How to tell your family your getting married in Disney?

[disneypolybride2008]

Hi. I told my family (lives in other states) months ago over the phone and they were thrilled. My mom cannot go b/c she is disabled and cannot easily afford it. She's happy anyway for me. My dad, sister, and grandpa are all coming and booked already. My fiance didnt tell his family yet. He's afraid they'll get really mad that he's not having a cheap country wedding where they all can come. He thinks they would be very angry b/c they he thinks they couldnt afford to go. The wedding is in 6 months and i think he should tell them b/c he doesnt know FOR SURE if they would go or not. He says he'll tell them yet doesnt. So, any suggestions for telling them? Advice appreciated!

We've been together for 8 yrs and they've asked before when r u guys getting married and we said we want to wait til we can afford a nice wedding, like a Disney wedding.

 

[PixyDusted]

I understand where you're coming from. My df and I are paying for our DCL wedding ourselves. It's a LOT to ask guests to pay to not only fly to Florida but to pay for a cruise.

So we knew that b/c of the wedding we chose many people wouldn't be able to come. With this in mind, we announced our plans for our wedding with a "disclaimer" that this wasn't in any way, shape or form a plot to get family and friends to not attend. It was simply a unique option for us with what our bank accounts could manage.

We have actually had a really positive response from everyone. Just make sure you put it out there that this wasn't to put anyone out or piss anyone off. It is your wedding and this is what you chose. If they can come, fantastic, if not - you understand.

Hope that helps!

 

[IndyBride]

Wow! I can't believe he hasn't told anyone yet. The more he waits, the more angry people will be I imagine. My suggestion is to come up with ideas to show them how affordable Disney can be. Show them hotel options, flight options, rental car options all that can make the trip affordable from them. Then, they can't get angry because you've done all you can to help them out.

 

[Willow1213]

I am in a similar situation as well. We have decided to get married in Disney because it is something we want to do and can afford. His parents want a church wedding in our hometown. I know they will front the money to come, but it's hard to let them down, knowing they want something different. It's my wedding and it will be in Disney if I want it to be!
I would just let them know gently. I wouldn't be surprised if they are more upset that you did not tell them. Good luck to you,
~Abby

 

[disneypolybride2008]

thanks Willow, i feel the same way! It's not their wedding, it's mine and i want Disney memories! Not one with crock pots and flies!

 

[Willow1213]

Just wanted to let you know, we told my fiance's dad last night and he said he is all for it! Now we just have to break the news to his over-planning mother!

 

[PixyDusted]

Just wanted to let you know, we told my fiance's dad last night and he said he is all for it! Now we just have to break the news to his over-planning mother!

Great to hear! 1 down, 1 to go!

 

[pixiemama3]

Follow what u want dont let anyone influence what u want or take it away u 2 are what counts and if u sway u will think for years to come why did i do that ... ok that said

Type a letter to give to the family members as u are telling them saying ok it really isnt that expensive this is an average quote of what it could be and have one ready for them to see. just remember that as long as u 2 are happy that is all that matters.

Also what about a reception after words when u get home for the family that wont/cant attend the disney one.??

 

[JonetteA]

You know in the end the wedding is about you and your husband. My dad was personally not thrilled at all. He asked if Mickey Mouse was going to marry us. To give you background my dad and brother think that Disney is the evil empire.

We invited my Dad and stepmom to our planning session. I think that once they saw the quality that goes into the even they don't feel like it is just a weird thing.

The other thing I finally had to tell my dad is that we are doing this you either come or don't come that is up to you. I would love for you to be there but it has to be your choice.

After our wedding was over and to this dad my dad still remarks at how amazing our Disney wedding was and what a great thing it was!

Hang in there and stick together. Think about having an at home reception to give a "compromise". Don't compromise on your dream to make others happy. This is about YOU!

Also know that more people than you would expect would come to a Disney wedding. They normally have a higher acceptance rate than at home weddings.