I hate it when people stop by without calling first.

[PixiePop]

My all time biggest pet peeve. I definately understand the annoyance.

 

[Hixski]

We have that same problem with my DH's work schedule. I just wanna say, "Okay, you just get up at 2:00 a.m. and start your day and see how you feel!!"

When I am feeling snarky I tell people to give me their address or phone number and I will get back to them around 2:00am. Imagine the look on their face when I say that. I never get any takers.

My mother is bad about saying we need to be at some family function at 11:00am or so. I get off at 5:00am, get home at 5:30am. In bed by 6:00am. Now I have to get up by 9:00 to shower, get ready and drive and arrive by 11:00am. Then my mother wants to tell me I look tired and should get more sleep.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm not the one dumping on people who want to visit!

Surprises can be fun.

Well, maybe this has been said, but what if the person doing the dropping by, uh, interrupted an intimate moment? Would that surprise be fun?

What if someone wasn't decent? What if they were sick?

One time someone dropped by our house and I was in my nightgown/robe and then teased me about not being dressed. If I had of had a phone call saying that he was on his way, you can bet your sweet bippy that I would have put some clothes on. One friend of mine used to stop by sometimes unannounced and I let her know that was fine (and it was with me), but she couldn't expect me to always be ready to visit or be at home. I'm used to people stopping by, but it's usually neighbor kids. That doesn't bother me, but having someone drop by and expect to get invited in would.

 

[sunlver]

I must be the odd one, it doesnt bother me when people come by unannounced. But... honestly it does not happen very much, so maybe thats why it does not bother me. Anybody who knows me knows not to call me at night time after 7pm, as that is when the kids started getting ready for bed. So nobody ever just shows up at night around here.
Sometimes some of the neighborhood kids come and knock at the door, and that doesnt bother us either.SOmetimes the neighbor kids come at a bad time, and we just let them know its not a good time to play.
With that said, I hardly ever show up at somebodys house without calling. I mean I have not done it in yrs and yrs. It doesnt bother me, but I know it bothers other people.

 

[ashjohnson80]

i don't answer the door unless i know you're coming by. i might be in my underwear.

 

[Fan2CSkr]

The only people I dont mind dropping in are my parents and sisters. Everyone else better call first or I wont be opening the door. I hate being put on the spot to stop what I may be in the middle of, even if its just a movie I'm watching.

One of my SIL's can make me crazed! She calls me and if I dont answer she calls my cell. Still no answer she calls my husband and kids to see where I am and if that fails she comes over! This is just nuts to me and I have told her so but it doesn't seem to absorb.

 

[rie'smom]

While I won't drop in unannounced,I love when people drop in at my house.

 

[reeeoga]

I have told people a very simple thing: If you drop by unanounced I will answer the door Nude, and stay that way until you leave. If you call I will get dressed.

It helps that I'm usually nude when home. I am dressed at this moment, for your enjoyment.

 

[iloveboardwalk]

I don't answer my door unless I know you're coming.

My MIL uses her key, which ticks me off, we have a chain lock though, so sometimes, if it's during the day and my car is in the garage and the kids are at school and I'm working, I'll just ignore her and pretend I'm not home when she opens the door and it hits the chain.

I work out of my house so a lot of people think I'm not working...and that they can just drop by anytime.

 

[basas]

I guess I don't see what the big issue is...

To me there is a difference between driving 400 miles to 'stop in' unannounced (aka: basically taking a vacation to your house without you even knowing), and someone (parents or whatever) who live 10 miles away who happen to be in the neighborhood. For those of you who 'never answer the door' unless someone has called, what if they've stopped by to simply drop off some groceries or give you something as they drove by? I don’t know…maybe I’ve just been lucky and not had any problems with it….

The door thing by so many people has surprised me...I always answer my door. You just never know what someone might need...actually, one of my biggest annoyances is knowing someone is home but who refuses to answer the door. That, to me, is rude.

 

[sha_lyn]

the talk about bras, not being dressed etc reminds me something DH and a friends husband were working on the nursery (crown molding, hanging new closet doors etc). The friend show up with her husband and begs me to ride with her to her moms house. I was very PG, working full time, had few clothes that still fit etc. It was my only day off (Sunday).
I was in holey sweats, no bra, barefoot hadn't showered. She said she just needed to run in and get something from her mother and I could stay in the truck.
Well lo and behold it was my surprise baby shower. Everyone had snarky comments about how terrible I looked etc. It was not a fun time. Oh and top it all off. I was the first to get punch. Someone had tried to mush up the sherbet but it was too hard and the punch ladle was stuck in the block of sherbet. When I tried to get it out the ladle broke. The friend's mom (who was also a good friend of mine) went off on me.

 

[iloveboardwalk]

For those of you who 'never answer the door' unless someone has called, what if they've stopped by to simply drop off some groceries or give you something as they drove by?

They should hqve called me first, I am not always prepared for guests.

The door thing by so many people has surprised me...I always answer my door. You just never know what someone might need...actually, one of my biggest annoyances is knowing someone is home but who refuses to answer the door. That, to me, is rude.

Well, I work at home, would you like it if someone just dropped by your office for a visit? When I'm NOT working, I might be cleaning, or have the kids sleeping or be doing something else that is important to me and I do not want to be disturbed. What's rude about expecting people to respect my time and home?

 

[disneyfreakk]

I don't answer my door unless I know you're coming.

My MIL uses her key, which ticks me off, we have a chain lock though, so sometimes, if it's during the day and my car is in the garage and the kids are at school and I'm working, I'll just ignore her and pretend I'm not home when she opens the door and it hits the chain.

I work out of my house so a lot of people think I'm not working...and that they can just drop by anytime.

Why on EARTH would you give your MIL a key to your house??!!??? *faints*

 

[Freyja]

My parents are deceased too. That has nothing to do with it. It is still rude for people to drop by without calling first.

YOU find it rude. I find it great and wish people would do it more often.

 

[iloveboardwalk]

Why on EARTH would you give your MIL a key to your house??!!??? *faints*

LOL!! In case we lock ourselves out!! She babysits for us sometimes (she might have to pick a sick kid up from school and bring them home) and she also watches the cat when we're on vacation. I'm not complaining about my MIL, I think she's great, she's very generous with her time and money and I am extremely greatful to have her as my MIL. I love her to pieces, she just has a few quirks.

 

[luv2nascar]

my inlaws dropped by unannounced last night. The kids and I had just sat down to dinner when the door bell rang. I think they felt ackward when they walked in and their was food on the table, They didn't stay long. Oh well it happens when you drop by.

I'm more peeved about them asking to take me kids somewhere then inviting rest of grandkids along too and their care won't hold them all. So they asked to take my van??

 

[UrsulasShadow]

My mother is notorious for "just dropping by", and she always brings a witness, so I can't give her hell for not calling. She does this to annoy me, and to prove to others how sloppy/ rude/ rotten her daughter really is.

 

[tw1nsmom]

I don't mind it if someone very occassionally drops by unannounced, but I'd prefer it if they'd call and at least give me 10 minutes to run around and pick up. I truly hated it when my MIL would ALWAYS come by without calling. I mean she NEVER called. To make matters worse, she refused to knock.

DH liked me to keep the back door unlocked. He had his office upstairs at that time and would come and go via the back door. One day he'd gone out and I had just put the babies (they're not babies anymore) down for a nap and was taking a nap myself. The hallway between our room the the nursery is only about six feet long and I had left the doors open so that I could better hear the babies if they woke up.

Well, instead of the babies waking me up, I woke up because I could feel someone looking at me. My MIL was standing in the doorway of my room watching me sleep. When I was flustered she said, "Don't mind me, I'll just go get the babies." I'm pretty sure I felt my eyes bulge right out of my head when a flipped out and told her that she would not be waking the babies up and that she needed to leave, NOW!

DH talked to her twice about calling first or at least knocking. After the second time, she basicly stopped coming here. SHe was offended that we had begun to lock the doors, forcing her to knock first. She's also offended that we won't give her a key to our house. She refuses to call first, and refuses to knock, so she just won't come at all. I can live with that.

 

[Disneyland1084]

My DH's parents use to come over a LOT with NO calls or NO notice. They use to average 3 to 4 visits a week. The few times we'd drive an hour and a half to see them, the VERY next day they'd drop by our house unnaounced. I HATED IT!!! Dh finally told them to call and they do, and since then they haven't come over nearly as much and I LOVE IT!!!

 

[Amlee]

My family knows if they don't call, I'm not answering the door. I don't go to their house unless I call and I expect them to do the same for me.

I went a few rounds with the lady that use to live in my house. Her and her husband built the house in the 40s and lived in it until 1997. I bought the house (not from them) in 2000 and hadn't been here long, when I heard voices outside. I went out to see what was going on and this old bat was in MY yard digging up plants. She said she missed them and decided to come get them. Uh NO! I explain to her that what she wanted wasn't possible and she left. About a year later on an early Sunday morning (around 6am), I get a knock on my door. I look out the window to see her and another women. I'm like WTH?! So I get up and get out of my night clothes, but before I can get to the door, the women is looking in my windows. Beating on my windows. The other lady has gone back to the car and was laying down on the horn. By that time, I had got to the door and wasn't happy at all!! I asked them if I could help them? She said oh we came by to look at the house before church. She said they wanted to come in and look around and remember things. WTH?? By them time I was done saying what I was thinking, both of them was in the car, and I'm sure I got some prayers! Needless to say she hasn't come back since.