I want to cancel my Disney Trip.......

[powellrj]

We have been planning a trip to Disney for our 25th wedding aniversary. We just found out that the day of our aniversary (June 10th) is the day our ds goes to basic training. I want to cancel our trip, but my ds and dh are angry everytime I even bring it up. Our other children are 6 and 11 is why my dh and ds don't want us to cancel the trip. We will be leaving on June 9, but I am just not sure I can put on a happy face for everyone. Thanks for letting me vent....no one wants to talk about it around our house.

 

[FantasticDisFamily]

I'm not speaking from experience here because my oldest is only a freshman in high school. But as I read your post one thought occured to me...what would make this step easier for son?

To see YOU off on a long planned for and anticipated trip and then head out himself? Or to have you "at the station" so to speak seeing him off?

Deb

 

[SuiteDisney]

Don't cancel! Your son is joining the service to defend our country, so that you have the safety and freedom to be able to go to WDW. I think you would be honoring him by going.

 

[nativetxn]

Oh honey, I can't even imagine what it must be like to send a son off to the military.

I must echo FantasticDisFamily, on this topic. Which would be easier for your son? Is the son leaving for basic the one who is upset about you cancelling the trip?

Is there any way for you to leave a day later?

Tough times and difficult decisions. Let us know what you decide.

Katholyn

 

[dandave]

If I were going to BT, I would want my family to keep their vacation plans. If they cancelled because of me, then I would feel guilty. I'd be much happier, if I didn't have the burden on my shoulders of thinking I caused the cancellation.

 

[helenabear]

Originally posted by dandave
If I were going to BT, I would want my family to keep their vacation plans. If they cancelled because of me, then I would feel guilty. I'd be much happier, if I didn't have the burden on my shoulders of thinking I caused the cancellation.

Dandave said exactly what I was going to say. I cannot imagine what this is like for you though, but I say you ought to keep with your trip {{hugs}}

 

[Goofyposter]

this all has to be hard on you....{{{HUGS}}}....

...however....two thoughts....if your son who is the one that is going to BT...and the rest of your family feels it's unreasonable to cancel your plans.....then...personally....I'd suggest you accept their opinions...and go...and have a good time....knowing that those who love you.....want your "life" to "go on"

 

[jamsmom]

I agree with what has been said, but {{{HUGS}}} what a hard decision. You must be very proud of your brave young man.

 

[PamOKW]

You are going to be upset whether you are home or you are at WDW. A change of scenery would probably be just what you need at this time. If the day you leave is literally the same day you are saying goodbye to your son, I would look into pushing it back a day. Other than that, I think your family is right. Knowing that you are sitting around the house crying is not going to do anything to help your son.

 

[C.Ann]

I would leave a day later.. That way you can see your son off, have a bit of time to deal with your sadness - yet still go on your vacation - knowing that this is what he would want..

Hugs to you - your son - and your entire family..
C.Ann

 

[powellrj]

thanks for all of your posts. I never thought how it would make him feel if we were to cancel. He told me yesterday that because we are leaving a day before he does, it will give him time with his buddies before he leaves. I will take him at his word, it may be easier on him if we get our goodbyes out of the way before hand. Thanks again for all your posts....

 

[Tiggerkeeper]

Whew! powellrj I sent my oldest off to Parris Island, SC 5 months ago for Marine boot camp and your post just sent a wave of emotion all over me. Go to Disney, don't cancel your trip. You'll need that distraction the first few days. And your son does need to tell his buddies goodbye, I never realized how important those buddies were before he left for boot. When our son left his goodbye to me was about as warm as a hand shake. Later he said he didn't want me to fall apart because then he would too!!

If you ever need a shoulder or even a laugh feel free to PM me!

Hugs to you and your son!

Melissa

 

[vicnmickey]

I tell you from experience, don't cancel your vacation. Military strive on others, we serve so you can have a better life. Thats why we raise our right hand and pledge to our country so our fellow Americans can live in freedom. Go and enjoy your vacation with your younger kids and wear a smile on your face knowing your oldest is serving a wonderful country. God bless you and your family!!!!!