HS Graduation - NOT

[Pembo]

DS does not want to attend graduation. He has a list of reasons and they are valid. The rational side of me says let him do what he wants. The sentimental mom wants him to walk. I know in the scheme of life it really doesn't matter and either way he gets a diploma.

If you had a child that skipped the grad ceremonies, I want to hear from you.

 

[anniemae]

It depends on the reasons why he does not want to walk.

 

[lauradis]

DS does not want to attend graduation. He has a list of reasons and they are valid. The rational side of me says let him do what he wants. The sentimental mom wants him to walk. I know in the scheme of life it really doesn't matter and either way he gets a diploma.

If you had a child that skipped the grad ceremonies, I want to hear from you.

Op, come on you got to tell us his reasons, that just mean to with hold info.

I would make his but walk, just for me.

 

[hereyago]

He did the work, it is his choice.

 

[sbtrfly74]

Is this a high school or college graduation?

 

[LiveYourLife]

It depends on the reasons why he does not want to walk.

I agree. And I'm not trying to be the "Mrs. Kravitz" of the DISboards.

ETA: OP, I'm not trying to get you to share the reasons. That is between you and your son. What I meant was, if you feel that his list of reasons are valid and he feels his list of reasons are valid, then I say let him skip.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Every student should have this opportunity. He will regret it later in life. It's 2 hours out of his day. Once in a lifetime. I would be dragging my child down that aisle...........

 

[redrosesix]

I skipped mine. I disliked HS and the only reason I went was to get into university. Many of my friends also didn't go to grad, and we had our own sort of party where we sat around eating pizzas in our favourite park and discussed our future plans. Not wearing tuxes and ballgowns -- jeans and tshirts.

I most definitely went to all 3 of my uni grad ceremonies.

 

[hereyago]

Every student should have this opportunity. He will regret it later in life. It's 2 hours out of his day. Once in a lifetime. I would be dragging my child down that aisle...........

Maybe he will regret or maybe not, but this isn't about anyone but the person who earned the diploma.

 

[undertheradar]

I respect that he feels he can tell you he doesn't want to do it. Show's that there is good communication between you. Why force him to sit through a bunch of boring speeches and going through the whole ceremony if you know he really doesn't want to?

 

[Pooh67_68]

DS does not want to attend graduation. He has a list of reasons and they are valid.

Then I would let him skip. The only reason I walked is because my mother would of freaked out if I said I wasn't walking, and truth be told there is nothing that I remember about that day.

 

[Chelley00]

I kinda wish my DS would skip his

He's graduating with thousands of kids. Their graduation ceremony last year was almost 4 hours long. I'm thinking of offering him money to skip it

 

[Sgt Mickey]

I would tell him it was more for me and my proud mommy moment then for him anyway

 

[sbtrfly74]

OMG if we're talking HS graduation I would soooo hug my DD who's graduating this spring and ask her what she would want to do instead to celebrate!

Im really not looking forward to the screaming hoodlums we have to put up with. Im wearing ear plugs this year so I dont have an almost meltdown again.

My parents would freak out though if she didnt want to go to graduation.

Depends on the reasons and the validity I guess, if my DD came to me and actually said "The reason she didnt want to go to graduation was she spent this year at the community college instead so she feels like she doesnt need to go" type of thing I would understand.

If it was a bogus reason like "my ex gf is going to be there and I dont want to see her" then I would be pissed..... (just speculating a bad reason of course)

 

[powellrj]

Every student should have this opportunity. He will regret it later in life. It's 2 hours out of his day. Once in a lifetime. I would be dragging my child down that aisle...........

My oldest DS skipped his graduation and he has never regretted it. At the time, other parents asked me about it, and I was truthful with them. He hated everything about school and it wasn't important to him. He will be graduating from college in the near future and I am not sure if he will be going to that either.

 

[LuLuO]

I walked. I didn't want to but I did it for my mom. After the ceremony I walked out the door and never had contact with anyone from HS again.

OP, have you shared with him that you would like to see him receive his diploma?

 

[sbtrfly74]

I kinda wish my DS would skip his

He's graduating with thousands of kids. Their graduation ceremony last year was almost 4 hours long. I'm thinking of offering him money to skip it

Need green light to turn on

 

[MichelleVW]

I skipped mine. I disliked HS and the only reason I went was to get into university. Many of my friends also didn't go to grad, and we had our own sort of party where we sat around eating pizzas in our favourite park and discussed our future plans. Not wearing tuxes and ballgowns -- jeans and tshirts.

I most definitely went to all 3 of my uni grad ceremonies.

Lol...tuxes and ballgowns is prom...not graduation.

But OP...I would be seriously disappointed and would need a dang good reason.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Maybe he will regret or maybe not, but this isn't about anyone but the person who earned the diploma.

I disagree. This isn't just about the student, but his ENTIRE FAMILY. This is a major milestone, and I'm quite sure every mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, uncle, sister, brother, aunt has waited a very long time to share in this special moment.

 

[kirstenb1]

OP, I probably have my DIS'rs mixed up, but does your son have Asperger's? If so, sitting in a large crowd for hours in the heat, and then walking across a stage in front of a huge group is probably not his idea of a good time!! If he's like our younger dd, that is probably the definition of sensory overload!! If I'm correct, I think his reasoning makes perfect sense.

Anyway, please excuse me if I've got him confused with someone else. You say his reasons are valid. I think he should get to decide.