How would you handle this situation as a parent?

[meloneyb21]

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,548401,00.html

I just came across this story...and...I don't know. What's the proper protocol for a parent after finding out that your 15 y/o child actually plotted to have you killed? Because they didn't want to get sent to another school where they didn't fit in?

Prosecutors plan to charge him as an adult. The parents would rather him receive psychiatric treatment instead of jail time.

I honestly don't know what I would do or what I would want to happen...

 

[look1angel]

I would get this kid some SERIOUS therepy. Plotting to kill your parent because he didn't want to transfer is a sign of someone going postal if you ask me.

 

[RitaZ.]

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,548401,00.html

I just came across this story...and...I don't know. What's the proper protocol for a parent after finding out that your 15 y/o child actually plotted to have you killed? Because they didn't want to get sent to another school where they didn't fit in?

Prosecutors plan to charge him as an adult. The parents would rather him receive psychiatric treatment instead of jail time.

I honestly don't know what I would do or what I would want to happen...

Many cases of mental illness manifest themselves around age 14. There had to have been other problems with this boy. This is more than just a case of a teen not wanting to go to a new school.

Whatever the cause, I can't imagine what it feels like to be in that family's shoes. On one hand, you know that your child plotted to have you killed and that something isn't right with him. On the other hand, he is still your son and you don't want harm to come to him. Most parents would sacrifice their lives to save their children. What a horrible situation.

I don't know what I would do.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't know. It would depend on situation to be honest. How awful!

The incident occurred Friday evening outside of Poveda's ex-husband's home on 57th Street and Alton Road. According to police, Poveda was dropping off Stone when the teen's friend attacked her with a steak knife.
Police said Stone told Lazovic that if he could cut his mother's throat, he could join his club known as the Sons of Anarchy. Police said part of Stone's original plan was if it didn't work out with Lazovic, Stone would harm his own mother with a box cutter.

http://www.wsvn.com/news/articles/local/MI130815/

 

[JessicaR]

Unless another story elaborated I don't think they are sure why the boy wanted his Mom dead. I'm betting there are much deeper issues than moving.

His parents are divorced, maybe he wanted to live with his Dad. Who knows what the real relationship is with he and his Mom. I'm also wondering since the friend is only 13 if he was likely bullied into this by his older friend. I know peer pressure is awful for some children.

Not making any excuses for this horrendous behavior but just wondering on what the back story is. Regardless, they both need therapy.

 

[S. C.]

How sad.

 

[pppiglet]

I would be so afraid to go to sleep a night with a kid like that! How sad.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

It would be tough. On the one hand as paretns you are expected to unconditionally love a child. On the other hand, my instinct is to lock him away. If you study criminal psychology, you learn that there comes a point in time in which rehab is pretty much impossible. You have a much better chance of rehabbing a person who commits smaller crimes (petty theft, breaking and entering, vandalism, etc.) Most criminals start out small and work their way up. Statistically speaking, by the time they graduate to rape and murder, rehabilitation is impossible and the recitivism rates are astronimical.

My gut feeling is that these boys must have some kind of sociopathic personality disorder, and the sad truth is, at this point in time we simply do not have a way to rehabilitate sociopaths. I hope those kids are locked away for life for their safety and the safety of society at large.

 

[zippitydoo]

This is a tough one. On one hand he is your child and you love him unconditionally. And you would want him to get psychiatric help. But on the other hand your child tried to have you killed. How could you ever feel comfortable to be left alone with him ever again. The trust will be completely gone.

 

[NY Disney fan]

A 15year old kid plotting to kill his parents because of a school transfer is not a healthy response to a problem. I would definitely send him to intensive therapy to explore if he is a genuine sociopath or not. The part of the brain which makes serious decisions is not fully formed until the age of 19 or 20, that is why so many people are diagnosed as schizophrenics around this age or a little later in adulthood. A 15 year old kid is not fully developed mentally...especially males, who lag behind females in emotional development.

 

[ChrizJen]

I agree that this is not a normal teenaged boy, and that he needs some serious help. BUT I can also see where as a mother it would be very difficult to make a decision in a situation like that. I can see where it might be hard to look past the love you have for your child and see the truth for what it is. What a sad situation. I feel for everyone invoved in this...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

If anyone tried to kill my wife, I would kill them - this includes either of my sons. Sorry if this offends anyone, and I love my boys deeply, but I could not allow them to remain a threat to my wife...

 

[Boston Tea Party]

This (not "THIS" story but this situation) happened in my family. It it heartbreaking. I pray that I will never have to experience it as a parent.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

DisneyBamaFan, I can sort of understand how you feel. If I had a son who did that, I wouldn't want him anywhere near me ever again but it would be very difficult. I just wouldn't feel safe around him.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

DisneyBamaFan, I can sort of understand how you feel. If I had a son who did that, I wouldn't want him anywhere near me ever again but it would be very difficult. I just wouldn't feel safe around him.

The thing is, my wife would forgive my son - so in protecting her, I would destroy her love for me. This is the sort of thing that nightmares are made of. I really feel for the family...