Thank GOODNESS they live 3 hours away. They wouldn't drive that far just to steal our stuff would they? His fiance sleeps till 2 p.m. or 3 p.m. every day (even when she was a guest in my parents' home) and from what I can tell does absolutely nothing with her life. I can't see her having the energy to drive that far on her own.
Your address might be worth some money or drugs to people who WOULD drive that far.
My former brother in law was a heroin addict. I never met him, very VERY purposely. I NEVER had my husband's sister over to my apartment, not while she was married to him and still have not. I let their older daughter spend the night (she was 9) and I could tell that she was messed up (and when I posted about her behavior here on the Dis, wondering if hubby was being overprotective or not, it was the first time I EVER saw the Dis united 100% on a topic (DH was right)) and that mistake has not been made again.
Heroin isn't prescription, but addiction is addiction. Addiction feeds on itself and over time becomes more and more expensive. Over time doctors won't prescribe, pharmacies take notice, and other methods of getting the *whatever it is* to feed the addiction will become necessary.
My sister in law asked us for money so she could put her then-little daughters in daycare. I said "hey, I have an infant, I will watch your daughters". She *sort of* liked that idea. And then I said "you won't come here, I will pick them up, and your ex is NEVER to know where I live", and she refused. Her need to tell him where the girls were (despite the fact that he often took them to various places without telling her where they were (he was also a felon and couldn't get any job so was the SAHD) was higher than keeping me and my son safe. We then offered to pay *the daycare* that was right nearby us, and that was rejected as well. She...just wanted the money.
Before my time, when she and her husband were fully together, she would take whatever cast-offs her parents had (if they replaced something they always wanted to give the old thing to the kids), thank them profusely, tell them how much she would use it, and then sell it.
She concocted a huge lie, telling them that she was leaving him and begging for the family's help in moving. From WA to CA. The family took time off from work, got a rental truck, moved her stuff. Gave her furniture, including the piano which she said she always loved, money to have a new start....inside one month he was living there at the new place, and they had sold EVERYTHING.
She has convinced parents and brothers to give her *at least* 4 cars (DH and his brother love fixing up wrecks), and she has sold them all.
SHE is not the addict. SHE is the one that chose to make a life WITH an addict. (she met him while working as a counselor at a halfway house for felons, by the way, she KNEW BETTER)
I wouldn't let your brother's fiancee in your home, I wouldn't let your brother in your home. He is making awful choices.
And I'm sure you understand that he has very little "choice" in the matter of making babies with her, if they are intimate. He is *choosing* to make a life with her. Babies almost certainly will be in the cards, even if HE doesn't make the decision.
Go to al-alon. They don't care how close the person is to you. Or maybe contact Narcotics Anonymous to see if they have meetings for family members and not just addicts.
