I hate my Best Friends Wedding Dress...

[tinatark]

Take HGTV out and add Bravo and I smell a reality show!!

I HATE MY BEST FRIEND'S WEDDING DRESS! tonight at 8 on WE/BRAVO/TLC!!​

Bravo! That's the other channel I was thinking about!

 

[golfgal]

I asked DD yesterday what kind of wedding she was thinking about having, she is only 14 so we have a couple years, but I was wondering if she was picturing a big wedding-she said yes. She also has a dress "picked" out-strapless and something about a band somewhere. I suggested she stay in shape and lift weights so her arms don't get flabby if she wants to wear strapless for her wedding . She has time to change her mind about the strapless thing but if she doesn't, I will just smile and tell her she looks beautiful. I don't like strapless dresses on 90% of the brides that wear them, sorry.

 

[Jennasis]

I asked DD yesterday what kind of wedding she was thinking about having, she is only 14 so we have a couple years, but I was wondering if she was picturing a big wedding-she said yes. She also has a dress "picked" out-strapless and something about a band somewhere. I suggested she stay in shape and lift weights so her arms don't get flabby if she wants to wear strapless for her wedding . She has time to change her mind about the strapless thing but if she doesn't, I will just smile and tell her she looks beautiful. I don't like strapless dresses on 90% of the brides that wear them, sorry.

Ouch. It may be true, but it's a little insensitive. A comment like that would have just about destroyed either of my two sister's, who developed eating disorder's at age 14.

 

[luvmy3]

I asked DD yesterday what kind of wedding she was thinking about having, she is only 14 so we have a couple years, but I was wondering if she was picturing a big wedding-she said yes. She also has a dress "picked" out-strapless and something about a band somewhere. I suggested she stay in shape and lift weights so her arms don't get flabby if she wants to wear strapless for her wedding . She has time to change her mind about the strapless thing but if she doesn't, I will just smile and tell her she looks beautiful. I don't like strapless dresses on 90% of the brides that wear them, sorry.

I don't like strapless dresses either, to me it makes you look like you just wrapped yourself up in a fancy bath towel. I don't have to worry about it with my dd, if she's anything like I was when I got married she won't have the ****s to hold one up

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't like strapless dresses either, to me it makes you look like you just wrapped yourself up in a fancy bath towel. I don't have to worry about it with my dd, if she's anything like I was when I got married she won't have the ****s to hold one up

I was too afraid of an "oops" flash.

Happened to my mom at a wedding--she was a guest...the song was "Jump" and well---they did.

It is now a mandatory song at all weddings in that family and as soon as the song begins, her siblings are hunting her down.

So no strapless at my wedding--though my arms looked fantastic! I kept weights in my office and worked those triceps and biceps.

 

[bumbershoot]

To be sure that I understand, the OP loves her best friend, but comes onto a message board with like a million members and publicly proclaims that she hates her wedding dress?

Wow! I just don't understand women...

Well, I didn't quite understand it either, and I'm a woman...so it's not ALL women who would do this.

I'm very glad that I'm the only message-board-type person that was in my bridal party, LOL.

 

[paintnolish]

OP, not to be harsh, but zip it! You could ruin the friendship. I know from experience. I was at a friends house with several other girlfriends. I left before some of them, but I forgot something and ran back in- to hear my matron of honor making fun of the color of the bridesmaids dress I had chosen. I was angry and didn't talk to her for awhile. We mended things and the wedding iwas fun, but our friendship is not the same as it was.
As for strapless dresses, I wore one. I worked my arms (and butt off) to look good in that dress. I had guns!

 

[Topper]

Sometimes I cannot believe the stuff I read on this board...

I feel that way ALL the time.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

OP, I totally understand what you're saying. This is how I interpreted your post - you went dress shopping with friend, they asked your opinion on the dresses, you replied that you liked one dress over the other. Friend chose the other and you hope that even though she now knows that you gave your opinion that you didn't prefer that dress, that she doesn't keep the thought in the back of her mind "BadRomance hates this dress. I hope she won't make any comments about this dress, even tho I know she doesn't like it that much. Should I take her with me when I shop for shoes and bridesmaids gowns?"

I certainly didn't think that you expected her to pick the gown that you liked. You were just concerned that she might feel bad because you picked the gown that you didn't like. Having watched Say Yes To The Dress many times, I am all to aware that brides take what their family and friends say about their dress selection to heart. When asked, it's hard to say "it's beautiful", when it may not be in your eyes. Of course, i've always felt that if you didn't want to know, then don't ask me If you ask, well, I'm gonna tell you how I feel. I will try to be tactful, but brides (and new moms) are very sensitive and anything can set them off

Just wanted you to know that I don't think for one minute that you think that your friend's wedding day is all about you.

I would agree with you, except for the part where the OP says she is "trying to be happy" for her friend even though she hates the dress.

How can one be so shallow as to not be happy for her best friend and her wedding based on how she likes the bride's dress.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

Please don't define women by this scenario...

I don't - it was a joke, hence the laughing emoticon...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I don't - it was a joke, hence the laughing emoticon...

I got the joke.

How can one be so shallow as to not be happy for her best friend and her wedding based on how she likes the bride's dress.

B/c some fail to look pass the wedding day. It's all about the wedding. The whole marriage thing is just the frivolous extra.

At least for someone who cares that much about a dress they don't have to wear--it's all I can think of.

 

[phorsenuf]

Maybe she'll be one of those brides that even though she has her dress she'll continue going to Bridal shops and looking at dresses. She may end up buying a couple more before the actual wedding day. Maybe one of those you will like.

 

[walden]

I don't like strapless dresses either, to me it makes you look like you just wrapped yourself up in a fancy bath towel. I don't have to worry about it with my dd, if she's anything like I was when I got married she won't have the ****s to hold one up

Brides always look beautiful even in a less than flattering gown because they are so happy. Just focus on her face. She will be stunning. If she feels beautiful and happy she will be beautiful . . .

But, oh my, those dreadful ubiquitous strapless dresses!

Honestly, they may be in fashion but only a few, really a very few, young ladies look good in them. They need that *perfect* figure. It is not due to weight, or toning, it is just that some shapes just flatter more than others and the strapless look truly flatters very few real women. I hope they go out of fashion soon.

We are attending quite a few weddings these days (of children and the children of friends) and the spousal unit is either averting his eyes in anticipating an epic fail for the *under-endowed* (I assure him that iron clad boning usually keeps it in place) or we both avert our eyes due to sometimes quite unflattering bulges created by that iron clad boning even in quite slender girls. So many young ladies would do better with a halter top, cap sleeves or a V neck.

Just saying . . . I'm an old bat.

 

[Philagoofy]

Ah, what the heck, go ahead and tell 'er.

 

[MaumeeMom]

I went dress shopping with her a few weekends ago and we went to a TON of bridal boutiques. She had 2 dresses that were on her "short list". She loved them both. In my opinion, (and her mom's opinion and sister's opinion) 1 dress was far superior than the other one. The dress I loved was elegant and form fitting and had the most incredible detailing (She has a very slender model-esque figure- Lucky duck!) which llooked like it was MADE to fit her. The other dress was just a simple run of the mill wedding dress (Ball gown, square neck- no detailing.. just plain white.)... While the 2nd dress looked good on her as well, there just wasn't as much of a wow factor as the 1st dress.

Well she went and bought the not so fabulous dress on Saturday (Dress #2). I am trying to be happy for her! I just hope she knows that I still love her and support her no matter what even though I think her dress is ugly...

Is the dress really ugly or just not the one you wanted?

Did you try on the dress yourself? Maybe the one that was "form fitting" was not as comfortable as the one your friend picked. Or maybe the "incredible detailing" was heavy and the second dress just felt much better. A bride should be comfortable on her big day.

When I tried on dresses, some friends kept pushing low cut ones at me & I wouldn't try them on - why - because I have a birthmark that would have shown and while they told me it could be covered or no one would notice it, I would have been hyper aware of it.

Your bride may have had a very good reason for choosing the dress that she picked. It isn't your wedding, I hope you can be supportive of your friend and her choice.

 

[ashjohnson80]

It really doesn't matter if you like it or not if she loves it. Whatever she feels the most comfortable and pretty in, because it is her day. My first wedding I tried to please everyone and had the big traditional white dress that everyone expected me to have. After my divorce I looked at it hanging in the closet and thought "omg this is so not me". My next wedding may be short and hot pink, who knows... But it will have to be something that is ME, and it won't really matter if anyone else (except for maybe the dude i'm marrying) thinks its godawful or not.

 

[alexandria674]

It really doesn't matter if you like it or not if she loves it. Whatever she feels the most comfortable and pretty in, because it is her day. My first wedding I tried to please everyone and had the big traditional white dress that everyone expected me to have. After my divorce I looked at it hanging in the closet and thought "omg this is so not me". My next wedding may be short and hot pink, who knows... But it will have to be something that is ME, and it won't really matter if anyone else (except for maybe the dude i'm marrying) thinks its godawful or not.

 

[SiAmCrAzY]

Ah, what the heck, go ahead and tell 'er.

 

[golfgal]

Ouch. It may be true, but it's a little insensitive. A comment like that would have just about destroyed either of my two sister's, who developed eating disorder's at age 14.

If I had concerns about that I would not have said that to her.