I hate it when people stop by without calling first.

[iloveboardwalk]

Well I guess you should be glad you're not in my family as we 'drop in' on each other all the time. Most often its for less than 5 minutes just to drop something off, etc... We certainly don't see it as an annoyance... our good family and friends are welcome in our home whenever they want (using common sense of course).

Well I would never "drop in" on someone, if I'm "in the neighborhood" I call first. It's common courtesy. If you and your family have some kind of known understanding among yourselves, that's great for you. But, as I said, I work at home, some people think that means all my time is free. I cannot allow people to abuse that because I have to feed my family too.

 

[Hixski]

Well I would never "drop in" on someone, if I'm "in the neighborhood" I call first. It's common courtesy. If you and your family have some kind of known understanding among yourselves, that's great for you. But, as I said, I work at home, some people think that means all my time is free. I cannot allow people to abuse that because I have to feed my family too.

You got a tag from this. Congrats!!!!!!!

 

[iloveboardwalk]

You got a tag from this. Congrats!!!!!!!

LOL! I have a TAG! I never would have noticed, I never look!!

 

[tinah159]

My family has one day a week togather. If someone arrives unanounnced, we ignore them and dont answer the door.

 

[barkley]

my in-laws were very bad about this when we first married. dh tried to talk to them about it to no avail-they finaly got the message when they showed up with some friends of theirs unannounced and dh answered the door and after politely greeting them said 'i'm sorry mom and dad but we've told you in the past you need to give us a call first and see if it's convenient to come over-i'm sorry it's just not convenient today' (this was not a matter of dropping by-they and their friends lived over an hour away-easy enough to call first). it was so bad that once when i caught sight of my fil's car driving down the street i turned off the tv and retreated into the back bedroom from which i did not return to answer his knock at the door-he ended up sitting in his car for 3 hours in front of our house until dh got home from school at 11 pm at night and then was 'surprised' when dh was'nt thrilled to hear he had camped out there 'waiting for someone to come home'

i guess this trait must in someways run in dh's family-he has one sib who i honestly had only seen 3 times during the first 12 years of our marriage, but in the last couple of years has taken to just showing up unannounced at our door out of the blue. always around 8 at night on a school night when i'm trying to get the kids to bed. it's not like it's a quick drop in for him to visit either-he lives 4 hours away but never thinks to make a phone call! i'm guessing though that this practice has become an iritation to my mil as well (sib is her step son whom she's not particularly close to) cuz now we'll get a 'warning call' when he pops in on her to let us know 'he's in town, you might want to turn off the porchlight and not answer the door'

 

[bgirldeb]

on an early Sunday morning (around 6am), I get a knock on my door. I look out the window to see her and another women. I'm like WTH?! So I get up and get out of my night clothes, but before I can get to the door, the women is looking in my windows. Beating on my windows. The other lady has gone back to the car and was laying down on the horn. By that time, I had got to the door and wasn't happy at all!! I asked them if I could help them? She said oh we came by to look at the house before church. She said they wanted to come in and look around and remember things. WTH?? By them time I was done saying what I was thinking, both of them was in the car, and I'm sure I got some prayers! Needless to say she hasn't come back since.

What is the deal with some people?!

Back to the OT,
I don't like 'drop in' visitors. My mom lives around the block, and knows sometimes to call and let me know she is going to leave something at the front door for me. When I am at home, I rarely am dressed enough for visitors (no bra, etc.). My in-laws would walk staight in our house if we didn't lock the doors!

 

[sue1013]

Doesn't bother me at all if my family or friends drop by unannounced. I would be upset if I found out my family or friends was near my house and didn't stop in. A couple days a week I work from home and don't always get dressed right away I guess I'm weird but if I'm still in my PJ's I let them in then go get changed. Last week DH's cousin stopped by one morning. He had a meeting in the area decided to stop. I was very happy he stopped we had a great visit. He used to live nearby but moved a couple years ago so we don't get to see him very often. I guess we're just not a formal family.

 

[Cee]

......it usually happens right after I've put my pj's on.

 

[auntpolly]

My mother used to say "A ringing doorbell or telephone is a REQUEST not a DEMAND." I still employ that philosophy. It drives my MIL crazy.

Oh I live by that philopsophy! I think it's hilarious that someone would think me rude for not answering the door if I were home and it just wasn't a good time! I mean, come on! If it's a good time, I'll let you in, if it's not, come back later or call first!!!

Having lived around the country, this is a regional thing. Where I live now nobody seems to do it, but other areas of the country it's more accepted.

Nobody can make me do something I don't want to do though. I have more than once in my life just ignored a doorbell!!!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

You know what's really funny? We have a doorbell but it doesn't work. You can push that button all day and we won't even know you are there! My Mom told me one time "You need to get a doorbell that works". I told her that I don't need one. If I know you are coming I will open the door. If not oh well.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

our doormat says "go away"

i think that says it all.

That's a good one! We found a good one at Bed, Bath, and Beyond and it says "Leave".

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Doesn't bother me at all if my family or friends drop by unannounced. I would be upset if I found out my family or friends was near my house and didn't stop in. A couple days a week I work from home and don't always get dressed right away I guess I'm weird but if I'm still in my PJ's I let them in then go get changed. Last week DH's cousin stopped by one morning. He had a meeting in the area decided to stop. I was very happy he stopped we had a great visit. He used to live nearby but moved a couple years ago so we don't get to see him very often. I guess we're just not a formal family.

I read that as "we're just not a normal family", which I thought would have made a great tag.

 

[DaisyD]

We never have people drop by announced. My mom even has a key to our house and is most welcome to drop by whenever she wants but she would never do that. She would call first to see what we are doing. Our friends never drop by without calling either whether it is in the middle of the day or night. Yes, I think it would rude for anyone to do so.

 

[sha_lyn]

My mom recently retired. After 2-3 weeks of her dropping by 2-3x a week in the middle of the day I asked her to please call firstif she is coming by before 3. We homeschool, and it is just too disruptive to keep having to entertain her without notice. I love that she wants to take the grandkids out to lunch etc, but I need to plan our school day around that. Usually she'll call the day day before, but sometimes she'll call if she is near by. I haven't told her not to come by, unless we are about to leave.

 

[Liberty Belle]

My longest thread ever! I've reached a DIS milestone. I think I'll go celebrate with some coffee.

 

[Tybug]

I also work from home and DH's office is out of our home(construction). We live in a (what used to be) small town where we know everyone. It's common practice here for folks to just drop by.

That said, if I'm working and in the middle of something... I may not answer the door(office is over garage so if I don't notice you pull up I may not even know you're there.). Our house is always buzzing with guest. Kids, teens, friends and family. I would never have it any other way!! And yes, everyone has cell phones.

Both of my parents as well as my MIL never have to knock... just walk on in. If DH and I are otherwise 'occupied', that's what locks are for!

I don't find those that don't accept this practice as being unreasonable nor rude. On the flip side of that... I don't expect 'you' to find the way we were raised and the way we run our home as rude either, just different.

 

[Freyja]

I also work from home and DH's office is out of our home(construction). We live in a (what used to be) small town where we know everyone. It's common practice here for folks to just drop by.

That said, if I'm working and in the middle of something... I may not answer the door(office is over garage so if I don't notice you pull up I may not even know you're there.). Our house is always buzzing with guest. Kids, teens, friends and family. I would never have it any other way!! And yes, everyone has cell phones.

Both of my parents as well as my MIL never have to knock... just walk on in. If DH and I are otherwise 'occupied', that's what locks are for!

I don't find those that don't accept this practice as being unreasonable nor rude. On the flip side of that... I don't expect 'you' to find the way we were raised and the way we run our home as rude either, just different.

Very well said.

 

[MareQ]

I'm bad about this - I don't mind my family because they don't expect my house to look like a showroom - they expect it to look like any other house with a 3, 6 and 9 year old living in it - but I cannot stand it when DH's family does this OR when they call up and invite themselves over as they have higher expectations. @@ MIL will call and say "What are you doing?" When we respond with "NOTHING - we finally have a day where we can just relax etc" She jumps on that and will say "Great - we'll be out in a few hours" @@ Seriously - no plans doesn't mean it's ok for you to come over - no plans means - REST for us. When they do this - DH and I then have to start cleaning like mad - mopping floors etc otherwise I'll be subjected to nonstop Marie Barone comments about my filthy house @@

DH keeps telling them that if they want to see us and the kids just invite us to your house - they don't get the hint @@

 

[mulanrouge]

Depends on who it is that just drops by!! My FIL does this on a regular basis, and it really bugs me, because our house is usually messy, and he looks down his nose on this!! He is old school, and expects the house spotless, dinner on the table when the man gets home from work, etc. etc., blah, blah, blah!! He would never say it to me, but says comments to DH behind my back!! There was one time, where I had been cleaning all day and thought the house looked pretty darn good. Well, who should arrive but FIl - unannounced of course!! Stayed for about an hour, and on the way out the door, looks at the front entryway and says, oh are you opening a shoe store?!

I finally said to DH, tell him not to come by - unless he is here to visit us and the kids - and not my house!!

Good thing is, he goes away now for about 6 months of the year so I don't have to worry about it as much!!

 

[reeeoga]

WHAT?



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