I feel like I am back in high school

[hegsag]

My dd is in the second grade & I feel like I am back in high school again. Since she has entered elementry school I have noticed parents being cliquey, talking behind each others back, etc.

Is this typical behavior or just the town that I live in? It's rather disappointing...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

This is typical behavior. I don't miss it.

 

[EthansMom]

My dd is in the second grade & I feel like I am back in high school again. Since she has entered elementry school I have noticed parents being cliquey, talking behind each others back, etc.

Is this typical behavior or just the town that I live in? It's rather disappointing...

Typical behavior in our small town.

 

[DMickey28]

Not looking forward to this in our small town. I suppose it's like that anywhere though ... you have your group of friends and then you have others that don't like you/are jealous/etc.

 

[barkley]

it's so bad at ds's school i wont go to any school extra type events unless ds is required to or his heart is absolutly set on it (it's an issue with the moms so dh takes ds to as much as he can).

 

[sallysmom]

Unfortunately it's too typical. And kids pick up on it. My DD10 called her dear friend Halloween morning to ask if she could go TOT with her that night. Her friend said NO. No reason given. Just NO. And then 5 minutes later crank called her with another "friend" who had slept over the night before. I tell you I was in tears along with my daughter. Why would someone be that mean to a 10 year old?!?

 

[castleview]

It's typical among some people. But I've found that as an adult, it's not hard to be above it.

 

[just4today]

Yes, it's common. There are two moms in my neighborhood who are like that. Unfortunately our kids are involved in a lot of the same activities so I have to see them all the time.

 

[ma2jr]

Typical behavior...

 

[downsouth]

Most women don't grow up. They just get meaner!

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

It is typical, even in a not so small town..

It can get really bad. I had a parent who was "upset" chase me down the halls screaming and cornered me into a bathroom, all over petty stuff. Some of the parents are over the top and falling down the other side.

Good luck, my advice is do what you can to stay involved, but try to stay away from any form of "control" position - like school board.

 

[Acklander]

yeah, I guess it's always there. But as an adult I find it's a lot easier to stay out of the "politics" of the playground moms, and at the office.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Forgot to add you have to single out the mouthpiece so you don't say squat to them.

I am in a new neighborhood. So of course we are all chatting it up getting to know one another.

I found the mouthpiece. Now she is very nice however I know that I need to watch what I say because she is just a blabber.

I mentioned that we should do a neighborhood garage sale to her and then I got a flyer 3 weeks later saying were having one. It was not from her but I know she is the one that instigated it because she wanted her husband to clean the garage.

 

[Rora]

This is typical in everwhere- big or small, city or town.

I'm an elementary school teacher (3rd grade) and I am shocked by some of my (female, especially) students! They are cliquey, rude, and downright mean.

This of course continues throughout middle school, high school and sometimes college. UGH.

 

[Becky2005]

I haven't really noticed it here. I'm sure it probably goes on but considering I'm oblivious to things, it's possible.

Somehow I have been able to maintain civil contact with the adults even when I know there had been some kind of falling out with the kids. My DS doesn't hang around with one of the boys he used to a lot. I'm not 100% sure what happened (if anything, may have just been a natural shift in the friendship) but I still see the parents, we are both cordial to each other.

Of course, I've learned with my kids sometimes things are best friend one minute & mortal enemies the next in grade school. That seemed to happen more with DD though than DS -- so I always try to be cordial to all the parents. I have no idea if they are talking about me behind my back, could be. I do know things tend to be a little cliquey but part of that could also be because they know each other outside of school.

I know one mom because her son is the same age as my oldest & they hang out together. Her DD is nearly the same age as my middle son but she is a grade below him. We hang out when we see each other but I know she also knows other moms I don't know & vice versa. So, depending on who we are talking to about what that day, we may or may not talk to each other. I haven't really met any of the Kindergarten moms yet, I'm sure in a couple more years I will learn some of them.

 

[WhateverLolaWants]

I don't think it ever ends. I am a 24 year old female who works with only men who are 30+ and I find them horrible at minding their own business too. Maybe it's because I went to an all girls school, but I got sick of that stuff years ago and try to stay away.

 

[CJBaby]

I find that the people who were bullied in high school sometimes end up being bully adults. They especially have issues with people that remind them of the type that maybe used to exclude them. I really feel sorry for them. And of course there are some high school bullies who never grew up. I'm happy to be in neither category!

 

[Cindy's Mom]

Where I live in the city its like Mayberry here. Italian style

Our kids all go to the same schools that the parents did (our family included), So its like I NEVER left high school.

 

[pipersmom]

Where I live in the city its like Mayberry here. Italian style

Our kids all go to the same schools that the parents did (our family included), So its like I NEVER left high school.

Exactly..the cliquey/bossy moms here are the same girls that were bullies in HS and it totally..let's just say I dislike it immensely. I'm not as involved in my DDs school as I'd like because of it..not because I don't volunteer, but because it's very picky-choosy who gets phone calls..ugh! Oh well, only 3 more years until a new school where these girls..ermm..women will not be the queens of the roost.

 

[mjkacmom]

Where I live in the city its like Mayberry here. Italian style

Our kids all go to the same schools that the parents did (our family included), So its like I NEVER left high school.

Same here in NJ! My dad even grew up here, as did DH. My kids have teachers who I had. I've heard that people think they're looked down on if they didn't grow up here, but I don't think that's the case. However, I'm fortunate to be someone "in the loop," and I'll strike up a conversation with pretty much anyone, whether I know them or not!