I am such a moron!!

[Lizziejane]

Consider it a narrow escape. By the sounds of it, even if she did go, it would just be a disaster waiting to happen. This way, you know you won't have her to worry about and you'll probably be more relaxed when you are on that vacation.

You know what they say about being stuck in a space with family or fish...they both get nasty after a very short period!

 

[shantay1008]

I feel so terrible for those poor kids! I can't imagine telling my kids a month before leaving for WDW, "Oh, sorry, you can't go after all." Times like this I wish I were really rich, so I could just send them some plane tickets. I hope something works out for them. Please let us know if there's a happy ending!
Shannon

 

[Sammy]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! I have several family members I would NEVER consider taking on vacation with us......EVER. However, your best revenge would be for you and your other sister to have the most wonderful vacation in your fabulous GRAND VILLA. We stayed in one last year and it was unbelieveable. You can come home from vacation and go on and on and on about how incredible your accommodations were, how awesome the pool area was, how much fun the parks were, etc., etc. You will have a teriffic time in spite of your sister!

 

[MojitoMiss]

No good deed goes unpunished.

I'm also the middle sister. Why does it always seem like one sister's being a jerk?

My mother keeps mentioning a trip with all of us going together--her, her daughters and grandchildren. Notice she omits husbands, but that's a different issue. She's even been using guilt lately--"I want to go with all my grandkids to Disney once more before I die." Note: the woman is 65 and in perfect health. And she never has to cross busy intersections during rush hour.

Pressure's been on lately since they know I joined DVC. But if I have learned anything from this board, this is it. My response has been, "Let me know when you're planning to go and I'll take care of my reservations." And just so they won't talk about me TOO much (you know how a family of women can be ) I've offered my mom the choice of staying in our 2 BR, since we'd need one either way.


Are your sis's kids well-behaved enough so that you'd consider taking them without her? That would be something I'd consider, because I like being the favorite aunt. (And also because one day they might pressure my children not to go forward with the nursing home decision. )

MM

 

[rantnnravin]

Any chance the kids might still come along with the rest of the family?

Are your sis's kids well-behaved enough so that you'd consider taking them without her?

Sounds to me like this is just the type of response DSis was expecting to be offered.
She'd be free at home to sip mimosas and hang out by the pool while someone else dealt with her kids 24/7 for a week.
i wouldn't give her the satisfaction--

 

[Disneyfrek]

Been there, done that. Had the whole trip (OKW GV) booked and then beloved family members started backing out. Thank god it was both sides of the family, lol. I was able to get rid of the GV for all but one night. Boy, what a mistake!! The GV was awesome and the kids didn't even want to go anywhere that day, just stay in the room. It was fantastic. Anyways, I , too, was going to suggest taking your neice & newphew with you. We've done that almost every trip (7 down, 2 to go, lol) Why should they suffer because their mom's a moron, not you? BTW, learned my lesson and the future offers are permanently revoked

 

[bobbiwoz]

If you like her kids and the cousins get along, would you consider taking her children? If so, do that, make it your decision and not just because your sister backed out. Have a great time.

Bobbi

 

[tgj]

If it helps any, you have my thanks for sharing this and possibly preventing others from having a similar bad experience.... From now on, like a previous post suggested, if family wants to travel with us, they can make their plans and we'll make ours. That way, if they back out at least we'll have a great time.

 

[OneMoreTry]

If you like her kids and the cousins get along, would you consider taking her children? If so, do that, make it your decision and not just because your sister backed out. Have a great time.

Bobbi

I was about to post this same thing.

I don't think she gave you the real reason, whatever that might be. The excuse sounds too lame to be true.

If your use year isn't too soon, you could try to change to a 2BR and then use the extra points later. Otherwise, the GV will sure feel good and I envy you being able to enjoy it!!

 

[dianeschlicht]

I hereby give you permission to , GUILT FREE , give a nice little card every birthday and xmas (or other holiday) for the next 10 years deducting points equal to a gift amount ( I say 4-5 points per gift = $40 - $50 each gift ) and a wish that she could have been there for the trip you spent your hard earned cash on for her and her family. Which is exactly what you do when you WASTE points on them .


NOW do NOT repeat this mistake again

Seems fair to me!

 

[gracelrm]

We planned a big family gathering for DH's family two years ago. We explained the importance of the 30 days prior to check in and how we MUST know before this time if anyone was not coming. We even told them how this would HURT us, not just a DVC rule. We sent out reminders and even called with about 32 days left. Everyone was going! About 3 weeks before our planned vacation, BIL & SIL bow out (the ones we knew all along would do this). That's okay, we'd just have a little more room for all our favorite family members. We were okay with that ( well not really, but that's the mature way to be). Then about 1 week before time to go, Everyone says they are leaving a day earlier than planned (that was for a Saturday night). So that was a bunch of points to go into holding. I was aggravated, but then with our holding points, we had a Christmas trip that we hadn't planned on. So sometimes, I think it works out for the best! Hope it does for you.

 

[Pluto4Pres]

A. You're not a moron. You were trying to do a nice thing out of the generousity of your heart.

B. If you ever offer it again, you will be a moron.

C. There's still a lot of potential for a great trip. You can go with 8 in a GV with lots of room to spread out, or if you are able to downgrade to a 2BR, there's an extra unexpected trip in your future. You could also rent the points for some extra cash.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

 

[MickeyCrazed]

Your post sealed the deal! Im not putting my life on hold waiting for others who couldnt plan a trip to Wal-Mart!

LOL! This perfectly describes my family!

About the jury thing.... PICK ME, PICK ME!
I was jury foreman once, and it was really cool!

 

[disfountainofyouth]

Why don't you take your neice and nephew and let her stay home. Why
should the kids have to suffer for their mothers selfishness!

 

[eliza61]

Why don't you take your neice and nephew and let her stay home. Why
should the kids have to suffer for their mothers selfishness!

That's what I'm working on now. The saga continues...

 

[jade1]

That's what I'm working on now. The saga continues...

We have taken our niece and nephew 2 times and left the albatross.... I mean SIL at home both times. It was great.

 

[castleri]

That's what I'm working on now. The saga continues...

Good luck- based on your signature I hope you are able to allow you niece and nephew some of those moments-

I ended up with 5 in a GV at Christmas(lots of points because of family cancelling) one year- it was great - 5 people 4 bathrooms- no one sleeping in the living room -butttt- this year I have booked a 2 BR and a studio - just in case I get the call that says - uh we don't think----------

Good luck and have a magical trip.

 

[canwegosoon]

I totally hear you...sorry ...most of us have been there.

 

[CRSNDSNY]

I feel so terrible for those poor kids! I can't imagine telling my kids a month before leaving for WDW, "Oh, sorry, you can't go after all."

This happened to my nephews this year. My sister pumped them up for over a year for a trip to WDW this October. She cancelled about two months ago. I'm such a sucker....take a look at my ticker.

To the OP== family can be really sucky. Hard lesson learned.

 

[schwenksvillemouse]

Been there and done that. We planned a GV at HHI a few years back and I ended up losing 35 points in holding hell. That was before I even knew you could rent points and the Disboards existed.