to go buy a fertility monitor.My biggest fear is that I'll be trying to get pregnant and turn into one of those bitter,angry women who care about nothing except their cycle and charting their daily basal body temp and standing on their heads to get pregnant.I do NOT want to do that..I don't want to make my life a living hell in the process of getting pregnant.I figure if it's gonna happen,it's gonna happen.If not..oh well.Life goes on.I don't think I'll suffer if I'm childless but I don't think it's totally necessary to have a child either.
Is it WRONG to be ambiguos abouot this?
I wish I knew!
There are no black and white answers,which bugs me because(being a virgo)I am compulsive about keeping thing straight..this is this and that is that and there is no 'inbetween' or 'maybe' or 'possibles'.
Urgh.

UDB

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, if you're only 24, you're hardly over the hill yet as far as childbearing is concerned. Heck, I didn't even get married until I was almost 30!!!!! As far as your family is concerned, tell them to mind their own business!

Your irregular periods may contribute to fertility issues. Perhaps you should see a reproductive endocrinologist, if you haven't already. I know you're reluctant to get all crazy with medical stuff and fear being completely focused on reproductive issues to the exclusion of evrything else, but often, a reproductive problem has a very simple solution. Not all of them are "go right to IVF" or other complicated procedures. Sometimes all it takes is a pill, or some monitoring to determine what's happening when. If you are already aware of some "cycle" problems, you're ahead of the game.

As far as infertiltiy treatment goes, DH and I went through it for 6 years. Unfortunately, we were unable to have children, despite numerous interventions and procedures. However, we were very careful not to let it rule our lives. I was vigilant about not getting crazed by temp taking etc, and when I felt that it was becoming a problem, we would back off for a while. While we are disappointed at not having children, it is not the end of life. There are many ways to be important in the life of a child besides being a parent, and there are times when a child needs someone who is a trusted adult other than a parent to turn to. I know our siblings and friends have always been happy to know that their children felt comfortable enough around us that they would turn to us with a problem, if they were for some reason fearful of going to their parents. I also think our siblings trust our judgement enbough to know that we wouldn't steer their children wrong, and if their children were really in danger, we would tell them. Thjat is an imporatnt position oo. The upside to not having children is that we are pretty free to come and go as we please, which is nice, and there is a whole host of problems we will never have to deal with.

Ursula, the universe will unfold as it should, and while we don't always understand the reasons for things, there are reasons, and good ones. Keep in mind, I am at "this place" many years after I began infertility treatments. It is a process, going through it, dealing with it, and accepting the end result.

PM me if you'd like to discuss this more. Good luck and prayers for you!!!!

 

[luvwinnie]

if I am confusing you with someone else. I thought you were in the "Childfree by Choice" group....or did I miss something?

Either way...wish you much luck!!

 

[Serena]

Ursula, just have fun. No charts or monitors until it's neccessary.

I heard every other day is a good thing.

 

[Kermit]

Even if you aren't pregnant, there's nothing wrong with getting ready early. We painted and papered our nursery before I got pregnant. I didn't really want to smell the fumes while I was pregnant (both because of safety concerns and the simple fact that pregnancy kicks your sense of smell into overdrive and makes you get nauseated easily, so you can see how that could be disasterous). We chose a gender neutral bug theme. I did wait to buy the crib, stroller, etc. until I was in my second trimester.

Have fun! Even if you don't get started decorating right away, planning is fun.

 

[DocRafiki]

My boss,who has a 4 mo old son,keeps telling me how wonderful kids are and how I need to have one before I'm too old.Since WHEN is 24 old?My mother,every single time I talk to her or see her,asks me if I"m pregnant yet.My SIL(Dh's sister)keeps telling me I need to get going because my 'biological clock is running down' she says.

GEEEEZ... I'll be 29 next week (yep another virgo), and no one is even prodding me to find a boyfriend!!!

If you want, I've got a whole lot of "I'm not here to please anybody else" attitude that you can borrow.

Luvwinnie, you can be childfree by choice for a time and then decide to have children later. Maybe she's turned "to the dark side."

 

[WDW2002]

Originally posted by UrsulasDaBomb
LI don't know if I'm pregnant and I won't be late for...*looks at calendar*another three and a half weeks or so.

While, I highly doubt your are pregnant if you are not at least half way through your cycle. I think the cute mickey crib/room sets are TOO cute and I KNOW I am not pregnant and I don't intend to either. Sometimes, cute baby things are just that cute baby things.

Sit back and relax, let nature take its course.

 

[LuvN~Travel]

Don't bet on that 'irregularity' problem making it difficult to get pregnant. I have two kids, both after irregular times, and may have miscarried one before the first one was conceived. Of course after I had the second one, I became the most regular person of all times!
Kim

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

Thanks for advice and everything you guys.I checked the calendar again,redid the math,and I am now 1 1/2 weeks away(supposedly..if everything goes right and this is not a 40 day cycle as it was last month..you never know with my cycles!)away from the first day of Aunt Flow.
Is it normal,when you get pregnant,to have your breasts feel heavier,more sensitive,etc?I've heard that it is but I don't know anything about it!!About a week ago,I started noticing that my breasts are feeling heavier than normal(I'm a 38 Dcup..they're ALWAYS heavy!!:-D)and seemed to be a little sensitive.Of course it may be me overreacting or something but I'm still unsure.
I have NOT seen a reproductive endricinologist yet because i'm not sure if insurance will pay for it.If insurance doesn't pay,I don't go.
I'm trying to concetrate on breathing deeply and just letting nature take it's course.I'm an excellent cyber-aunt to my two beautiful nieces who live in Kansas.I try to live a good life.
Thanks for listening,again.

Gail(UDB)

 

[Serena]

Ursula, um yes that does seem to happen a lot. But that also happens each month too, for at least some of us.