hurt. *ironic update post 18*

[GoodFairies]

the 2nd one wasnt booked yet, he works from home so he just sends his plans to his boss about a month in adnvance. Until theyre booked ( and sometimes after they are) things are tentative.

I saw your 1st response. It did initially sound like the 2nd one was planned but as it's not then it's not that bad. I was just reading the OP as "new promotion = more business trips --> can't make them because of anniversary = doesn't look good" but since you explained that his trips are very flexible that is much better and doesn't reflect as badly.

 

[mickeyboat]

Awwwww binny. Glad to hear it worked out. Hope you enjoy your time together!

Denae

 

[MeghansMommy]

Ive done the business trip thing too and planon being alone a lot.
This is a "reward trip" though. The things they have planned are receptions and a ball and an awards dinner... stuff like that. They are sending us on a cruise around the bay which is wonderful but it is still with all of these people. It isnt like he and I would be spending any time together. He would be with all his work buddies.
And every thing has a different dress code. They have dictated everything.



ETA: the more I read this the more I realize I do sound like a spoiled brat. I really dont mean to. I am just really disapointed that this doesnt seem to mean anything to him. That he doesnt see that this is important to me.

I dont ask for something for every anniversary but we have been through so much in the last couple of years and its a pretty big deal for us to hit this anniversary.

I don't think you sound like a brat at all.

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

Yay!!! I am so happy for you. I hope you have a fantastic trip!

Just to make you feel better (and I'm so glad it worked out for you), our 15th anniversary was in January. You know what we did? We went to a boat show. DH needed to work it.

Maybe we'll do something for our 20th.

 

[binny]

Oh, binny, I am so glad for you! He sure sounds like a keeper!!

Could he teach my BF/SO/whatever-he-is some things?? He hurt me very badly over Thanksgiving and we broke up (I posted about it here). We are trying to salvage our relationship, but it is slow and akward.

Our 15 year anniversary is at the end of this month and it is killing me.

Good luck. Relationships are brutal sometimes but I do believe they are worth it.

I think you just have to talk it out and let him really know that he hurt you and how much.

 

[Jenvenza]

That is great it all worked out! I hope you two have lots of fun!

 

[4nana]

Awww Binny, so glad things worked out ! I agree, in the hustle bustle of life, no matter how long you've been together, anniversary's and making time for just the two of you is very important to stay in tune and help keep the spirit rejuvenated. How considerate and sweet he talked to his boss and got some xtra time off to spend with you. Now let the planning and anticipation begin!!

 

[TeresaNJ]

As I was typing this whole thing he was actually typing an email to his boss asking him for the time off.
He CC'ed me and it was the exact same time. Maybe we are more in sync than I thought.

He wrote that he was sorry for the short notice but that he had to cancel his plans to be out of town the following week. He needed to spend time with me and was going to extend his trip to San Diego. he said that I had made so many sacrifices for his career that I deserved a break.

So I am feeling rather sheepish at the moment.

I sent him the link to this thread and we talked about it.

Thanks for listening to me rant I appreciate the support

Aww, that is so sweet! I'm very happy for you.

 

[binny]

Thanks


Ok so now what would you do with a couple of spare days in San Diego?

Romantic type stuff?

 

[TLSnell1981]

Thanks


Ok so now what would you do with a couple of spare days in San Diego?

Romantic type stuff?

Well, you're not far from Disneyland.

 

[GJM]

Glad everything worked out.

Me & DH were not together last year on our anniversary and we won't be this year. Plus he wasn't here for my birthday last year or this. Since he has been deployed. I told him I was planning a trip this year for my birthday to some place!

 

[Buckalew11]

I get disappointed when things I have planned don't work out so I know how you feel Binny.

But you picked my city to celebrate your anniversary and I would love to help you plan a vow renewal. There is always a break in those mandatory business meetings. Send me an email on the date you will be in town and I will help kidnap your husband to make your 15th anniversary special. tbarri@cox.net

I think I'd contact her and see what ideas she has for her city! Tink33 just got back from Bora Bora--she has good ideas. Plus she follows through on what she says! At least PM her and see what type of things are there that you might be interested. if you have ideas, then get specifics from her. Really!

 

[binny]

I emailed her thanks Buckalew