I had a truly terrifying experience-THE TRUTH Pg19

[torinsmom]

My family lives 2 hours away . I have them down as emergency contacts but they arent local . They want emergency contacts who atleast lives in the same state. Im really bothered by the fact that besides thier father I have no other support . He isn't even around. We havent seen him in a year. My family wants me to move back to our hometown so ill have support and help raising the kids but for right now Im staying put where I am. If I lived back in my hometown there is no way my kids would've gone to a police station . I'd have atleast 10 local contacts.

You need to get to know your neigbors and put them down as contacts. At my school, we require at least 3 emergency contacts.

Drop the kids to find their way home like most school age kids who get off a bus. I have never lived anywhere or even heard of a place that requires a parent at the bus stop to release kids to. Our busses pull up, let the kids out and drive off, same where I grew up and everywhere I have ever lived.

Not here. Heck the school bell rings, some kids get on busses, some walk home, some get picked up by parents etc but once that bell rings or the bus door opens and drops the kidlets on the curb, that is the end of the babysitting.
Having to meet the bus or else is a totally foreign idea to me and frankly one that would really bother me.

Our PreK/K children have to be met at the bus stop. And none of our kids are released unless they are on a bus or their parents show up. We have PK-5th and walkers must be walked away from the school by someone 18 or older.

 

[JulyGirl]

ANd she claims to be a single SAHM mom, yet here she is YESTERDAY planning a cruise:

Single parents can't go on Disney Cruises? Just because she is not working doesn't mean she is broke. I have a friend who will NEVER have to work a day in her life because her family is wealthy and she has money to live on for life.

I don't know anything about the OP, but if her children have special needs, they would definitely need a parent at the bus stop.

 

[anniemae]

Thats scary.

What I don't understand is why the police did not dispatch someone to the house. You would think they would be concerned that something happened to the parent like maybe she fell down the stairs and whacked her head and was out cold, or an intruder came in and shot the parent, or they had a medical situation and were unconscious.

It just seems odd to me that they leave the kids with the police for hours and hours. What did they do with the kids at the station? Leave them in a room alone? I can't imagine the school just dropping it and leaving it to the police. Obviously at 5:00 the school closed and everyone went home while the whereabouts of the parent was unknown.

Anyway, glad the op found out where the kids were and they were safe. Just use it as a lesson: always set alarms when you take a nap!

 

[torinsmom]

Thats scary.

What I don't understand is why the police did not dispatch someone to the house. You would think they would be concerned that something happened to the parent like maybe she fell down the stairs and whacked her head and was out cold, or an intruder came in and shot the parent, or they had a medical situation and were unconscious.

It just seems odd to me that they leave the kids with the police for hours and hours. What did they do with the kids at the station? Leave them in a room alone? I can't imagine the school just dropping it and leaving it to the police. Obviously at 5:00 the school closed and everyone went home while the whereabouts of the parent was unknown.

Anyway, glad the op found out where the kids were and they were safe. Just use it as a lesson: always set alarms when you take a nap!

Do you know how often kids are not met at bus stops when it is required? I know a bus driver at my school says it happens to her a few times a month, and that is one bus with maybe 30 kids riding. They are required to bring the kids back to school and if the school cannot reach anyone, they call the police. School staff cannot just sit at the school with the kids, and it is considered child abandonment and an issue for the police.

If the police took kids home every time, that would require more manpower. And I imagine more parents would just assume their kids would be brought home, and it would happen more often. We have some kids at our school who are car riders and are habitually sitting in the office 15-20 minutes after pickup time has ended. There is not real punishment, so the parents keep doing it. With a public school, you cannot charge a fee, just ask that they get there on time in the future. We have also had parents leave their child(ren) outside the locked school doors before the school is open. We have no choice but to let the kids in and supervise them, as we are responsible if something happens to them out there.

 

[sukhakuli]

I'm always paranoid something like this will happen, so if I do nap during the day, I always set an alarm. However, our bus stop is one house down, and my kids normally walk home from the bus stop on their own. I usually stand at the house and watch them, but I am not required to be there.

I rarely nap during the day, though. I only do it when I'm really sick, or if I was up all night with one of the kids. I have too many things to do during the day to spend it sleeping.

How is your health? Do you work out, keep your weight at a healthy level, normally get a full night's sleep, etc etc? If not, then you need to contact your doctor about what happened, and make an effort to get 30 mins a day of exercise, and keep tabs on what you eat. Keeping myself healthy is a priority for me; my health affects everyone in the house. If I am not healthy, then I don't have the energy to keep up with everything, and I want my kids to have a mom who lives a long and active life.

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

If I nap during the day I inevitably wake up at some point thinking "OMG! THE KIDS!!!" Really gets the blood flowing.

 

[Magic Mom]

I'm surprised that the 20 phone calls didn't wake you up. The phone was with you I wonder why you didn't hear it.

 

[pensgirl10]

ANd she claims to be a single SAHM mom, yet here she is YESTERDAY planning a cruise:

I'm a single non-working parent who has been to Disney.

 

[momto2girls]

No idea if this situation is real or not, but I'm surprised at how many people are confused by her napping in the middle of the day. I can seriously get a full night's sleep and then nap all day long (not that I get to do that much anymore). And, no, I'm not ill. I've been able to do that since I was a teenager. I love napping.

 

[msjprincess]

Drop the kids to find their way home like most school age kids who get off a bus. I have never lived anywhere or even heard of a place that requires a parent at the bus stop to release kids to. Our busses pull up, let the kids out and drive off, same where I grew up and everywhere I have ever lived.

Not here. Heck the school bell rings, some kids get on busses, some walk home, some get picked up by parents etc but once that bell rings or the bus door opens and drops the kidlets on the curb, that is the end of the babysitting.
Having to meet the bus or else is a totally foreign idea to me and frankly one that would really bother me.

Actually it's the same here except for Kindergartners and special needs kids. I just meant for the kids that do have to be met they would bring them back to school not bring them to the police station.

 

[Robinrs]

Folks, we've been had. Above she claims where the dad allegedly is BUT do we not recall the thread she posted in October where she said she got a call from her ex's girlfriend crying about how he had JUST MOVED OUT on her to live with the next door neighbor he had knocked up? No mention of him living with his mommy then.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2821474

ANd she claims to be a single SAHM mom, yet here she is YESTERDAY planning a cruise:




May I suggest we all just let this farce die a quiet natural death?

Had or not, it confuses me when anyone posts two threads like that which everyone KNOWS will start the Dis to go off...

If she's not a troll she sure is pot stirrer.

As for the single Mom thing, my friend in NY got a multi million dollar settlement for what happened to her special needs child during the birth process, so she's far from destitute. We never know what a person is going thru.

 

[woodkins]

I'm still trying to get over the fact that a bus driver can take your kids to a police station just because you are not at the bus stop. Wow, that's such a foreign concept to me.

OP I'm with everyone else, that kind of nap is not normal along with missing the calls even if your ringer was on low. I'd call the Dr. asap.

The police station is a LAST resort. As OP stated they called her over 20 times and tried to get contact. After 2 hours something needs to be done and the police station is the proper protocol. I was a teacher in NY for 8 years and only a handful of times was a student ever not picked up at a bus stop. This is not as frequent an incident as you are all making it out to be.And we also have the same rules that any studen from grade 4 and under must be met by and adult at the bus stop, they cannot get off the bus unless someone is there to meet them.

I think troll. Isn't this a new version of the poster who took her child with autism on a train to WDW, and had a miserable time with her mother or some other relative there, or something like that? I know that poster was from NYC, was a single mother, didn't work, got no support from the children's father, the kids' ages seem to be about the same, and the posting style seems similar.

Why yes...yes it is.

Even when my kids were in kindergarten they didn't have to be met at the bus stop. Is this situation for real?

Absolutely. Also live in NY...grade 4 and under must be met at the bus stop.

Maybe she has money from an inheritance or some sort of trust?

I have no idea who she is. After reading all the "updates" from other posters, I vaguelly remember something about her, but not much at all.

Read back, also under her other usernames, as she has stated her money comes for receiving public assistance for herself and her children. Not judging, just stating facts, although if I had all day to fall asleep and forget my kids I think I would start staying awake during the day job hunting instead of watching $40 a day and napping, but that's just me.

 

[Liberty Belle]

The police station is a LAST resort. As OP stated they called her over 20 times and tried to get contact. After 2 hours something needs to be done and the police station is the proper protocol. I was a teacher in NY for 8 years and only a handful of times was a student ever not picked up at a bus stop. This is not as frequent an incident as you are all making it out to be.And we also have the same rules that any studen from grade 4 and under must be met by and adult at the bus stop, they cannot get off the bus unless someone is there to meet them.


Why yes...yes it is.



Absolutely. Also live in NY...grade 4 and under must be met at the bus stop.



Read back, also under her other usernames, as she has stated her money comes for receiving public assistance for herself and her children. Not judging, just stating facts, although if I had all day to fall asleep and forget my kids I think I would start staying awake during the day job hunting instead of watching $40 a day and napping, but that's just me.

Well, yeah. I hope she was just "daydreaming" about the cruise, because if someone is on public assistance and still able to afford a Disney cruise, something is definitely up. I know of someone on public assistance and they can barely afford to eat and pay rent.

 

[LisaR]

Inquiring minds want to know:

You have a home phone and a cell phone. Why would you even give out your home phone as a contact number? One would assume you run out to the grocery here or there, a doctor's appointment, etc. If something were to happen to your kids while you are out running errands, the school would need your cell number not your home phone.

Who left the 20 messages? The bus driver/school officials or the police? Don't your kids know your cell phone number?

 

[SaraJayne]

I think troll. Isn't this a new version of the poster who took her child with autism on a train to WDW, and had a miserable time with her mother or some other relative there, or something like that? I know that poster was from NYC, was a single mother, didn't work, got no support from the children's father, the kids' ages seem to be about the same, and the posting style seems similar.

Yes, it's the same poster. She has various user names.

 

[msjprincess]

Inquiring minds want to know:

You have a home phone and a cell phone. Why would you even give out your home phone as a contact number? One would assume you run out to the grocery here or there, a doctor's appointment, etc. If something were to happen to your kids while you are out running errands, the school would need your cell number not your home phone.

Who left the 20 messages? The bus driver/school officials or the police? Don't your kids know your cell phone number?

I would think the school would ask for both. On the forms I fill out for school they ask for home, school and work numbers. Whenever they call my home phone and I don't answer, they immediately call my cell phone even if it's not an emergency.

I was confused about who called as well. We're talking about 2 different buses hours apart, right?

 

[torinsmom]

Inquiring minds want to know:

You have a home phone and a cell phone. Why would you even give out your home phone as a contact number? One would assume you run out to the grocery here or there, a doctor's appointment, etc. If something were to happen to your kids while you are out running errands, the school would need your cell number not your home phone.

Who left the 20 messages? The bus driver/school officials or the police? Don't your kids know your cell phone number?

I assumed it was her cell phone. She said the ringer was on low. She may be like many of us who only have a cell phone now. The bus drivers called her and she didn't hear it, so her kids calling it would have most likely gotten the same result.

 

[SaraJayne]

Maybe she has money from an inheritance or some sort of trust?

I have no idea who she is. After reading all the "updates" from other posters, I vaguelly remember something about her, but not much at all.

This poster has said in the past she's on public assistance, so I really don't think money from an inheritance comes into play.

 

[JessicaR]

Yes, it's the same poster. She has various user names.

And after this thread - more than likely another.

 

[LisaR]

I assumed it was her cell phone. She said the ringer was on low. She may be like many of us who only have a cell phone now. The bus drivers called her and she didn't hear it, so her kids calling it would have most likely gotten the same result.

Nope! She said in her first post that she checked the time on her cell phone, immediately cried, and ran and checked her home phone where she missed 20 calls.