I am such a moron!!

[shantay1008]

This happened to my nephews this year. My sister pumped them up for over a year for a trip to WDW this October. She cancelled about two months ago. I'm such a sucker....take a look at my ticker.

You aren't a sucker at all! You're awesome, and those kiddos are so lucky to have someone to pick up the slack after their mom blew it. I hope you all have a wonderful, magical vacation...truly.
Shannon

 

[lizziepooh]

I agree that it would be nice for the kids to go but I also understand the extra responsibility and work for you taking someone elses kids. I wonder if sis planned this all along and figured you would feel guilty and take the kids anyway. You are kind of between a rock and a hard place. I feel bad for kids that are victims of parents inconsiderate actions. Good luck! I hope it all works out.

 

[SleepyatDVC]

Good luck working out whether you are taking your sister's kids or not. Regardless, enjoy YOUR trip!!!

Don't worry about joining the Moron's Club. It's a very large club that includes members that got shafted by bailing family and friends. And then there are those where all the family did show up and we wished they didn't by the end of the trip!! Lol!

 

[Deb & Bill]

You are moving from the Moron's Club to the Beloved Aunt Club. You will be held to high esteem by these kids as the wonderful aunt to took them to WDW when their mom pooped out on them.

 

[MissD]

And then there are those where all the family did show up and we wished they didn't by the end of the trip!! Lol!

SO TRUE!

 

[goofyforlife]

I may need 12 dvc members to sit on my jury because I may be committing homicide.

Consider me well qualified for jury duty.....

Last Dec i got a two bedroom at WLV for 8 days (a little longer than we usually would stay) and paid cash for the last night to boot.....

Along with my DD and DH, My Dh's cousin and her DH and three kids were supposed to go also. We made the plans 7 months in advance and kept calling every couple months to verify that they still wanted to go. Well don't you know about a month beforehand she says, Oh i think we want to get our own place and stay closer to Universal. They were supposed to get a cheap timeshare for a week. OK, I didn't want to go to Universal but to keep the kids together i found the cheapest deal and even advanced purchased our tickets.

A week before we were to go I hadn't heard from her so i called and she gave me some lame excuse that her DH had fallen and had something wrong with his shoulder and they weren't going.

Needless to say the three of us spent the week in a two bedroom quite spaciously but i was seething none-the-less.

Yes, i can report for jury duty....

 

[spiceycat]

so sorry!!!

lean from this.

next time book a studio for each family.... okay your family can have a 1-bedroom.

have fun anyway.

definitely available for jury duty.

ask ms about your 'one time only' darn it I can't remember what it is called.

Anyway for one time only MS will return points to your account - I think they might even put back in 2007 those points.

call them and see if they can work out a deal with you.

you realize if her kids go you will still need the GV.

 

[Laurajean1014]

Count me in!

Relatives and vacations may not mix, but bacardi and rum always do!

 

[kcdisneymom]

Sorry to hear about your inlaws(or outlaws in our family). Anxious to hear if the kids will get to go. We should all enjoy Disney at least once. Keep us posted.

 

[byoung]

I'll join the jury. Family can be the worst.

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

I hope everything works out with your situation.

I've invited my sis with BIL and dn9 and dn6 on our 1st trip home to BWV in April, which is the dn's Spring Break - two weeks after Easter. They are currently gone to the Smoky Mtns for Summer vacation, and mentioned that they are going on a short trip to Gulf Shores, AL in Oct. with BIL's family. (The kids are out of school 3 days in Oct., which was what we originally planned. The schools set the schedule really late, ya da, ya da, ya da. October didn't work out for our trip.

I've mentioned to sis that we will need to start planning our ADR's, tickets, etc. soon and keep getting a very subdued response.

I also joked, boy three nice trips in 9 months -- you guys like to vacation. I've also been really blunt, I need to know if you guys aren't going, really.

Sis says, you better believe we're going to WDW with you guys in April. We called on the 1st day at 11 months and got a Boardwalk View, 2 Bdrm.

Sis is usually responsible, but may be hoping to make kids, inlaws, and everybody else happy until it blows up in her face. I'm hoping worst case scenario, we get a lot of good use of the kitchen, or she tells me early.

I'm going to push that they need to order their tickets way in advance.

Do I have the jitters or am I going to be jilted?

Anyway, misery loves company.

 

[DVC Grammy]

so sorry!!!

lean from this.

next time book a studio for each family.... okay your family can have a 1-bedroom.

have fun anyway.

definitely available for jury duty.

ask ms about your 'one time only' darn it I can't remember what it is called.

Anyway for one time only MS will return points to your account - I think they might even put back in 2007 those points.

call them and see if they can work out a deal with you.

you realize if her kids go you will still need the GV.

When we first began inviting family or friends to join us at WDW, we made it very clear that we'd book only studios for anyone; if they wanted bigger, they had the option of reaching into their wallet. We gave as our reason the fact that DH and I are very early risers and didn't want to disturb anyone else's morning sleep . Luckily for us, everyone we've asked are late sleepers!!
This way, if anyone cancels, we only have to worry about a minimum number of points. So far, no one has ever cancelled, so we haven't had to put our theory to the test.

 

[castleri]

I hope everything works out with your situation.

I've invited my sis with BIL and dn9 and dn6 on our 1st trip home to BWV in April, which is the dn's Spring Break - two weeks after Easter. They are currently gone to the Smoky Mtns for Summer vacation, and mentioned that they are going on a short trip to Gulf Shores, AL in Oct. with BIL's family. (The kids are out of school 3 days in Oct., which was what we originally planned. The schools set the schedule really late, ya da, ya da, ya da. October didn't work out for our trip.

I've mentioned to sis that we will need to start planning our ADR's, tickets, etc. soon and keep getting a very subdued response.

I also joked, boy three nice trips in 9 months -- you guys like to vacation. I've also been really blunt, I need to know if you guys aren't going, really.

Sis says, you better believe we're going to WDW with you guys in April. We called on the 1st day at 11 months and got a Boardwalk View, 2 Bdrm.

Sis is usually responsible, but may be hoping to make kids, inlaws, and everybody else happy until it blows up in her face. I'm hoping worst case scenario, we get a lot of good use of the kitchen, or she tells me early.

I'm going to push that they need to order their tickets way in advance.

Do I have the jitters or am I going to be jilted?

Anyway, misery loves company.

Do you have enough points to book a smaller unit just in case you need to cancel DSIS part of trip? Book now and then make sure you cancel whichever one you don't need in time to save your points. The other option is to be really, really blunt and explain that different size units use different amounts of points and you NEED to know for certain that they are coming.
I guess my situation with DSD who has been making "itinerary after itinerary daily since the 11 month window and co-ordinating ADRs and even has it down to where we should eat lunch at counter service places each day is just the opposite and I should be thankful that I know there will be no backing out. We have learned to just close the ears and say okay - yes, that's fine - since everything except the ADRs will be different by tomorrow.

 

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Do you have enough points to book a smaller unit just in case you need to cancel DSIS part of trip? Book now and then make sure you cancel whichever one you don't need in time to save your points.

Gee Thanks! I forgot that I can't just drop the studio off the reservation. This is a little complicated, but...

Our 5 days BW view at BWV is 200 points. I've really wanted to vacation with Sis and DH really wanted BW view.

We own 100 pts with February UY.

We are using 29 pts for HHI this year, banking 71 pts 06, using 100 07 pts, and borrowing 29 pts from 08.

Are we o.k. as long as we use 100 pts before February 08, and bank our 100 07 by July, and give 30 days notice?

I will be a bit more blunt as well. I'm still a little apprehensive about giving DVC details to relatives. The word Timeshare in Alabama is almost code for scam.

 

[castleri]

Gee Thanks! I forgot that I can't just drop the studio off the reservation. This is a little complicated, but...

Our 5 days BW view at BWV is 200 points. I've really wanted to vacation with Sis and DH really wanted BW view.

We own 100 pts with February UY.

We are using 29 pts for HHI this year, banking 71 pts 06, using 100 07 pts, and borrowing 29 pts from 08.

Are we o.k. as long as we use 100 pts before February 08, and bank our 100 07 by July, and give 30 days notice?

I will be a bit more blunt as well. I'm still a little apprehensive about giving DVC details to relatives. The word Timeshare in Alabama is almost code for scam.

Mickeys apprentice--
I think you have the point situation down correctly- just make certain that whatever you finally do the points that can no longer be banked or borrowed are used first and I think you have that figured out. I just don't know if you will have enough to hold both reservations at the same time. You need to cancel 31 days or more before your check in date for the points to go back into your account without being in holding status.

I would not go into money detail - just explain that DVC does not work like a regular timeshare where you get a given week or number of days in the same unit every year and that the difference between a 1 and 2 BR unit could be the difference of an additonal trip if they do not go and you get a smaller room. Also explain that you must get the room reserved early or you may not be able to get one if they are not coming and you want to go with a smaller unit. I would also tell her how much you want her and her family to join you but that you will understand if they are having second thoughts and add just please say so now so changes can be made.

Good luck and whatever happens I hope you have a wonderful trip.

 

[Ms.Mouse]

I may need 12 dvc members to sit on my jury because I may be committing homicide.

I'M IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a couple of friends like that.... And.... They're coming and then not...and yes, and no.... it goes on and on and know what???? In the end of it all....I'm going with DH ALONE No guests.

 

[2Princes2Princesses]

I am lucky on this front...one of my sisters would never go to WDW...she would probably keel over at the prices anyway, although we are trying to take my BIL, he would LOVE the golfing.

My brothers I see once a year, so don't have to worry about them.

We bring my mom and my other sister. With us and 4 kids, we need a 2 BR anyway, so if either one cancels....who cares?? So....we will never take more people than the room we planned on getting for us can hold!!

At least for now. BUT.....if I had more family or friends who wanted to go...I would probably be joining the club.

 

[Cruelladeville]

Take heart...you are only a moron if you don't learn after the first time. I'm a first class moron, because it took me THREE times to learn my lesson. The first trip, Mom cancelled when we arrived to pick her up!! Everyone was packed, and she refused to go. There was a huge fight, everyone screamed at everyone else, and this left a pall over the whole trip.

Everyone worked on me for three years to try it again. I finally relented...We had planned to arrive earlier than everyone else ...Mom and Sisters and their families cancelled their airfare, and rebooked to arrive before us. When we arrived, Mom had gotten their reservations transferred over to WLV...and left us at BWV. I should have killed her then. I sure felt like it...

Two years later, I invited sister(Mom was NOT invited) and her family to share a GV at OKW. They insisted three times that I change ressies to fit their schedule, and then backed out anyway at the last minute, because kids decided to go to camp. So we invited friends of our kids, and had a great time!

It's a sorry excuse for a family...so, no, you are definitely NOT a moron. I am about the only person on the DIS board who is...

 

[ont/ohana]

I can't imagine people cancelling at the last minute. We want to take my Mom and Dad down to a two bedroom for DM's 65 Bday. She keeps him/hawing over it. They have a huge travel trailer and said they would rather stay in that. We want them to have a little vacation away from that and fly down with us. My mom has never flown because they have this **!#* trailer. She is a great women and I'd like to treat her once and a while.
Anyhooo-In 2003 they stayed at Ft.Wilderness campground and wanted us to come to pick them up(using Dis busses!!) what a run around. 60mins each way. Oh well, we left it up to them whether or not they want to come in 2007 but they still say they will stay in the **!#* trailer!!!
I have so many friends who want to come and stay with us but are a little leary about it. Asking for some down nr payment is a very good way to make sure you don't waste(not that anything as SSR OR DISNEY is a waste) your points and dissapoint our kids!

 

[sajetto]

Hugs to you OP


That was one seriously rude thing for your sis to do. However, I really don't think her kids are your responsibility. Only take them if it is something you really want to do.