How rude and Selfish Is This?!?!?!?

[disneyfav4ever]

Uh...MUST every thread she posts now have unnecessary snark?

Apparently. I mean last week I asked a question about a restraining order, that had NOTHING to do with me or my parents, and that turned into it, and now this.

OP, sounds like one of the most despicable things I've heard in a while. My only thought (not that it excuses the person) would be perhaps she herself actually IS needy in some way and is too embarassed to take from the pantry?

I know this person very well, and I know she and her husband are pretty well off.

 

[Jack-Jack]

Hey, a saw a guy in a cadilac pull up to the back of a food store and pull items from the garbage. I am assuming it was for his own family!!!

Mikeeee

little did he know it was probably covered with windex.

 

[wvjules]

I know because I know. What difference does it make how I found out?

Did you actually see the person accused of stealing this food actually take the items?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Did you actually see the person accused of stealing this food actually take the items?

I know for a fact that they did.

 

[agnes!]

Maybe you should offer to do it for her. At least when you take in the donations the hungry will get all the food thay are supposed to get.

If I were in your shoes, I would offer to take over this 'service'. If she refused, I would then come right out and ask her if she needed financial help to buy her groceries. If she hemmed and hawed and tried to weasel her way out of it, maybe tried to say "Well, everybody does it", I would say "Not me."

I have a hard time knowing someone is cheating. I know a lot of people do it, but that doesn't make it right.

TobysFriend - I actually don't think that what that one guy did *was* stealing. He needed the food to get by, he didn't just want it because he couldn't be bothered getting to the grocery store.

agnes!

 

[Allison]

I know for a fact that they did.

I think what people are getting at is they really don't want to judge or comment on what may have gone on without knowing more facts. Could somehow there be a misunderstanding or mistake? I know myself I would hate to comment about something or suggest action when some important parts of the story are missing. We really don't know how rude or selfish it is. I don't think anyone is trying to be rude to you or anything when they ask that question.

 

[azgal81]

Horribly shelfish I didn't know seafood was so popular to donate I thought pudding would be more popular.

 

[Jennasis]

serenity now!

mea culpa...I'm dealing with some cheaty-lying nonsense from some folks 'round me. Must...find...my zen...

 

[jobhunter]

I know for a fact that they did.

The only way you can really, truly "know for a fact" is if you saw them with your own eyes. So, how did you see this?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I've worked with a food bank for years.

One thing I've learned, you really don't know all that well who has plenty of money. Sometimes people seem like they do, and then you find out the truth.

sometimes it seems like they don't, and then you find out they are millionaires.

I brought a bag into Church onetime with my donations and I saw a guy pick it up and walk out with it. It disturbed me. I found out a couple months later who he was and that he was under severe financial pressure. I think he was just too embarrassed to actually go into the food bank and ask, so he stole.

I guess that since you "know" this, don't let her take your donations in anymore.

I know someone who's a millionaire, and he does not act like that at all! I didn't even know he was until we had been friends for months, and then I found out. He works fulltime because he likes to, and he never dresses fancy. The only indication that he had a lot of money would be if you saw his cars.

 

[Jennasis]

The only way you can really, truly "know for a fact" is if you saw them with your own eyes. So, how did you see this?

Uh...oh...there's blood in the water. I wonder if we can get the mods to add a "smilie" of sharks circling?

 

[paigevz]

Wait, I have an idea. Is this a family member? Then it gets much stickier. Also, do they live with you? Even stickier.

 

[meloneyb21]

Uh...oh...there's blood in the water. I wonder if we can get the mods to add a "smilie" of sharks circling?

 

[mickeyfan2]

All I can say is boy do you have drama in your life.

I don't know any of the people that you have posted about in just the last week.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Okay, I get it. If it's someone I'm related to it's fine for her to do it, but if not then it's wrong.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Okay, I get it. If it's someone I'm related to it's fine for her to do it, but if not then it's wrong.

Nope it is wrong for both. If you are related to the person then why not say that is how you know. If you are not related then you can not be 100% sure. Do you mark every item she is given and then check it against the delivery list. Have you approached the person and asked why.

What if this person is really in need and figures that she would get the items from the food pantry anyway, so she is just saving them time?

 

[paigevz]

Okay, I get it. If it's someone I'm related to it's fine for her to do it, but if not then it's wrong.

Whoa, I didn't say that, I just said it was sticky to handle it. I don't know what everyone else is referencing. I haven't been around for a while.

I'll just go on and let you handle it. Thought you wanted some help there.

 

[darlak]

Okay, I get it. If it's someone I'm related to it's fine for her to do it, but if not then it's wrong.

So it IS someone you're related to???

Why is food so often an issue in your home? Surely even you must realize that's a bit strange.

 

[meloneyb21]

Okay, I get it. If it's someone I'm related to it's fine for her to do it, but if not then it's wrong.

I guess what everyone is saying is that it would be impossible to know what this persons intentions are unless you are living under the same roof. Unless this person told you outright that they were stealing for selfish reasons other than needing the food.....and if you saw it being done with your own eyes and didn't do or say anything about it other than complaining about it to people on the disboards that can't even help....then shame on you.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

So it IS someone you're related to???

I didn't say that, other people did.