Huge fallout with neighbor - NEW Update post #129!

[SC Minnie]

I can't believe this guy went ballistic over 9 year olds calling each other names!!! Isn't that want 9yo's do when they argue????

This guy is a total nut case and I would also hope you keep your husband from confronting him.

Can you talk to the Dad that was present when he yelled at your daughter to find out if he did actually make a threat???

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would call the police and report the bike incident. I don't think Sarah made up the comment. Her Dad did. Sarah never said Hayley called her a name in school. Randy has anger problems and is a loose cannon. Stay away from him. I feel sorry for his daughter, she lost a friend over her dad's temper.

 

[Caropooh]

I think you are getting some really good advice here. I would probably go down to the police department and at least talk to them to find out what you can do about the situation. It sounds like Randy is very mentally unbalanced. I would do everything I could to stay clear of him for now.
Sending you and your family big hugs!!
See you in 13 months and 3 weeks!

 

[golfgal]

I understand the responses that all recommend restraining orders but let me just interject another point of view. A restraining order never protected anyone. It requires self discipline on the part of the "restrainee" to obey it. If he feels that a restraining order will be made public, interfere with his ability to work and do business ( he is a contractor), you cannot predict how he will react. It was unconscienable that he accosted your daughter, but he didn't actually threaten her with violence, etc. I would have a confidential conversation with the police but make it clear that you aren't filing a complaint at this time. I would avoid him like the plague and make sure your daughter has no interaction with Sarah at all. I would consider having her removed from Sarah's class so there is no perception of a problem and wait and see if it blows over. They are nuts! But they aren't going to move and you don't want to have to move and I think it will create long term neighborhood problems that you will not welcome. If there are any threats from this point out, then all bets are off. Take off the gloves, but for now, I would chill. Don't use a cannon to kill a mosquito.

A restraining order itself may not protect anyone BUT it will speed up any police response. A friend had a restraining order against her loser exDH and her then 3 year old dialed 911 and hung up (like probably EVERY child does when they learn about 911 ). She didn't even know he had called until she had 5 police cars on her front lawn, literally. They were there in under a minute from the call.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Please do anything to keep DH from confronting Randy. He is a loaded gun and just might have one close to the door.

 

[mickeyfan2]

A restraining order itself may not protect anyone BUT it will speed up any police response. A friend had a restraining order against her loser exDH and her then 3 year old dialed 911 and hung up (like probably EVERY child does when they learn about 911 ). She didn't even know he had called until she had 5 police cars on her front lawn, literally. They were there in under a minute from the call.

This is good to know.

 

[anut4disney]

So sorry you are going through this.

 

[Chicago526]

Ack! Talk DH out of it!!! Don't let him go over there, it will just make things worse, and as another poster said, you could loss face w/the cops, they think it's just two neighbors who don't like eachother rather than a nut job going psyco at a 9 year old.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I think you are getting some really good advice here. I would probably go down to the police department and at least talk to them to find out what you can do about the situation. It sounds like Randy is very mentally unbalanced. I would do everything I could to stay clear of him for now.
Sending you and your family big hugs!!
See you in 13 months and 3 weeks!

Are you going on the March 3 Eastern? Woo hoo!!!

 

[agnes!]

I know that we can't prevent our spouses sometimes from doing things that they shouldn't...but, I am praying that cooler heads will prevail and that your DH will NOT physically confront this neighbor. No good can come of it. If your DH will not listen to you...I'll keep you all in my prayers.
Don't treat this guy like he is sane, he is NOT. There is something seriously wrong in that house.

We have a strange neighbor, right across the street from us. I had to cut across the corner of his lawn *once* while there was some streetwork being done. He came to his door and yelled at me. Like an idiot, I didn't quite get what he was saying/doing and went to his door, where he proceeded to give me a piece of his itt-bitty litttle mind. Ugh.
After this last strange encounter, I warned all the kids in the neighborhood to *not* cut across his lawn and to not let their dogs even walk anywhere near his curb.
These days we don't speak to him and he doesn't speak to us.
Just the way I like it.

agnes!

 

[mickeyfan2]

I ... went to his door, where he proceeded to give me a piece of his itt-bitty litttle mind.

And now he has none.

 

[rigs32]

I also thinks it's *extremely* telling that this out of control behavior occurs under similar, petty circumstances. You should find out if others neighbors have had issues with him, too. Ask that the woman with the mouse also give a statement to the police as evidence of a pattern of behavior.

I totally understand why you didn't defend her earlier, because you didn't want it to blow up. But with people like him, accepting such outlandish behavior is enabling it. I wouldn't be suprised that he has to stay home because he can't hold a job and the resentment is making things worse.

 

[Caropooh]

Are you going on the March 3 Eastern? Woo hoo!!!

Yep! I'm the one that started our cruise meet thread!

 

[SamIAm21]

Wow, that sounds like a terrible mess. I hope it works out the best way possible for you.

I wouldn't worry too much about Randy's new found friendship with the neighbors down the street either. It's only a matter of time before he explodes at them.

 

[kmp1191]

Keep us informed....hopefully your DH will listen to you and stay away. File a report with the police dept, that way if there is a next time, they will be aware of it and more apt to believe you. This guy is mental!!!

 

[mrsv98]

I don't have time to read all the responses, but what he did to your child is assault. I or DH would make it very clear if he ever had any contact with my child again, I would have him brought up on charges. The is NO EXCUSE for confronting someone else's child in this manner. Give me a break, your child wasn't throwing bricks at his daughter, it was a girlish spat.

to you and your DD.

 

[Free4Life11]

I just wanted to say that I think Randy is the type of parent that is EXACTLY what's wrong with kids these days -- kids can do NO wrong in their eyes and some parents will make up excuses and defend their childs every move. It's pathetic and sad.

 

[DawnCt1]

A restraining order itself may not protect anyone BUT it will speed up any police response. A friend had a restraining order against her loser exDH and her then 3 year old dialed 911 and hung up (like probably EVERY child does when they learn about 911 ). She didn't even know he had called until she had 5 police cars on her front lawn, literally. They were there in under a minute from the call.

While that is true, a Newington, Ct. police officer, Ciara McDermott had a restraining officer against her former boyfriend, Ct. State Police trooper, Diaz. It didn't do her any good. I would save that as a trump card, last resort and try to let this situation resolve quietly.

 

[gradtchr]

Wowzers he sounds like he is off his rocker by quite a bit!

 

[KIRSTIN'S MOMMY]

We have a crazy neighbor too, right next door. We're also on a cul de sac and his son drives me crazy. Long story short, we later found out from some of our other neighbors who have been here longer that he's just gone through his third divorce and is bi-polar. He came out of his house at midnight once (his kid and about 6 of his friends were outside playing basketball...I told them to call it a night because my 2 yr. old was sleeping) and screamed and cursed at me and even told my sister who was visiting that he would kick her @@@! He's a total nutcase and we don't have anything to do with him. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Keep us posted on what happens. I hope your dh didn't confront him!