I'm sorry it's stressful for you, that's no fun!
So, we didn't make a ton of ADR's, we don't like to be tied down to restaurants and we find a lot of good quick service options. Another thing is we are fine sitting in bar areas of restaurants - no reservations usually, maybe an option for you?
But for the ADR's we did make we picked our parks for each day, then planned where we wanted to eat from there. For you, just do the opposite! I don't think it will be that hard, do you have hoppers or will you just plan to be in the same park you will eat at? I think I've been reading at 60 days out it's easy to get the times you want for most rides.
I have an estimation of the times we would like to try for with our fast passes, so if we get near that time, I'll be happy.
And then that's it. I won't look back, rethink selections, none of it. I will make my fast pass reservations and then enjoy the 60 days leading up to the trip. I think that's key to de-stressing, just be confident in your plans that you make and enjoy the excitement build up!
Have fun!