I cut my daughter's hair too short and feel just awful!

[rdrjj5]

I stupidly tried to save myself some time and aggravation of taking my daughter (almost 5) her to get her long hair cut. I could not see myself dragging my 3 year old twins to the hairdressers. Her hair was almost down to her bum and I cut 5 inches instead of the 3 inches I wanted. Her hair is now at the bottom of her shoulder blades. I thought my DH was going to die! He reacted badly (for which he apologized) which then set off my DD to think other people would react the same way. She is now finally sleeping and I feel horrible about my screw up. I know in 2 to 3 months her hair will grow back to where I intended. But for now, how can I make this ok for my daughter?

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

first, I don't think it's too short. and your dh truly needs to aplogize to dd.

but still, if you want to distract her from the length, buy something pretty to put in her hair, something that will work well with the current style and will cause people to comment about how pretty her hair looks.

 

[Pop Daddy]

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[Kallison]

Calm down -- it will grow, I don't see it as that big of a deal. I once cut gave my son a reverse mohawk when I forgot to put the guide on the buzzers. We still laugh about the lady in McDonald's coming up and saying "What is wrong with him?"

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

Same exact think happened to me. My daughter was 5. She had GORGEOUS curls down her back. Everyone said DONT DO IT!!
DD wanted her hair cut. I gave in.

She no longer has curls. Its been a year since that and she now has beautiful hair. Still no curls, but that would not have lasted forever.

I would suggest in the morning you take her to the store and let her pick out several new hair accessories. Clips, headbands etc... also a new brush and maybe a hello kitty hair dryer. Tell her that because she has big girl hair now she can pick out some new things.

You did not screw up. She eventually needed a hair cut.

 

[rdrjj5]

Thanks all! I know it will grow back and I am just glad I did it going into the summer season. Her hair grows real fast as this was probably the 6th or 7th time I had the length cut. It was getting so snarly lately that it needed to be done. I told her in the morning I would try new hair styles, any way she wanted.

 

[momof3disneyholics]

Yes, don't forget how fast it will grow I cut my daughter curly hair up to her shoulders last year and it is already back down to her waist. It's just hair, she'll be cute no matter what length.

 

[Chris2597]

Dont feel badly....I think almost every mother of a girl has a horrible hair story.....I have two....
My oldest now 26 was 13 when one day she asked me "trim" her bangs.....she was growing out her hair and didnt want to go to the hair salon....for some reason....I got distracted as I was cutting and chopped her bangs way too short and too far back on her head....It looked truly awful....We tried everything to try to cover it up.....it took a month or so for the bangs to look normal. I felt horrible....She still brings it up to this day.
My youngest dd had hair down to her bottom, shiny, and beautiful...but she decided she wanted it cut....so off we went to the hair salon....She wanted it to her shoulders so the stylist tied a band around it and cut above the band.....the cut turned out to be well about her neck and totally uneven....She ended up with a very very short bob to her ears.....I contained how upset I was until I got behind my bedroom door.....and the tears fell...She was only 7 and thought it looked fine.....It grew back quickly and none of us were the worse for wear.

 

[helenabear]

I wouldn't feel badly at all either. I hope your DH does apologize to her too. Anyway, just remember there is nothing saying that a hairdresser wouldn't have cut just as much off as you did. I have told some about 3 inches to get about 5 (or more) taken off (at reputable places as well). So it might have happened no matter what. I bet it looks very cute now

 

[poochie]

Remember it will grow back, and shame on your DH for reacting in front of your DD. I agree take her out shopping for new hair accessories for her new hair cut. They have so many cute things out there to choose from. Then end your trip with a special big girls lunch

Also as a side note, both myself and my daughter when our hair was really long, we tended to get more headaches than usual, found it to be from the weight of our hair.

 

[luv2nascar]

I agree the same thing could have happened at the hairdressers
it has happened to me
it's only hair it will grow back quickly
it will be easier to care for this summer any ways
maybe you'll end up liking it better

 

[CEDmom]

Just remember it's only hair and it will grow back before you know it. I think your DH needs to rethink how he reacted to this accident. Why does he care so much about her hair? Let your DD buy some pretty hair accesories and let the matter go.

I remember when DD cut part of her bangs off and instead of taking her to the hairdresser to fix I tried to do it myself. Boy what a mess I made. I have some great pictures of what DD did and then my attempt to fix it. It's something I laugh about now.

 

[Disney Doll]

It's hair. It'll grow back. The bigger issue you make of it, the bigger issue it will become.

Tell your DH to think before he speaks!

 

[HollyJoy]

It's just hair! It'll grow back. Don't worry yourself so much!

 

[TINKTWINS]

My DD has curly hair, as do I, which shrinks after its cut, I have in the past trimmed off more than I wanted and felt bad, but shes only 4 and really has no idea, but whenever I have beed trying to get my hair longer or ever hers I wear it up more, one summer, I kept it in a clip or something every day so by the fall when I wanted it down it had grown without me stressing over it daily.

I also vote for getting her cool stuff for her new-do!!

 

[izzy]

Please repeat after me:

"It's just hair. It will grow back."

There, now don't you feel better?

Of course, you should probably get your DH to repeat this about 500 times!

 

[mep319]

Down to her shoulders is not short! Actually I am not a fan of hair down to someones "bum" I don't think it is attractive on anyone. It overwhelms most folks...especially young children. And typically it is damaged, split ends, varying colors from the sun and looks just bad. Not to mention your daughter's hair is probably much healtier now and if you choose to grow it back it will look much better. I remember my mother insisting my sister have her hair very long and took it to have it trimmed. The stylist was very kind but explained it was damaged and needed to have about 8 inches cut. Her hair was on the fine side. I don't know what happened but after that cut her hair was much thicker and much more beautiful. As long as you can pull it back it is long to me! Her face and charm is what makes her beautiful...not her hair!

 

[rdrjj5]

My DD decided this morning she liked it. (It helped when grandma and auntie told her how much older she looked.) The reason I wanted to cut it was to get rid of the split ends and bathtime was horrible with all the snarls! My DH knew right after he said something last night he was wrong to do so and quickly apologized to DD. I had new cinderella hair clips put away for her birthday and had them waiting for her this morning. I'm just glad I was the one to screw up and not someone I paid to cut her hair. It does look perfectly fine, just shorter than I intended. It could have been alot worse. I now know cutting hair is not a talent of mine!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Her her is not too short! Now my 7yodd's hair is, . Her hair is "bobbed" right below her ear. She likes it that short.