How to ask your bridesmaids and Maid of Honor

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I am recently engaged and am in the stages of planning a wedding. I want to do something creative to ask my maid of honor and my bridesmaids to be a part of my wedding. How did you ask your party to be in the wedding? Any creative ideas?

 

[KT27]

Congrats! I had a Disney wedding and sent special "will you be my bridesmaid cards", you should try the weddings board here, even if you aren't having a Disney wedding the girls are very helpful!

 

[tink_n_pooh]

I asked my bridesmaids (actually we asked our entire bridal party) at our engagement party. I gave flowers to each girl and tiaras to the little girls. The guys didn't get anything but that was DFi decision.

CONGRATS!

Have you set a date yet?

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Congrats! I had a Disney wedding and sent special "will you be my bridesmaid cards", you should try the weddings board here, even if you aren't having a Disney wedding the girls are very helpful!

Oh thanks, I didn't even know there was such a board here!!!!

 

[Sandy V.]

Congratulations, Heidi!!

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

We are thinking about doing it in August of 2007. I want a summer wedding because it is too cold her in CO and I don't want to fight the snow!!!! I am not sure if we can plan it that fast and save up enough money by then though, so it may have to be June of 2008!!!

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I must be horribly lame. I'd been my best friend's maid of honor, so when it was my turn, I just said, "So you know you're going to be my matron of honor, right?" She just said, "Yeah, I figured."

 

[mom2grace]

My sister sent us all cookie bouquets, it was really fun, but probably pricey depending on the number you need to send out.

 

[barkley]

i did it privatly (without announcing to anyone else beside's then dfiancee who i was asking)-if someone had a personal or financial reason for not wanting/being able to accept the invitation i did'nt want them to feel embarrassed or be the subject of discussion with others in the wedding party. this also spared hurt feelings if someone declined and we had to ask the 'runner up' (did'nt want them to feel like they had missed out on 'special' invitations those first asked had received at an event or earlier on).

 

[Cindy's Mom]

i did it privatly (without announcing to anyone else beside's then dfiancee who i was asking)-if someone had a personal or financial reason for not wanting/being able to accept the invitation i did'nt want them to feel embarrassed or be the subject of discussion with others in the wedding party. this also spared hurt feelings if someone declined and we had to ask the 'runner up' (did'nt want them to feel like they had missed out on 'special' invitations those first asked had received at an event or earlier on).

I asked privately as well. I took each girl out for a drink or lunch and asked them then.

 

[Aimeedyan]

I asked privately as well. I have had to turn down offers of being a bridesmaid before and I didn't want anyone embarrassed into saying yes. That's another reason why I didn't do something over the top elaborate to ask, either. So they wouldn't feel obligated after I went to a bunch of trouble to ask.

 

[Beth76]

I just asked them. Just as several others asked me. I didn't know we were supposed to be cute about it.

 

[barkley]

i should also add-we had at least one person who we desparatly wanted in our wedding party (groom's man) who we knew in no way could remotely afford to expend the money or energy allot of people associate with these 'duties'-so in asking him privatly we were able to share with him (and no one else) that our invitation came with the understanding that he would respect our wishes to provide all of his formal wear and structure things around his physical needs. when he (thankfully ) agreed we privatly invited others and presented how the wedding/process would operate such that it did'nt appear to be an accommodation for him (people get too whacked out with weddings-i did'nt need attendants getting peeved because they thought one among them was getting 'special treatment')

 

[MareQ]

I am recently engaged and am in the stages of planning a wedding. I want to do something creative to ask my maid of honor and my bridesmaids to be a part of my wedding. How did you ask your party to be in the wedding? Any creative ideas?

I got the Precious Moments Bridemaids Figurines - wrapped them up and put a card in the box saying "This is for something coming up soon - I'd like you to be a Bridesmaid in June"

Corny but they all thought it was cute -

 

[tw1nsmom]

We are thinking about doing it in August of 2007. I want a summer wedding because it is too cold her in CO and I don't want to fight the snow!!!! I am not sure if we can plan it that fast and save up enough money by then though, so it may have to be June of 2008!!!

Just remember, a lovely wedding can be done for any budget. I personally think it's better to decide what you can afford to spend and plan the wedding around that, rather than plan a wedding that you have to save for or go into debt.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Just remember, a lovely wedding can be done for any budget. I personally think it's better to decide what you can afford to spend and plan the wedding around that, rather than plan a wedding that you have to save for or go into debt.

Thanks, definitely so true.