I never did get to go to HHN this past weekend

[A Mickeyfan]

My plans for HHN this weekend never did happen. My first set of plans for going in the first weekend of HHN, my mom ended up in the hospital. She had been fighting cancer since July 1999. My aunt and cousins were down from NY so instead of a real "fun" trip, we took turns going to the hospital to see my mom. The next planned weekend I had for HHN was going to be the 26th. That was my DD's birthday weekend. Those plans were canceled too. I am not sure if any of you go on the Coping and Compassion Board, but my mom ended up loosing her battle with cancer. She died on Oct 10th. Her services were Oct 24th. My DD's were not in the mood to go to HHN, my sister whom I had talked into going with us (as well as her family) didn't want to go either. My son, who actually decided he was going to go before my mom died, changed his mind as well. I have admit, I wanted to go, does that sound strange? I wanted some normalcy in our lives. I thought we needed to have some time to spend as a family (me & my sister) at a place where we could try to have a good time. My sister's DD was the only one in agreement with me. We did not go and are not going at all. There is always next year.

My sister's DD actually had a ticket for Oct 10th (to go with friends), and Universal did refund her money when my sister called them to explain what was happening. My mom was moved to a Hospice on Oct 6th, Oct 9th my sister called to ask about a refund explaining to them the situation. They were very nice about it and placed the credit back on her charge card.

I did not have to get a refund on any tickets since I ended up holding of purchasing them. I am glad I did. When I saw my mom ended up in the hosptial and she fell out remission, I had a sinking feeling this time she would not pull thru...

My mom went fast, she found out in Sept that she fell out of remission (In the 9 years, she fell out of remission 4 times, this was the 4th). She went into the hospital on Sept 17th, Hospice Oct 6th, by Oct 10th she passed away. She is in a better place now & not suffering. Lung Cancer is horrible. She was not able to breath at the end. If any of you guys are smokers, please consider stopping for you & your loved ones

 

[patster734]

I'm extremely sorry to hear about your loss. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[macraven]

i'm sorry you lost your mother. i know this is a very difficult time for you.
it is not easy to let go of a loved one.

i do understand wanting to return to normalcy and spend time with your family.

hopefully you can plan for next year for attending hhn.

in the meantime, maybe you will be able to have the family all together for the upcoming thanksgiving holiday and christmas.

you are in my prayers.

 

[Metro West]

I'm so sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Like you said...she's in a better place w/o any pain or suffering.

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[A Mickeyfan]

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. My sister and I have ressies for Thanksgiving weekend (Wed-Sun) to go to Universal (off property). We were taking my mother and uncle. I asked my sister if she wanted to keep the ressies. She said yes to that. She felt that staying home would hurt more since my mom was the one that always did the cooking. This year will actually be our second year to go to Universal for Turkey Day. We did it last year too. I think what we should do is make that our new tradition (for both of our families). My uncle doesn't want to go, but he didn't want to go before this happened. He may go up to NY to see the rest of our family.

Next weekend I am going up to my sister's to do more cleaning out of my mom's house. Maybe we might take a ride to Universal for the day. I have a 4 day weekend from work (and DD has off of school). It's just about an hours drive from there. I just need to talk my sister into going with us

I know we have a long road of healing ahead of us and it will take time. The pain will never go away, it will just get easier. The sooner we start to live our lives the way we were, the sooner we will start to heal. Laughter is just as important in the healing as the tears......but I don't think my sister is seeing that just yet.

 

[lorivegas]

OMG! I SO know what u r going through and my heart just pours out sympathy to you and your family! Listen, you will be VERY glad that u DIDN'T go. When my mom was sicker than I realized... on my moms INSISTANCE, I went to the other place , Walt D. the "happiest place on earth", and I just COULD NOT "enjoy" myself... EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY made me think of my mom. I really just wanted to go home! It was just a horrible time... I cried, I lost my husbands fairly expensive new camera/lg. memory card and bag, I had JUST purchased for his birthday.... my brain just wasn't functioning like it should have. ANYWAY... believe me , soon enough, the tears from memories of your mom will turn to smiles and laughter ,I truly believe that this is HER way of "connecting "to you !

 

[A Mickeyfan]

OMG! I SO know what u r going through and my heart just pours out sympathy to you and your family! Listen, you will be VERY glad that u DIDN'T go. When my mom was sicker than I realized... on my moms INSISTANCE, I went to the other place , Walt D. the "happiest place on earth", and I just COULD NOT "enjoy" myself... EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY made me think of my mom. I really just wanted to go home! It was just a horrible time... I cried, I lost my husbands fairly expensive new camera/lg. memory card and bag, I had JUST purchased for his birthday.... my brain just wasn't functioning like it should have. ANYWAY... believe me , soon enough, the tears from memories of your mom will turn to smiles and laughter ,I truly believe that this is HER way of "connecting "to you !

I have a feeling that may have been what would have happened if we went. Something would have reminded us of her and tears would have started.
I think that maybe there was a reason why the things happened the way they did and I ended up not going. Maybe she was watching out over us and had we gone, something may have happened to us.. who knows....

As far as me trying to go next weekend, that is out now too... I spoke to my sister and she forgot, it's her DD's homecoming weekend. I think it is safe to say, we will just be at Universal for Thanksgiving.

You are right about memories and tears.... and connecting.

 

[donaldduck352]

I do frequently visit the coping and commpasion board,and been watching that thread for a while.They are some great people on that board..

So sorry to hear of the outcome.We all here are here for you in the time of mornin.and including me thoughts and prayers from us also