i want to ask my aunt for a date

[shouldiask]

yeh that would be wierd for them....... more then wierd

expecially since im not from the south
yes it will be weird. most likely she will say no and we wont even go out on 1 date. but i hope not

 

[shouldiask]

I think, if a marriage occurred, you would become the step-father to your own nieces?

That might be uncomfortable for them as teenagers. Would they call you "Uncle" or "Dad" or

no they are my cousins. so if by slight chance we get married they will be my stepdaughters and my cousins

 

[kathie859]

i wish i was a kid again im almost 41. it would be nice to be a teenager again.

Chronological age: 41
Emotional maturity age: 14

 

[Thumper_Man]

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt about being serious. Others are quick to judge whether something on here is real or not.

If you really like her and are willing to deal with the controversy that will come with asking her out, then I would say wait until after the divorce. Technically she is still married to your uncle. Although your uncle cheated on her, IMO this would make it cheating on him. Again, they are still married until the divorce becomes final. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Plus if you ask her now, she may say yes just to get back at him. What better way to get back at him then to date his nephew. It wouldn't be fair to you, or your uncle. You wouldn't know if she was saying yes because she liked you; or if she said yes to get back at your uncle.

 

[Belle0101]

no they are my cousins. so if by slight chance we get married they will be my stepdaughters and my cousins

I stand corrected, the children of an aunt/uncle are indeed your cousins. My apologies.

Still, I think it could well be uncomfortable for teen girls. IMO.

 

[bdcp]

no they are my cousins. so if by slight chance we get married they will be my stepdaughters and my cousins

Don't even go there. Someone your age should know better. This is wrong on so many levels.

 

[shouldiask]

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt about being serious. Others are quick to judge whether something on here is real or not.

If you really like her and are willing to deal with the controversy that will come with asking her out, then I would say wait until after the divorce. Technically she is still married to your uncle. Although your uncle cheated on her, IMO this would make it cheating on him. Again, they are still married until the divorce becomes final. Two wrongs don't make a right.

Plus if you ask her now, she may say yes just to get back at him. What better way to get back at him then to date his nephew. It wouldn't be fair to you, or your uncle. You wouldn't know if she was saying yes because she liked you; or if she said yes to get back at your uncle.

thankyou i like your saying at the end of your posts it could go for this.
the biggest mistake you can make in your life is being too afraid to make one,

 

[nathalee81]

I think there should be a rule. NO controversial threads unless you have at least 500 posts. Enough of this "posting under an alias" nonsense. If what you have to post is SO controversial that you are embarassed to put your name to it, then you have no business posting it on the net.

And what fun would that be?

I don't know if this is a troll or not, but as my husband says "it takes all kinds..."

To the OP, I think you are asking for trouble. Leave well enough alone and search for a mate outside your family circle. I just think it is going to cause alot of problems for your family, okay? Good luck to you.

 

[Magic Mom]

thankyou to the few people who seriously answered my question. if you think its ok do you think i should wait until the divorce is final or will it be ok now to ask her?

If you are serious, then no you should not ask her out. She has children, and that's not something you should put kids through.

No teen wants to know their mom is dating their cousin. Hopefully she would turn you down just for that reason alone.

 

[december]

When I first read your thread, I was picturing you and your aunt as 20 somethings, and the marriage to your uncle a brief one. But with the kids ages, it is obvious this woman has been your aunt for the better part of 2 decades. I can't imagine your family ever being ok with this situation.

Of course, I was much more sympathetic to your situation before you made that ignorant crack about the south.

 

[AlternateEgo]

 

[bellebud]

If this is a real post - then OP... like a pp, I at first also thought you and your soon-to-be-ex Aunt were maybe 20-somethings, and maybe your uncle was older, and it was a brief marriage. But her and your uncle having 2 teen girls, your cousins, then no, I'd say don't ask her out. I think it would be hard on your cousins... the divorce is probably hard enough, then to have mom 'date' their cousin... too much.

 

[dislaney]

I really think you should try and find someone else to ask out. If you really feel it necessary to ask your aunt out, please at least wait until the divorce is final. Hopefully she will have enough sense to say no.

I'm sorry op but there are some feelings you just don't act on, it's not like she is the last female left on the planet. Good luck whatever you decide.

 

[shouldiask]

I should of said this before but he is only a half uncle. my mom and him have the same mother but not the same father. so technically she is only a half aunt and the girls are only half cousins. I do think of my uncle and all of them as being fully related thou. so does this make it better or is it still bad to ask?

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

Assuming this is real (highly unlikely) my answer is.....good god no

Even taking your Uncle's feelings out of the equation, you are still left with too many people who will be left angry, upset, grossed out and/or just totally appalled at you and the Aunt.

No relationship is worth breaking up an entire family. Just because your Uncle was stupid enough not to know this doesn't mean you should follow in his foot steps.

 

[december]

Wow. As someone with 2 half sisters and 2 half brothers, no, this doesn't matter at all.

I don't think you are going to listen to what anyone says though.

If this was someone who was married to your uncle for a matter of months, I could see your side. But as I said before, this woman has lived as your aunt (none of that silly "half-aunt" stuff please) for 2 decades. She is family, pure and simple.

Just the thought of my niece (technically my "half-niece") dating my husband, who has been her uncle for 15 yrs of marriage.......OMG there are no words for that!

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I should of said this before but he is only a half uncle. my mom and him have the same mothers but not the same fathers. so technically she is only a half aunt and the girls are only half cousins. I do think of my uncle and all of them as being fully related thou. so does this make it better or is it still bad to ask?

The fact that she has kids with your Uncle (half or full) makes this seem like a real bad idea. I had assumed that this was a short relationship with no children involved. My guess is that she will definitely turn you down, unless you have reason to believe otherwise.

 

[Magic Mom]

I should of said this before but he is only a half uncle. my mom and him have the same mother but not the same father. so technically she is only a half aunt and the girls are only half cousins. I do think of my uncle and all of them as being fully related thou. so does this make it better or is it still bad to ask?

The bottom line is that this woman is the mother of some of your relatives! No matter how you try to justify it, it isn't right to date her. Her kids are your cousins.

 

[dislaney]

I should of said this before but he is only a half uncle. my mom and him have the same mother but not the same father. so technically she is only a half aunt and the girls are only half cousins. I do think of my uncle and all of them as being fully related thou. so does this make it better or is it still bad to ask?

The plot thickens!

No it doesn't make it any better. Aren't there other women in town that you are not related to that you could date?

 

[minkydog]

thankyou
someone thinks its ok

thankyou
i will never know unless i try.

Clearly, you are only interested in answers confirming your warped thinking.

thats what im afraid of especially with my uncle. if she says no i hope she keeps it to herself and doesnt tell anyone.

Oh, I definitely think she *should* pass on this little bit of gossip. It's gonna be the biggest scandal in your family history. And for the record, bad behavior isn't limited to "people in the south", as you imply.

thankyou to the few people who seriously answered my question. if you think its ok do you think i should wait until the divorce is final or will it be ok now to ask her?

Oh, go ahead and ask her now. What are you waiting for? You have no scruples, no conscience to bother you. Just don't be surprised if you get a LOT of push-back and outright HORROR from the people you purportedly love and respect.

Chronological age: 41
Emotional maturity age: 14

Isn't that the truth. Can you say MIDLIFE CRISIS?