I don't know if I should kiss him or kill him!

[Dan Murphy]

Sounds like a good dad to me. Kiss him.

And, OT, but nice to see you here, Tressa.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Sounds to me like he wanted to do something nice for you both. Since you provided him with a beautiful grandbaby he's showing his appreciation. And since you'll pay him back he won't be out any money.

If this were any everyday kind of thing I'd worry but it sounds like he did it in the right spirit.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Put yourself in your FIL's shoes. When James grows up and starts a family of his own, you and DH may see him needing something. If you're in a position to help him, you will. Because you love him. It's the Circle of Life, dear.

I got married after both my parents had passed on. If it were up to me, we would have had a small wedding because I couldn't see spending a lot of cash on a party at that point in my life. But my in-laws wanted a wedding for us and generously paid for a nice reception with 100 guests. And top of that, they gave us a pretty hefty cash gift.

When I told my FIL that I didn't know how we could ever thank him enough, this what he said to me, "When my grandchildren grow up, I want you to do for them what mom and I have done for you. That will be all the thanks I could ever want or need."

Sounds like you married into the same kind of family. Cherish them, TOV, for you are blessed to have them.

And do for James what they've done for you.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

I'll have to tell that to DH, Janice. He and I are both extremely independent people who don't ask anyone for anything unless we are like oh, I don't know...bleeding out the eyes or missing a limb or something.


TOV

 

[mom2boys]

If you are uncomfortable with the situation, why not have DFiL hang onto the jeep until you sell the cruiser, then you will have the $ to pay him for the jeep.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

I guess I was unclear, but that's what he's doing. He will not release the Jeep to us until the Cruiser is sold off and we give him some, if not all, of the money we owe him.


TOV

 

[TEENEE]

My ex FIL is like your FIL. He loaned us $ to use towards our down payment on our house. I tried several times to repay him but he would never take the money. He would just tell us to use it for something that we needed. My ex and I never asked anyone to give us anything but my ex sil always asked. I think my ex-il's appreciated the fact that we were independent. They just wanted to give us the money as a gracious gift. I think your FIL did this out of this goodness of his big heart and he should be thanked. When parents see their kids working hard to succeed they want to help out occassionally.

 

[Madi100]

My dad shows his love through his pocket book. That may sound harsh, but it's the way he is. He is pretty well off, and if he likes to buy things for people. He's not rich, he just is very comfortable (he has a new house, drives new cars, and I don't believe even his underwear come from Target). My dad is not big on saying I Love You. I've come to realize that his way of showing love is to buy things for people. He isn't trying to buy our love, he's just showing us he loves us. It used to bother my DH, but now he has realized that is the way my dad is. If he can do things that are going to help us out, he will. We've never asked for anything from him, and I think that makes a HUGE difference.

So, I say kiss the man. You didn't ask him to do it. Maybe he thought it was a super deal on the car, and he didn't want to see it pass by. Especially since you don't get it until you sell your car, I don't see a problem with it. It will be like you are buying the car from him instead of the person that was selling it.

 

[Trish Bessette]

What a great FIL, tell him you appreciate him.

We've never asked any family members for help either and my DH mom is always asking us "would you like any money" She has helped her other children and I think feels the same way as your FIL, just wants to give us something as well.

Hey MIL, I would love a trip to Disney

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

I know when DH first told me I was like "Can I cut his ponytail off and strangle him with it now?" in kind of a joking manner (DFIL has a ponytail that hangs down to the middle of his back). And I kind of feel bad that he did this in a way because they've done so much for us already by agreeing to babysit James when DH and I are at work.


But I can't wait to see the car. DH says it's totally awesome.

TOV