What a coincidence that this thread was revived - Randy reared his ugly head again the day before yesterday, and it escalated into a shouting match on our front porch last night.
Tuesday my dd was playing with a little remote control motorcycle in the street in front of our house. She stepped away from it for a minute to help her brothers with something in the driveway. According to my dd, Randy told his dd to run it over with her electric
scooter. She does, and then Randy says NICE JOB and starts laughing. Hayley comes inside, crying and holding her motorcycle which is fine except for a few scuffs. I didn't see the incident, but I made sure to go outside and keep an eye on things. I see Randy's dd riding her bike around Hayley every chance she gets - no big deal. We go inside, and I tell Hayley again to stay out of their way. As usual, my dh was gone at work to deal with any of this.
Yesterday, Hayley is in our garage (which is open) playing with her best friend. All of a sudden Hayley runs inside, crying and screaming that Randy threatened to beat her up. Next thing I know Randy's wife, a neighbor that lives down the street who Randy has made buddy-buddy with and is just as crass as he is, and my dh are having a heated discussion at the front door. Randy is standing on our lawn, and I just lost it! I yelled at him a few times to get off my property or I was calling the sheriff, so he backed up and stood on the sidewalk instead. His wife starts yelling that my dd and her friend had called Randy and their family losers while they were standing by their cars, and that her dd can't even go outside without my dd verbally abusing her, and on and on. She accuses my dd and her friend of standing on the hill in the back of my house the day before and taunting hers. First off, my dd's friend wasn't even over that day, it was Monday. And they were playing on the hill that day, but behind a fence that sits high up on the hill, so you can't even see them from her house (across the street, three doors down) unless 1. you've got binoculars - or 2. they're standing on the hill behind their house looking over at ours. It's not even shouting distance! The neighbor friend of theirs is accusing my dd of calling his first grader names before school starts, and on the playground. He says he witnessed this on three recent occasions. First off, the first graders and fourth graders don't even spend time on the playground together, and Hayley says she doesn't even know what girl he's talking about - he has 4 girls and she's only met a couple of them once. Now I'm not saying that Hayley is innocent of everything - I busted her and her friend riding their scooters in front of the house and singing little ditties about Randy's family the other day and she got in huge trouble for it. But now the accusations are just laughable. Anyhow, my dh put Randy in his place and told him (in a nutshell) that he's sick and tired of him scaring our dd, he's done with it, and he better back off. Randy backs down a bit, and my dh goes over to the sidewalk to talk things over with him. I try to talk to the wife, but I can't reason with her, it's all "your dd this" and "your dd that". It ends up getting heated again, I lost my temper and we ended up just shouting at each other. I feel stupid for it now, but I'm just emotionally spent with these people. They refuse to believe that their dd dished out as much as she got from my dd. All I really wanted to say is that I've taken responsibility for my kid, and when she's ready to do the same with hers we can talk, but my emotions got the best of me and it just turned into a shouting match which does nothing but make the situation worse. My dh stepped in and told her to leave, we were done dealing with them. Anyhow, they said that they're in escrow on a house and that they're moving in 28 days. All I could say was Good! Bu-bye. After the drama was over, my dh and I got into because of the way I acted during the whole thing. And I was ticked at him because Randy told him that I leave my two little boys outside unattended for hours, and my dh actually questioned me on it. WTH??? And my dh started lecturing me about watching them even if it's just 5 minutes. I was hurt because he knows me better than that - it was a boldfaced lie - and I felt like he just wasn't having my back through the whole thing, especially when I saw him shake hands with Randy. He doesn't understand that when someone is falsely accusing and threatening my dd, my mama bear insticts are going to surface and the claws are coming out. I can't help it, but now according to my dh, there's "misunderstanding and too much drama on both sides". He's never had to personally deal with this guy until yesterday, and he tells me I'm causing drama? Anyhow, now I'm just rambling and none of this is probably making any sense, but hopefully they will be gone soon and we can get on with our lives. This is such a stupid, ridiculous thing to be battling each other over.
