http://www.aecom.com/deployedfiles/...conomics/_documents/ThemeMuseumIndex_2013.pdf
A lot of folks have said that Disney doesn't release attendance figures. Here they are from 2013. The Magic Kingdom saw 18.5 million people in 2013, up a million from 2012 and up 4.4 million since 2004. 18.5 million translates to about 52,000 people a day, up from 38,000 in 2002. That's a 30 percent increase in a decade, after only picking up two million in the 30 years before that. If you figure the resorts have 30,000 rooms and they average 3.2 people a room and 90 percent occupancy, that's 82,000 people a day just in the resorts. If you figure 38 percent of the overall WDW goes to the MK on any given day, that's 32,000 from just the resorts -- almost as many people come just from the resorts every day as used to be the overall attendance when FP debuted. So it's not surprising that the system they implemented doesn't work as well now as it did then. Heck, it's up 2.5 million from 2009 -- 6500 more people a day. That's a 17 percent increase in five years -- or an extra 15 minutes on a headliner, an extra five on a secondary.
The flow on a ride is static -- it takes time to load, time to unload, time for the ride. So lines are inevitable. What do people do then? They come to sites like this or buy one of the books and try to find a way to maximize they fun. I used to go to WDW in the 90s -- there was never a big crowd for rope drop then, but as people find out about a way to get more rides in -- and more people stay at the resorts that facilitate getting to the MK at opening (or make it easier to stay until 11 or midnight or 2 am) -- those things get crowded, too. Likewise with the different times during the year -- crowd calendars let the world know when things slow down, so why not take advantage of it? A 5 today has 40 percent more people than it did just a decade ago. Of course people drained the FP- kiosks -- they're spending 10 grand on a trip, they want was many rides as they can get.
And that's the fundamental problem that won't go away no matter what the mitigation system is. The MK has a max capacity of 100K, and the aforementioned 30,000 rooms need to be filled. WDW isn't going to actively reduce crowds, and without that, it doesn't matter what they do about lines. There are just too many people in the park. Just from '12 to '13, that's 2900 more people each and every day in the MK. It's not a matter of FP+ or FP-, it's just that most of the headliners aren't designed for the amount of traffic they see. And there's no way to fix that, either. More rides would mean more capacity and more people wanting to come -- you can't really refurbish any of the existing headlines to speed them up.
So OP, you're right to lose hope. Disney will never be what you (or I) remember. But it's not because of FP, or ADRs or throwaway rooms. It's because too many damn people want to come. And that's not going away.