I need an honest opinion

[badblackpug]

The children still all get to go to Disney, so I don't really see a huge problem. Really the option I see that makes sense is to invite the kids on your trip too. Usually that's what you do with step children so they don't feel left out. However, I would assume that would tick the mom off even more because then the wind would be knocked out of her sails vacation wise.

I would tell her "We're sorry if our vacation plans have upset you. Normally we would ask the children to accompany us, but since you had a Disney vacation already planned we didn't want to step on your toes."

I do think that you should be willing to take them if it becomes an option. Otherwise I can see how your timing might be seen as a way out taking his kids on the trip.

Yes, very good idea. I would talk to the kids, explain to them that this year they are going with their mom and your son is going with you, but that next year you can all go together. Tell them to pay a lot of attention when they go, so that they can help you plan all their favorite things for next year, and your son will do the same. That gives you one nice, big family project to work on together!

 

[jj1403]

I honestly don't see the problem. Isn't your DBF's-Ex taking her kids the week after? I could see the problem if her kids weren't going at all....but really I think it's a non issue.

Plus to get your DBF's kids excited you could bring them back an autograph book or something that they could use on their trip.

 

[DisneyMomma81]

He is not my child's father, but I definitely can't go alone. I have considered it, but it's not a possibility. It's an 11 hour drive making good time. I couldn't drive all that way by myself, not to mention that I do not drive on the interstate (I'm a nervous driver) and my vision isn't the best. Flying isnt a possibility either as it's not in the budget.

The 3 of us visited Seattle Oct. '08 ~ I did all the driving. I'm sure you could drive to FL but I don't think you "need" to go without your BF. Have fun.

 

[sarcasticfiesta]

The 3 of us visited Seattle Oct. '08 ~ I did all the driving. I'm sure you could drive to FL but I don't think you "need" to go without your BF. Have fun.

Well thanks for the confidence, but you've apparently never experienced my driving skills (or lack thereof) Not only would I not make that drive alone, no one in my family would allow me to. I made a four hour drive once to evacuate for a hurricane (note that it was possibly a life or death situation) and I was a nervous wreck afterwards.

Thanks everyone for your opinions and great advice. We are going ahead with the trip. We've explained everything to the kids and promised to bring back lots of souvenirs for the two who aren't coming, there wasn't one frown when we told them, so I think it'll work out ok. All three of them are pretty laid back, great kids. Now I can start frantically trying to plan this trip in the next 2 1/2 weeks . I'm ususally planning at least a year in advance. Wish me luck.