Sorry for posting this here, but I do not have anyone else who will hear me out!!! So here it goes...
I have a friend who is getting married. We have known each other for 20 years, but have just recently moved to the same city. We have always been in contact with each other, but never been really too close to each other. Well, during Christmas time this past year she got engaged. A few weeks later, she called and asked me to be in her wedding. Of course, I said yes. I told Dh and he was really shocked that she did not come over to ask me to be in the wedding. I hadn't really thought about that. But after he said that, I wondered to same thing (we live about 15 minutes from each other). No big deal though. During the phone conversation with her, she asked if I minded wearing red? Well, being a red head, I do not ever wear red. I told her that it was not my best color, but I would wear it for her if that was the color she was going for. Her response, oh that's good, because that is the color we are going with. (Oh great a $150+ dress that I will never again wear)! Oh well.
Fast forward--I called her last week to see how things were going. All things were going good. She kind of hinted around to all of these things that other brides had gotten during the course of the engagement. Meaning showers (at least four that she was talking about), lunchons, bachelorette parties. As she is saying all of this, I am thinking, I don't have to go to all of these things, do I? I am assuming that the reason that she was telling me all of this was to let me know that I am expected to go to all of these places--each requiring a gift. Later on in the conversation she asked about my kids (which I have 5 of
). I told her that I would have my parents fly in for the weekend to take care of them. You could hear the relief in her voice. Now, I had invited her and a guest to my wedding. She was planning to be in town to visit family. She called me when she got the invitation to my wedding asking if it was OK for her Mom, Grandma, and two cousins to come with her as guests. Ahhhh, OK I guess. We had a sit down dinner at a country club. Dinner was $35/plate and that did not include the open bar plus appetizers and dessert bar. I was kind of irritated that she could invite all these adults to my wedding, but not include my kids at her wedding.
One last thing that I should have said before. Her DF is in the military ( my friend and he have only been in contact by telephone and e-mail plus the 3 two "vacations" that has gotten to come home---I very much worry about that because she is NOT the easiest to get along with and she has already said that he needs to "change" when they get married--yikes) . He is supposed to get out in August. His group (I am sure this is not what it is called) is supposed to go to Iraq in June. He was in Iraq last year and has some bad post stress. He is hoping that due to that, he will not have to go back. But, if he does, the wedding is off, and they will go to a justice of the peace. Well, she wants us (the bridesmaids) to get our dresses in April. I am really thinking that we should wait until July--wedding is in December.
If you have made it through all of this, thank you! I feel better now that I have written this all down. Maybe it is not as bad I thought! Hopefully I won't go
before the wedding.
I have a friend who is getting married. We have known each other for 20 years, but have just recently moved to the same city. We have always been in contact with each other, but never been really too close to each other. Well, during Christmas time this past year she got engaged. A few weeks later, she called and asked me to be in her wedding. Of course, I said yes. I told Dh and he was really shocked that she did not come over to ask me to be in the wedding. I hadn't really thought about that. But after he said that, I wondered to same thing (we live about 15 minutes from each other). No big deal though. During the phone conversation with her, she asked if I minded wearing red? Well, being a red head, I do not ever wear red. I told her that it was not my best color, but I would wear it for her if that was the color she was going for. Her response, oh that's good, because that is the color we are going with. (Oh great a $150+ dress that I will never again wear)! Oh well.
Fast forward--I called her last week to see how things were going. All things were going good. She kind of hinted around to all of these things that other brides had gotten during the course of the engagement. Meaning showers (at least four that she was talking about), lunchons, bachelorette parties. As she is saying all of this, I am thinking, I don't have to go to all of these things, do I? I am assuming that the reason that she was telling me all of this was to let me know that I am expected to go to all of these places--each requiring a gift. Later on in the conversation she asked about my kids (which I have 5 of
). I told her that I would have my parents fly in for the weekend to take care of them. You could hear the relief in her voice. Now, I had invited her and a guest to my wedding. She was planning to be in town to visit family. She called me when she got the invitation to my wedding asking if it was OK for her Mom, Grandma, and two cousins to come with her as guests. Ahhhh, OK I guess. We had a sit down dinner at a country club. Dinner was $35/plate and that did not include the open bar plus appetizers and dessert bar. I was kind of irritated that she could invite all these adults to my wedding, but not include my kids at her wedding. One last thing that I should have said before. Her DF is in the military ( my friend and he have only been in contact by telephone and e-mail plus the 3 two "vacations" that has gotten to come home---I very much worry about that because she is NOT the easiest to get along with and she has already said that he needs to "change" when they get married--yikes) . He is supposed to get out in August. His group (I am sure this is not what it is called) is supposed to go to Iraq in June. He was in Iraq last year and has some bad post stress. He is hoping that due to that, he will not have to go back. But, if he does, the wedding is off, and they will go to a justice of the peace. Well, she wants us (the bridesmaids) to get our dresses in April. I am really thinking that we should wait until July--wedding is in December.
If you have made it through all of this, thank you! I feel better now that I have written this all down. Maybe it is not as bad I thought! Hopefully I won't go
before the wedding.
to the OP.
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