I just needed to talk to someone today

[Dan Murphy]

Again, tigercat. 's

 

[Pooh93]

OMG! I just read your follow up post and my heart breaks for the lack of compassion you received then and now. Prayers and good thoughts sent your way for as long as you need them.

 

[Beast fan]

We're here for you, tigercat. My brother's best friend was killed in an accident 21 years ago this past October, when he was in 6th grade. We were next-door neighbors. I still remember coming home from a camping trip and finding out the news. I still grieve, especially around the anniversary date. I simply cannot imagine what a parent goes through.

Try to keep your spirits up, and vent away when/if you feel the need.

Dave

 

[Vault Disney]

Originally posted by tigercat
About 2 weeks later a home visit nurse came to see me. At the end of the visit she asked me what they had said about his death and I told her that he had died in a nurses arms. She LAUGHED and said that she had worked there and that was what they all said. That actually he would have been left all alone until the monitors stopped.

When our son was in the NICU there was a little one who was expected to pass. The baby was surrounded by CARING nurses. Please rest assured that even if he wasn't held by a corporeal body at his moment of passing that he was gently carried to Heaven by one of God's special angels.

I pray that God will ease the burden that you carry and help you find peace knowing that your son is at peace and home with the Father and waits for the joyous day when you will be reunited. May God bless you.

 

[mom2boys]

I can't imagine going through what you did combined - losing your son and not being able to grieve. You are a strong woman.

 

[Jeanny]

OMG Tigercat... I can't imagine how people can be so insensitive. Did they think they were doing you a favor by being so mean?? 6 weeks to grieve?? that's ridiculous. You never stop grieving, especially for a baby.

Just know your Dis Family is here for you.

 

[Planogirl]

Tigercat

 

[slo]

May God Bless you and comfort you all the days of your life.

 

[tigercat]

I knew there was a reason I had to post late last night. It is really amazing how many beautiful people there are here on the DIS. It's really nice to know that there are so many really nice people here who I can turn to when I need it.
Disknee that would have been horrible to have had the baby in your arms and then have to give it back.
tigercat

 

[*Fantasia*]

I am so sorry about your son. My heart goes out to you. I'm glad you posted cause we are here for you, we are here to listen and to comfort you. God Bless you. Just keep in mind that your baby is with God, he is in good hands. And I know someday you will meet your son again. Stay strong...God is with you.

Love,
Telly

 

[fran99999]

I too lost my son Tigercat. I do know how U feel. I was told by some people some hurtful things and that I too should "just get on with my life". I was 27. I am now 44 and still remember my son's bday which was also the day of his passing.

I would like to make a suggestion since no one else in your family group will talk with you about this. Call your Dr. or the local hospital and ask if there is a grief group in your area, or for a referal to a local grief counselor. I saw a counselor when I lost my son, granted it was 18 years ago. But the grief is still there. I have, through counseling come to terms with my grief(your post brought is all back like it was this am). From your post you may have other issues that you may want to discuss. IE your fil's comment ( cruel and insensitive), etc.

BTW I am the only one in my family that seems to remember that my DS5 was born on the same day my first son was born and passed on. I have had not one comment from any family member or friend about this. Is it they dont remember or choose not too.

I tried the priest, minister thing and it didnt work for me all he kept telling me was it was Gods way. I shouldnt question God. If this helps you then by all means go the minister, priest route. What ever you deceide I will add you and your son to my prayers this evening.

 

[RNMOM]

I have not lost a child, Tigercat, and know I could not imagine the pain you must feel. I hold my own two very close to my heart. I hope coming here has helped. We are always willing to listen and there are always lots of hugs just waiting for one in need. We all have to deal with our pain in our own way and it is hard when others' don't/can't acknowledge it the way we need. I hope tomorrow is a better day.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

just wanted to offer more

 

[Kitty 34]

Many {{{{HUGS}}}} to you, Tigercat.