I really don't like you.

[npmommie]

. And I couldn't have done it on my facebook because my mother would be responding: Who is it? What did they do? Why are you mad at them? Is it me?...

Thats what I was going to say

 

[Uncle Remus]

I'm afraid they'd have a few possibilities today. But seriously, it was not intended that way. It really was cathartic to type it out and hit submit. And I couldn't have done it on my facebook because my mother would be responding: Who is it? What did they do? Why are you mad at them? Is it me?...

 

[sunnyday123]

At least you recognize it's passive-aggressive.

I always think passive-aggressive is better than a punch in the face.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I always think passive-aggressive is better than a punch in the face.

I like passive-aggressive. It always makes people flustered enough to bring out the rolling eyes.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I always think passive-aggressive is better than a punch in the face.

Truth.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I always think passive-aggressive is better than a punch in the face.

This is why I can't deal with women!

 

[Carly_Roach]

This is why I can't deal with women!

Me, neither. I usually wind up inadvertently pissing them off even more.

The one P/A tactic that stands out for me was when an acquaintence (who was more of friend of a friend) found out at the last minute that a group of us had planned to go somewhere and we only had space/tickets for the four of us. She happened to be at the place we were departing from and I walked into her whole P/A thing cold:

Her: Well, I guess y'all don't need me around for this. I'll be happy to go home and clip coupons and clean the house I guess.

Me: Oh thank God! I'm so relieved to hear you feel that way, Sally. We only had room for four. It's good to know that you had something else planned for today and won't be sitting home feeling bad. I feel so much better now! See you when we get back!

Sally never wanted to have anything to do with me again. I had to ask one of our other friends why I never saw her around anymore and she explained it to me. I just don't get P/A. I take people at face value and say what I mean. Maybe what I said sounds P/A in retrospect, but it wasn't meant that way.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Me, neither. I usually wind up inadvertently pissing them off even more.

The one P/A tactic that stands out for me was when an acquaintence (who was more of friend of a friend) found out at the last minute that a group of us had planned to go somewhere and we only had space/tickets for the four of us. She happened to be at the place we were departing from and I walked into her whole P/A thing cold:

Her: Well, I guess y'all don't need me around for this. I'll be happy to go home and clip coupons and clean the house I guess.

Me: Oh thank God! I'm so relieved to hear you feel that way, Sally. We only had room for four. It's good to know that you had something else planned for today and won't be sitting home feeling bad. I feel so much better now! See you when we get back!

Sally never wanted to have anything to do with me again. I had to ask one of our other friends why I never saw her around anymore and she explained it to me. I just don't get P/A. I take people at face value and say what I mean. Maybe what I said sounds P/A in retrospect, but it wasn't meant that way.

That must be difficult.

 

[Carly_Roach]

That must be difficult.

Not really. I've gotten used to apologizing when people don't get me. But on the other hand, I know who my real friends are and they know that I never mean harm. I simply don't have the skills to be P/A. Never did.

On the flip side, my friends know they can trust me. When someone confides in me and says "Tell no one", I follow that to the letter. Not even my pastor or my DH will find it out from me. When people want to know what everyone's actually thinking but are too polite to say, they'll ask me. If you were to ask me how a dress looked on you, I'll be the one to speak right up and say:

"No, your butt looks HUGE in that dress. Let's pick another one."

I'm not telling you that you have a fat asset. You could be a size 2 and I'd say the same thing if the dress looked bad on you. I'm telling you that I know you want to look good, I want that for you too because I love you, and I'm going to do everything I can to help you get what you want.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Not really. I've gotten used to apologizing when people don't get me. But on the other hand, I know who my real friends are and they know that I never mean harm. I simply don't have the skills to be P/A. Never did.

On the flip side, my friends know they can trust me. When someone confides in me and says "Tell no one", I follow that to the letter. Not even my pastor or my DH will find it out from me. When people want to know what everyone's actually thinking but are too polite to say, they'll ask me. If you were to ask me how a dress looked on you, I'll be the one to speak right up and say:

"No, your butt looks HUGE in that dress. Let's pick another one."

I'm not telling you that you have a fat asset. You could be a size 2 and I'd say the same thing if the dress looked bad on you. I'm telling you that I know you want to look good, I want that for you too because I love you, and I'm going to do everything I can to help you get what you want.

I wonder if you got in trouble a lot when you were younger for "being sarcastic" when you really weren't.

I tend to take things literally, too. And I, also do not divulge secrets. If I tell you I won't tell anyone, I won't tell anyone. I'm the same way with schedules and saying I'll do something with someone. Sometimes it can be hard for me to tell if someone really is wanting to hang out with me versus them just saying so to be polite (as in "we should go to lunch" or "let's get together sometime," etc).

 

[njmom47]

Ok, I really don't like the lady from the corporate customer service department that just called me. She is very condescending. ewww

 

[BeefJerky]

What'd I do?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Ok, I really don't like the lady from the corporate customer service department that just called me. She is very condescending. ewww

See, now don't you feel better?

 

[Liberty Belle]

What'd I do?

You make me feel like I'm going to break a tooth.

 

[happygirl]

Can't we all just get along LOL LOL LOL

 

[njmom47]

THIS is why I'm on the DIS when I really should be working!

 

[BeefJerky]

You make me feel like I'm going to break a tooth.

Cause I'm so sweet?

 

[njmom47]

What'd I do?

Now, THAT reminds me of a sketch from Mad TV!

 

[sunnyday123]

I like passive-aggressive. It always makes people flustered enough to bring out the rolling eyes.

Now, some good old fashioned sarcasm is really good!!!

 

[dislaney]

Now, some good old fashioned sarcasm is really good!!!

Sarcasm on the disboards, never happen!