I posted on FB by mistake about my son being gay..family did not know

[mamita]

I made a stupid mistake. I was signing the petition for the gay boy who is being thrown off the scouts for being gay and i left a comment that stated " for those that frown upon us for our son being gay I say '"my son is in a top school studing to become a nuclear engineer, does comunity work on his spare time and has the best heart" ...what is your son doing? " ..I had no idea that it was going to be posted in my facebook page. the thing is that although my son does not care if everybody knows ( my whole family knows) my husband's family is another story. they are closed minded so we decided not to deny it if they ask but not to come out and say it. I am very proud of our son but this is not the way i wanted to let EVERYBODY know. I erased my comment because this was not the way i inteded it to be and I hate the thought of judment from even people who I haven't seen since high school and who don't even know my son!! sorry.. I just had to vent! I called my DH and he just said that it is out there no use being sorry for but I know it's hard for him since he works with his family and we live in a very small country where everybody is in everybody's buisness.

 

[robsmom]

Best Case: No one saw it and your son knows that you are really proud of him.

Worst Case: Your son and a whole bunch of other people know that you are really proud of him.

I am sure this is hard for your husband and I know that you feel bad, but.. showing support for your son is an awesome thing to do and I think both your husband and son will understand that.

 

[mamita]

thank you!. I do appreciate you saying that. My husband is back from work and I was expecting him to be a little upset at me but he just gave it no mind at all. we ARE really proud of our son and feel blessed that he trusted us at a very early age to come out to us. It is so amazing how closed minded we as human beings can be, my son strugled so many years here to feel accepted and lost his best friend when he came out and now that he is at school in berkeley he is happy and even moved out from the dorms and is sharing an apartment with his straight roommate.

 

[DVCDan36]

My initial reaction is "if you are making it an issue, it's an issue." I know you are trying to protect your son and family, but remember they are going to found out sooner or later. As you said, if it is brought up, then you would not deny it. Your son is going to bring home someone one day and family are going to figure out that "John" is more than a "friend".

Just let it go, support your son the best that you can, and not worry about other people, it is their problem not yours.

 

[quasar4legs]

Your son sounds like a wonderful young man with parents who love him and are proud of the person he has become.

Extended Family have the opportunity to love your son and celebrate the fact that he enriches their lives. If they see it any other way then there is nothing you can do other than feel sorry for them.


Hugs to your family