I hate my Best Friends Wedding Dress...

[focusondisney]

My DD was married a few months ago so we did the wedding gown shopping last year. DD is a tiny, quiet & if I may say so very beautiful girl. She looked stunning in almost every gown. The beaded ball gowns were so beautiful & I loved several of them. Of course, I kept saying "your decision".

She finally found a very elegant a line type ball gown with a rich silk fabric & only a small amount of beading. She wouldn't take it off!! She knew it was the one!! I only wanted her to be happy.

On her wedding day, I knew she made the right choice. She looked gorgeous. The dress was "her". Quiet, elegant & understated.

Trust your friend. She will look beautiful on her day because she will feel comfortable & confident.

 

[ICF]

good thing you wont have to wear the dress then.....

 

[okeydokey]

Well it's a good thing that she loves it because that's what matters. Just be gracious and tell her how beautiful she looks.

 

[JessicaR]

Well she went and bought the not so fabulous dress on Saturday (Dress #2). I am trying to be happy for her! I just hope she knows that I still love her and support her no matter what even though I think her dress is ugly...

I dont see how her pick of dress could have any bearing on loving and supporting her.

It's a dress, you dont have the same opinion and ultimately its her choice. I'm sure its a lovely dress and she will look beautiful in it.

 

[bumbershoot]

When women ask for opinions about their weddings they are looking for affirmation, not an actual opinion.

Well now that's not always true. Wasn't true for me. Unfortunately I only had a 3 year old with me the day I tried on the dress I *should have* gotten (was supposed to have her mom with me too, but mom and 3 year old were "arguing" and could I please take 3 year old with me while mom had a day to herself), and then when the mom went with me, she spent too much time *trying on my dress* that I wanted... Yeah, I didn't have a good gown buying experience.

Anyway, if the bride ASKED for opinions, she might very well have wanted them.

But ultimately it's up to her!

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I hate (strongly dislike) the guy my best friend married . I would just keep your opinion to yourself as apparently she loves it.

 

[SydSim]

I know what you mean. I didn't like my friend's fiance, and I was in the wedding. Held my tongue, knowing she probably wouldn't listen, still get married, but may lose the friendship. They were divorced 2 years after the wedding, but we're still friends She is happily remarried and expecting her first.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Wow, I love your gown.

You look so BEAUTIFUL today.

That gown is perfect for you.

I can't believe you are getting married!!!! (Insert squeals).



Just keep repeating the above and she'll know you love and support her. You can even find one thing about the gown you like (the fit, the shade of white, the cut, the train, the veil, or the tiara, and just say that part if perfect, too.)

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

Sorry to break it to you OP, but it is her wedding and not yours.
If you are truly her friend, let her have her day with the dress SHE loves.

 

[nmmom95]

Unless the dress truly looks hideous on her, there is nothing to gain by saying you don't like it. As others have said, you don't have to like it, only she does. If we all liked the same style, it would be a "bridal uniform."

 

[arielsleepingbeauty]

I know what you mean. I didn't like my friend's fiance, and I was in the wedding. Held my tongue, knowing she probably wouldn't listen, still get married, but may lose the friendship. They were divorced 2 years after the wedding, but we're still friends She is happily remarried and expecting her first.

A fiance is sooo different than a dress. A dress is worn once and isn't going to cheat on you or treat you badly.

Your talking about a guy that your friend is marrying. If you know something about someone your friend is marrying, then a friend would say something. Whether your friend listens to you is a different story. But at least you said something. There are tactful ways to say things.

I am glad that your friend is happily remarried.

 

[klacey1]

Why exactly do you care? In high school did you like all of your friends' prom dresses? I think it's sad that you even MENTION that you hope she knows that you still love her and support her even though you think her dress is ugly! Who in the world would love their best friend any less just because they didn't agree with their fashion choices?
PLEASE keep this information to yourself--whatever you do, don't discuss with any other friends or her family how you feel about the dress. That will just be hurtful to her and to your friendship.

 

[redlight]

Her wedding, her dress.

 

[Sparx]

As long as the dress isn't unflattering, don't say anything.

If it were me, I'd definitely want someone to tell me if I looked terrible in something before I wore it out in public and paid hundreds of dollars for pictures to be taken of me from every angle. But if they just don't like the dress, I wouldn't care or want to know.

 

[shortbun]

It's not your wedding, not your dress and no longer is your opinion needed. She heard what you had to say and made her choice. You get to pick your wedding dress, no one else's. Serioiusly.

 

[shortbun]

A fiance is sooo different than a dress. A dress is worn once and isn't going to cheat on you or treat you badly.

Your talking about a guy that your friend is marrying. If you know something about someone your friend is marrying, then a friend would say something. Whether your friend listens to you is a different story. But at least you said something. There are tactful ways to say things.

I am glad that your friend is happily remarried.

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Yeah, I once refused to be in a wedding I knew to be a sham. It lasted less than a year. The bride and my friendship cooled until one day she called me and said, 'you were the only one who cared enough to tell me the truth. Thank you, can we be friends again?'

 

[DisneyJules]

She's the one who's going to have to wear it. I've never understood when others are bothered by what the bride chose to wear That seems like such a personal choice and shouldn't be dictated by anyone else.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I went dress shopping with her a few weekends ago and we went to a TON of bridal boutiques. She had 2 dresses that were on her "short list". She loved them both. In my opinion, (and her mom's opinion and sister's opinion) 1 dress was far superior than the other one. The dress I loved was elegant and form fitting and had the most incredible detailing (She has a very slender model-esque figure- Lucky duck!) which llooked like it was MADE to fit her. The other dress was just a simple run of the mill wedding dress (Ball gown, square neck- no detailing.. just plain white.)... While the 2nd dress looked good on her as well, there just wasn't as much of a wow factor as the 1st dress.

Well she went and bought the not so fabulous dress on Saturday (Dress #2). I am trying to be happy for her! I just hope she knows that I still love her and support her no matter what even though I think her dress is ugly...

And your opinion is important, why? (or the opinion of the mother or the sister)

Noticed you got married a little over 6 months ago. Did you buy the dress YOU loved, or the one that would please your best friend?

So, you can't be happy for her because you didn't get your way with HER wedding dress? Are you serious or is this a joke?

I can't believe you even thought about not supporting her (you had to have thought about it if you thought it important enough to mention it) just because she picked the dress she loved and not the one you loved.

If this is really true, you seriously need to get over yourself.

 

[Magic Mom]

I'm confused. Is she going to make you wear it? Keep your opinion to yourself unless 1) you are paying for it, or 2) you have to wear it. Who cares if you don't like it, as long as she (the bride-1/2 of the couple it's all about-the person in the spotlight) loves it or asked for your honest opinion (I'm guessing that didn't happen.).

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

She's the one who's going to have to wear it. I've never understood when others are bothered by what the bride chose to wear That seems like such a personal choice and shouldn't be dictated by anyone else.

Me neither.