I feel bad about our trip....

[cmonroe]

Hey Thanks!

Being a parent is not for everyone or every couple. I never had that biological clock ticking thing. It's not that I or my DH are selfish, we just enjoy different things in life. We have our own business in which we started with all our savings and really put it all on the line over 8 years ago...if we had kids I know we would never have done that. We love to travel...we take at least 8 spur of the moment luxury vacations per year...with kids we would not be able to do that. We eat out 2-3 times a week at upscale restaurants, have cocktail hour every day at 5, shop till we drop, get my hair and nails done,have 3 luxury cars, work out with trainer every morning ....well you get the picture. I am not selfish, I just always wanted this kind of life, and so did my DH. Our day to day life is not much different than vacations...just the location changes. I do however think there are many people that have children that should not or have kids for the wrong reasons. We have a neice and nephew that we love to pieces, we take them places and we have sleep overs and all kinds of fun stuff, we never miss a game or a recital. We love them dearly BUT I know I could not deal with homework, teachers, soccer, basketball, dance lessons, tantrums, diapers, late night feedings....definately not for me. It's not that I don't like kids...I just don't like the idea of being a parent.

Parents really amaze me...I just don't know how they do it. My DH and I have great business sense and have made a very comfortable luxurious life but changing diapers is just beyond anything I could do.

So I guess it is just in the reverse for us...as much as we need to spend time WITH our neice and nephew....that is the same as parents need to spend time with each other without kids. I do know that my brother and his wife REALLY appreciate it when we take them for an afternoon or a weekend...and to be honest I am just as happy to give them back!

Goofy,

I hope I did not infer in my response to you that you were selfish. After reading your post, it had actually caused me to refine my previous comments.
You peaked my curiousity, what kind of business did you and your dh open?

 

[goofie4goofy]

Goofy,

I hope I did not infer in my response to you that you were selfish. After reading your post, it had actually caused me to refine my previous comments.
You peaked my curiousity, what kind of business did you and your dh open?

Oh no! I did not get the "selfish" thing thing from you...not at all. I think society ie: my friends and my mother - LOL make comments to us like "it must be nice to have just yourself to worry about" or don't you get bored without kids or what exactly do you do besides take care of yourself....the list goes on. I guess some people think because you don't have children you life is empty and you have nothing to do.

My husband and I have an internet based business. We do not have employees or a staff or a store or a BOSS...we take off and go anywhere whenever we want. We can work and make money anywhere as we always take a laptop and cell phones with us. During the summer we take of to the beach most everyday. We buy and sell a rare and vintage item (since this is a public board I really don't want to say and do not want to seem like I am advertising). We have a big client base worldwide including some celebrities. We are to the point now where people call us and we get what they are looking for. In the beginning it took a huge leap of faith and all our money. It was always a dream of ours to be independant of bosses and worrying about money. It was scary since it was a huge investment and it something no one else ever did or does, so there was nothing to base it on. It is much easier now, but is still a lot of work. While most people are asleep we are on the phone with european customers. We love it we are very lucky as it affords us the luxury of freedom from things most people stress over.

 

[cmonroe]

That's great!

 

[caribear]

DH and I went to WDW for a long weekend last year and had the most wonderful time. We were able to do a Segway Tour and enjoy relaxing dinners together. Did we miss dd3? Yes, I think I called to check on her about 2 times a day. I always seemed to be saying...."Oh, she would love that....this is her favorite ride....she would laugh at that" and so on. But DH and I still had a great time and we would love to do it again!

 

[HollyJoy]

I'd like to wish you an early Happy Anniversary! This April is also our 10th Anniversary as well! Ours is April 20! We spent part of our Honeymoon in WDW 10 years ago, so I told DH that all I wanted this year was a trip back to WDW! Originally, we had planned to go at the end of this month (January), however those plans were scrapped due to DH having to travel for work. oh well.. But, we have rescheduled for December 2006.. better late than never! lol I know how you feel about feeling bad about leaving your kids... this is why we are taking ours! LOL I figure that we have had our kids for the majority of our marriage, so why not bring them along!

I hope you have a great trip!

 

[cgbsilver@hotmail.co]

UPDATE

I HAVE DECIDED TO TAKE THE TRIP, THANKS A LOT EVERYONE....

Here it is:

We are staying at AKL savannah View for three nights starting on April 17th.

Arriving at 8:25 AM

Breakfast at BOMA APRIL 17th
Lunch at PRIME TIME
DINNER at VICTORIA & ALBERTS

Breakfast at Crystal Palace April 18th
TOUR at MK with lunch at Columbia Harbour House I Think
Dinner at CRT

Breakfast at Donalds Breakfastosourus
EXPEDITION EVEREST OVERLOAD
LUNCH -Undecided-Suggestions???
DINNER JIKO or Fulton's - Suggestions???
LA NOUBA Show Time: 9:00 PM

APRIL 20th resting and going back home.

So what do you think???

What am I missing???

 

[pamjb]

DH & I did this in October 2005. We wanted to experience F&W festival, but knew that the kids (boys 15 & 11) wouldn't appreciate it. Not to mention the fact that I was keen on taking my 15 year old out of school for a week. We had such a great time. And my DH is not a Disney fan . But he is slowly turning. Because we didint' have the kids, we found the time to do the DVC tour and are now proud owners of 160 points at SSR.

 

[ConnieC]

Don't feel bad! Please enjoy your trip w/o children! I personally will not go to WDW because the place will remind me of my own children. When I get a chance to go somewhere w/o kids, I will choose a real adult place (don't know where. European cities will do?) But everybody is different.

And... I just want to second "we don't know why & how we do this (=being a parent)" but "we love our crazy children!".
cmonroe's comments about kids made me teary a bit. I had to comment.

Parenting is tough. I used to be just like goofie, enjoying MY life, going to concerts... right up till I had my first son at age 38. I married late. So, for me, it was really hard to adjust to "sacrificing" mode of parenting. Still now, it's kinda hard for me to say out loud "I LOVE BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM". But, I love my children. I will enjoy this May trip to WDW with them. Can't wait to see their faces when they see it!

 

[richard_andmel]

I think taking the trip is a great idea! It's important to have some husband & wife time, where you aren't being mom & dad for a bit every so often.

 

[LookOutBelow]

My Wife and I did the exact thing for our 10th Anniversary! It was unbelievable!!! Of course you'll miss the kids, but the time you'll get with each other will make it all worth it! We had such a great time being big kids. My wife got her autograph book the first afternoon and we had such a blast hunting down all the characters all week. Plus don't forget your Mouse Ears!
HAVE A GREAT TIME!!!