I really need a hug...

[RitaZ.]

I can't stop crying...

As some of you know, my two younger children were moved to another school. On Thursday, DD brought home a letter letting K parents know that the administration had decided to create another K class to relieve overcrowding in the other K classes. I immediately called her teacher, left her a message and also sent a letter explaining my DD's situation to her. In my letter, I pointed out that I wanted DD to remain in her class, as this was her second K class and second school in less than 3 weeks. I spoke to the teacher the following morning and she told me it shouldn't be a problem for DD to stay in her class.

I figured all was well... DD has been sick, so she didn't go to school yesterday or today.

About 30 minutes ago, I got a call from the Assistant Principal telling me that DD has been chosen to go the new class. I asked him if he read the letter that I sent (silence from him), then I explained in details. Well, he didn't care. He said that children are very resilient at this age and adapt very quickly. You know, the usual bs response. The decision has been made and they expect our support. I told him that I wasn't happy with this decision and that it obviously was made for us. He said that I should speak to DD about this new change in a positive way (her third teacher in 3 weeks, 2 different schools). I told him that the conversation that we were having was between us and that my DD in no way would know of my feelings.

So, here it is... another slap in the face courtesy of the public school system (trust me, I have had many). I'm fed up... I can't stop crying... I guess I feel betrayed more than anything.

Over the years, I have had so many instances where I have been shown by school officials and administrators how little they care. The most caring people in schools that I have met are the teachers. My friend calls me Pollyanna, I'm always looking for the positive things in life. I'm upset with myself for always giving these morons the benefit of the doubt and think that they'll make the best decision for my children. DH already called the principal, but she is busy breaking the news to the other parents. Oh joy!

My face is beet red from all the crying and now I have to go pick up my boys. I'm putting on my sunglasses to cover up the redness and I'm not getting out of the van.

 

[delswife]

(((Hugs))) That stinks, I'm sorry.

 

[julie_yet]

[color=3300ff]I'd probably be upset too. {{{Hugs}}}[/color]

 

[Disney Ella]

Sorry you are going through this. It is hard to fight for your child when the people who are supposed to care don't. I would guess that your daughter is the only (or at least one of only a few) children who have switched classrooms. I can't understand why they couldn't keep her in the same classroom, knowing the situation. I have to agree that teachers are often the most caring people in the school and want to help but are stymied by rules.

 

[Pop Daddy]

kids are so much tougher then us, she will be ok

 

[browneyes]

{{hugs}} When does she have to move to the other class?

 

[SuiteDisney]

(((hugs))) for you and DD. I hope this third teacher turns out to be the best teacher of the group.

 

[CamColt]

Oh that does stink! And I dont blame you for being upset, especially after the letter and being told it would work out ok.

If this makes you feel better, DS started full day K last year. He usually has a hard time warming up to people and doesnt like change(gets that from me ). But anyway, the previous spring I found out one of the K teachers was pregnant with twins and I really didnt want him to end up in her class because I knew there would be some changes. Of course he did, and he had a new substitute for the first half of the year and then the teacher he had previously met(the one who had the twins) for the second half. All in all, he did very well with it. It wasnt a problem. I think I had more a problem than he did, LOL!
And again, while I do feel your pain, a smaller class at this age is really a great thing. DS's K classes had 25 & 24 kids in them and they were wild! The parents all fought for a 3rd class to be added this year for 1st and we got it. In speaking to his current teacher Im learning that none of the kids are up to par on their printing skills mainly because the teachers couldnt take the time to teach them last year. Also we got a report that a study was done and small class sizes this early on leads to the kids being 2 grade levels ahead in HS(something like that), so look at the bright side.
Hang in there!

 

[binny]

(((hugs)))

Im sorry youre having such a hard time with it. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[Mishetta]

Rita Z. ~ look at all you've accomplished so far! I'm sure that this move will only benefit your child. Don't feel so bad. I'm sure there will be others from her class that will be moved with her so she won't feel alone. I honestly think she'll do fine. I do totally understand your fustration though!

Things are the same all over though. We have our son in private school & (even tho it hasn't happened to our son ~ yet) decisions have been made regarding children that have upset the parents but no changes were made once Administration made their decison. Sometimes it really is for the best. Truthfully, I wish our son's class would be cut down ~ there are 30 students in EACH class through 8th grade, with one teacher & NO helper. Yet each year there is an opening for 80 students & about 350 apply ~ go figure!

Good luck Rita. Go do something nice for yourself & just see how it goes. It's amazing how fast younger children adapt to change.

((((hugs)))) Rose (P.S. Remember that Helen Reddy song??!!)

 

[RitaZ.]

The other kids met the new teacher today, DD was absent because she is sick. The change is effective as of tomorrow. DH called the principal and she told him that our DD had met her new teacher today. DH asked her how that could as DD is at home sick. She never read or heard anything about the letter and told DH she wasn't aware of our situation. Why do I even bother? If parents behave this way, then they are called uninvolved and uncaring.

I understand that these changes can occur at the beginning of every school year, but this is a bit much. The assistant principal didn't care, he has the charm of a porcupine. I have 3 kids in public schools and I'm not new to this whole public school bureaucracy thing. I think I have reached the end of my rope, I can't take much more of their bs. I will start looking into private schools for next year.

The new class will have 20 students, I'm not sure if that is considered small or large in other parts of the country. It will probably increase as the year continues. We will have a phone conference with the principal in a few minutes.

 

[JAP]

{{HUGS}} I would be upset too! Hang in there and be up beat about the situation.

 

[RitaZ.]

What's that old saying? Last one in, first one out. I guess my DD has to pay her "dues" for having been reassigned to the school. At least, that's what the principal hinted at. She said that I "should" have been told that this was a possibility when I registered my children. Of course, nothing was mentioned to me about this. Why am I not surprised?

The previous class had 25 kids, will now have 22. The new class will have 19 students, but as new students come into the school they will be added to this class. So much for a smaller class size...

 

[zurgswife]

Good Luck...not sure what else to say as I haven't ever had to deal with any public school system...

 

[tiggerlover]

{{{{{ Rita }}}}}

I am sorry your daughter has to go through this. As a parent I would be upset too. I hope things get better and I hope your DD absolutely loves her new class. I know it is cliche, but I believe everything happens for a reason, so maybe there is a wonderful reason your DD is being reassigned. Hang in there mom and don't stop advocating for your children!

 

[FloridaCat]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} and PD

 

[FreshTressa]

(great big giant HUGS) I feel your pain! It is so annoying...you pay taxes for THIS kind of treatment.

I hate the PS system,and it gets worse every year with budget cuts.

I cry all the time too at having to send my DS. We will probably eventually homeschool, but he likes it now. He is just bored.

 

[Kitty 34]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

 

[nativetxn]

I'm sorry