How sad.

[6_Time_Momma]

We had a man die at work Friday. His wife is also a resident. He married her just 3 years ago. His own family, for reasons I don't know, disowned him. Her children did not like him, although I guess one of her son's came to care for him a little. The only ones present when he died Friday were the nurse and two aides. Her family came in after he died to comfort her.

I just read his obituary. There is no mention of any family. Not his children, not his step children, not even his wife. That is just so depressing.

 

[Serena]

That's horrible. It's hard for me to believe family was so uncaring.

 

[grinningghost]

 

[olena]

 

[EROS]

SAD to read . I've seen many die alone without any family over the years........

 

[Toby'sFriend]

It is very sad.

But I have to point out that sometimes families have very good reasons for severing ties. Regardless, it is a shame that a family can split so completely.

I'm glad that his wife has family to comfort her.

 

[Serena]

You're right Toby, it just makes me sad.

 

[luv2nascar]

it is sad but you knew him only as an elderly man I assume
People even dads sometimes due things that are unforgiveable to those they hurt
he may have been a completely different person before

 

[binny]

That s sad no one should have to die alone.


How sad to lead a life that no one mourns you when youre gone.

 

[CathyCanada]

That is so very sad.
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[helenabear]

That is so very sad

 

[Muffy]

Very sad news!

 

[Boots]

How very sad indeed!

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Originally posted by luv2nascar
it is sad but you knew him only as an elderly man I assume
People even dads sometimes due things that are unforgiveable to those they hurt
he may have been a completely different person before

I understand that. I still find it sad.

 

[goofygirl]

I agree, its sad.


So much for the idea of having children "so someone will take care of you when you get old."

 

[iluvorlando]

 

[dandave]

Well, my Grandmother will probably die like this. She has done everything possible to distance herself from my mother, my sisters, and me. She has called the police to report that my DM and step-father have stolen things from her. She wanted them put in jail. These things were gifts that we all knew were given as such. My folks gave the "gifts" back, so that no charges would be filed.

My little sis rents property from her. GM called her the other day to say that little sis's rent would be going up unless she "promised to
be her friend". That meant doing anything and everything that GM wanted her to do. Little sis played me the answering machine message of this threat.

She lives beside my mother and step-father. When they get company she goes out into the yard screaming and cursing. She has cursed out my sisters when they go over to see my folks. She's completely insane.

They have gone to a magistrate who told them to videotape her doing this crazy stuff, so that they could have her psychologically evaluated. My mother doesn't want to have GM commited. She tries to avoid any contact. Last week, GM called a police detective trying to have my mother arrested at work for not "taking care of her". He told her there was nothing he could do for her and called my mother at work. The detective agreed that GM needed a psych eval.She has done much more, but I think ya'll get the idea.

The woman is spiteful, crazy, and evil. I will not be at her funeral. Neither will my sisters or my mother. I'm sure that the healthcare workers at the hospital and the funeral home attendants will think us cruel, but so be it. I would rather be misunderstood by others, than go against everything I believe is just and true.

 

[Serena]

Oh my, I'm sorry dandave.

 

[dandave]

Hi Serena! Yes, it is sad. We have all overlooked everything this woman has selfishly done to tear our family apart for over 25 years. We have tried loving her, understanding her, tolerating her, etc. It has finally just gone too far.
When my mother calls me about the latest GM fiasco, then I just start shaking. My nerves are shot! I've tried talking with GM, myself, but she is beyong talking. My mother is about to have a nervous breakdown, and we are all worried about her.
I just wanted to point out that elderly people ( although GM is only in her 60's) are not all neglected because of mean, selfish, uncaring family members. Some are actually, believe it or not, the offenders.

 

[Serena]

I really should know that already. My grandma was pretty bad. I was able to reach her and the family and make a reconciliation long before time, but it was pretty awful. I had forgotten all the turmoil.