I don't listen to fat people so...

[dejr_8]

I don't have to listen to you.

That's what a friends 8 year old son told her! Can you believe THAT!

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Thats nuts - but there is a lot of hatred toward fat folks.

 

[Ohiodislover]

hatred is a strong word to describe the actions/words of an 8 Y.O.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

Good gracious that is crazy!

I hope she responded appropriately!

 

[dejr_8]

hatred is a strong word to describe the actions/words of an 8 Y.O.

What got me about the comment from the boy is

1)Where did he come up with the "I don't have to listen to fat people..."

2)where did he get the [edited] to say that to his mom

 

[Ohiodislover]

What got me about the comment from the boy is

1)Where did he come up with the "I don't have to listen to fat people..."

2)where did he get the [edited] to say that to his mom

I should have quoted chicagodisfan. He made the hatred remark.

As to your OP... Bet he is living in fear right now

 

[disney1990]

I'm afraid that he would KNOW why he had to listen to me before it was over. If you have a child that is talking to their Mom like this at age 8, what are they going to be like as a teenager? Time to put an end to this right now!

 

[Judy from Boise]

I agree absolutely unacceptable to be disrespectful, but perhaps there is some pain behind the remark? He might very well be embarrassed. Peer pressure is starting and it would be hard to have a significantly heavier than average mom.
Again, no excuse....but I always look for the feelings behind statements.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Wow. Double whammy.

 

[teacups]

Wow. Double whammy.

No kidding.
He'd be scrubbing the bathroom with a toothbrush.

 

[DisneyBride'03]

I think he perhaps heard it from an ignorant adult and repeated it...who knows!

 

[catycatcat4]

Why are some of you freaking out? Kids say odd stuff like that all the time or somtimes depending on the kid.

He probably didn't hear it probably just popped in his head and he used it (i'm not saying he shouldn't be in trouble)


I thought it was funny

 

[FireDancer]

An 8 year old wouldn't say something like that if he didn't have reason to believe it was acceptable at some level. Maybe as a PP stated it is a reaction to teasing and he is mimicking what other kids are saying. Perhaps an adult he knows has said something like that to an adult in his presence and he has learned the behavior.

The best think that can be done is to sit down the the 8 year old and explain why it is improper to say such a thing and then figure out why he felt he was able to say it. Just punishing him won't get to the root problem.

 

[redlight]

An 8 year old wouldn't say something like that if he didn't have reason to believe it was acceptable at some level.

I disagree. 8 years old is old enough to say things you know are hurtful. I don't know what prompted this child to say it, but I'd bet he knew it would hurt.

 

[ols386]

Kids say all kinds of hateful things. That kid shouldn't be saying this to his mother (or anyone), and the mother should set him straight about that. But I don't think he said it because he has some deep-seeded hatred. But he does need to be spoken to about it, and disciplined in some way, so that hopefully he won't say something like this again.

 

[Jillpie]

After having all the appropriate discussions with this boy, I would probably take this as a huge "red flag" and get myself to the gym the next day. There's probably lots of truth to those words and yes, he's most likely embarrassed that Mom is looking the way she is, and its time to do something about it. Was he wrong in saying it, absolutely. Is it true, only Mom can answer that. Maybe the OP can answer that too. This could have been her "rock bottom" moment. What do they say, out of the mouths of babes?

 

[FireDancer]

After having all the appropriate discussions with this boy, I would probably take this as a huge "red flag" and get myself to the gym the next day. There's probably lots of truth to those words and yes, he's most likely embarrassed that Mom is looking the way she is, and its time to do something about it. Was he wrong in saying it, absolutely. Is it true, only Mom can answer that. Maybe the OP can answer that too. This could have been her "rock bottom" moment. What do they say, out of the mouths of babes?

I was trying to think of a good way of saying exactly that. Be prepared for some flaming though, people hate to hear the truth sometimes.

 

[Angelhalo]

After having all the appropriate discussions with this boy, I would probably take this as a huge "red flag" and get myself to the gym the next day. There's probably lots of truth to those words and yes, he's most likely embarrassed that Mom is looking the way she is, and its time to do something about it. Was he wrong in saying it, absolutely. Is it true, only Mom can answer that. Maybe the OP can answer that too. This could have been her "rock bottom" moment. What do they say, out of the mouths of babes?

 

[Bluestars]

After having all the appropriate discussions with this boy, I would probably take this as a huge "red flag" and get myself to the gym the next day. There's probably lots of truth to those words and yes, he's most likely embarrassed that Mom is looking the way she is, and its time to do something about it. Was he wrong in saying it, absolutely. Is it true, only Mom can answer that. Maybe the OP can answer that too. This could have been her "rock bottom" moment. What do they say, out of the mouths of babes?

Rude behavior out of a child shouldn't be tolerated for any reason. Children shouldn't be telling their parents how much they should weigh, what they should wear, or anything else for that matter, or making rude comments to them. There is no way I would allow my children to speak to any adult this way.

I guess rude children who aren't corrected grow into rude adults.

 

[Liberty Belle]

After having all the appropriate discussions with this boy, I would probably take this as a huge "red flag" and get myself to the gym the next day. There's probably lots of truth to those words and yes, he's most likely embarrassed that Mom is looking the way she is, and its time to do something about it. Was he wrong in saying it, absolutely. Is it true, only Mom can answer that. Maybe the OP can answer that too. This could have been her "rock bottom" moment. What do they say, out of the mouths of babes?

Is what true?

Most fat people do know they're fat, believe it or not.