How Romantic is your Spouse?

[ThreeMusketeers]

What great stories! Thanks for sharing!! We have been married 8 years..I don't know, He is sweet and will do things when he feels like it. lol AUGH MEN. Don't know what I would do with out him though. Share more, I like to hear all the Romance. Oct.7 is our Anniversary!! So I am feelin the Love. lol

((He better be too)) lol

 

[Marseeya]

My DH is about a bazillion times more romantic than I am! It used to make me a little uncomfortable, but he's toned it down a few notches and I love him just the way he is now.

Some of the things he used to do:

serenade me (yes, he's a fabulous singer)
leave poems lying around the house every day
flowers
little mementoes
love letters
extravagent displays of affection

 

[FionaLovesShrek]

My DH is very romantic He gives me flowers every few weeks. He seems to wait just long enough for me to be surprised and love them...but not get so used to them that they stop being special. He calls me 2-3 times a day, just as if he knows when I need to hear his chuckle and "I Love You". He will bring me something he knows I love when I least expect it (chocolate, yum) and leave me a romantic card to find in the mornings when I get ready for work, or at night laying on my pillow. I have found cards at my keyboard, even once in the refridgerator! He tells me he loves me constantly. He sends me text messages with roses and I Love You's and always cleans the kitchen for me, telling me he wants to take care of me. And no, we're not newlyweds! Yesterday I found him vacuuming and I asked him what are you doing? And he said..taking care of you. Yes, I have the most wonderful DH in the world IMO

 

[minkydog]

We've been married 24+ years and DH is still very romantic. Not in an icky, sticky way, but he does things like: makes my cuppa tea every morning, buys me a chocolate treat at the store, rubs my feet without me asking, thanks me for dinner and cleans the kitchen every night, never gets tired of watching "Pirates of the Caribbean".

Although he has never in 24+years ever bought me a sexy nightgown, he did buy me a nice big tent for Valentine's day once. But I forgave him 2 years later when he bought me an actual camper(we love to camp!)

 

[nliedel]

Not romantic at all, darn it. He does, however change diapers and happily takes care of babies at 4am so I am willing to give up a few flowers.

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

My DH knows me well enough to know that flowers and chocolates are not my definition of romantic. If I got flowers nonstop I would tell him to stop it because I get tired of seeing dying flowers everywhere.

He's romantic in other ways. Last week I offhandedly mentioned how tired I was of eating the same kinds of foods every night (during the week, we have NO variety at all). So this weekend he made reservations at a historic B&B in the country and surprised me. Or when we decide no anniversary presents because we are saving money to decorate the house, I will get a surprise present in the mail (something "me", like the Patriots 2004 season DVD ). He also will cook and clean (not every day, LOL, but frequently enough and NOT after being asked). He's basically the perfect husband, IMO.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

I am jeleous. How do you tell your hubby you need more Romance..w/out having to tell him you want more Romance in your life???
Don't get me wrong, he is a great guy, he takes good care of our daughter and does nice things for me now and again..but doesn't every wife/or/ husband want to feel EXTRA appreciated more often than not. I have tried to be the Romantic one thinking it would jumpstart him into being Romantic too, but nope, he just dosen't get it!

 

[Jeafl]

I agree with Kermit and Buckalew, the definition of romance has defintely changed over the years.

My husband rarely brings me flowers, never serenades me or writes me poems. However, he vacuums, helps with the dishes, helps clean house, supports me in everything, takes me out on dates without the kids, is always my best friend as well as my biggest cheerleader. I honestly have nothing to complain about.

 

[DVC Jen]

He isn't really romantic at all..never has been. He is totally wonderful in every other way and he has to put up with me. so I am willing to forgive him for this one "flaw".

 

[Shugardrawers]

Mine doesn't think he is but I do. I get all the hugs and kisses I need without asking. If we are out and about he always holds my hand or puts his arm around me. He always opens the car door. He does the little things that let me know I'm always first in his mind. He carries the heaviest bags at the grocery store, on days I don't feel well he cooks dinner, he does the dishes and the laundry without being asked. The definition of romance changes as your relationship evolves and after a few years of marriage. He still knows he'd better not come home on Valentine's Day or my birthday or Mother's Day without flowers but other than that I'm happy with the little things.

ETA: I forgot one. He works massive overtime, sometimes up to 80 hours a week so I can take disney trips without him. Now THAT'S love!

 

[Shutterbug]

Yeah, they're only romantic when they have ulterior motives.

Acccckk! We've been found out!!!

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

He's not! I got a defective French man I'm telling ya!

He does have his good side though so I let it slide, but he keeps telling me I'm a freak for loving Disney and he's going to have a very cold winter!

 

[WDWLVR]

Is he romantic is the classic sense of the word? No maybe not.

Does he do lots of little things to show me he loves me? Yes indeed.

He's my partner, my best friend and plenty romantic for me!

 

[Charade]

(taking notes...)

 

[SDFgirl]

My DF is very romantic, but not usually in the traditional "hearts and flowers" way. I do get flowers occasionally...and I think I recieved ONE poem over the years. But, he text messages me all the time, telling me how much he loves me. He volunteers to cook dinner when I've had classes at night or a rough day. He cleans out my car, he gives me foot rubs. I love him so very, very much. I try hard to make his life as happy as he makes mine.

Oh, and last night at about 9:30...I was craving chocolate chip cookies (you know the break and bake kind) so badly. I mentioned it to him, and he kind of said, "Yeah, um-hm." He was watching Desperate Housewives (he'll never admit it!) so I dropped it. 10 minutes later he said he had to go get something out of his car. He came back with the cookies - he had run out to the grocery! It's things like that, that just make my heart melt.

 

[scrump]

Yes, DH is very romantic. Not like a Debeers commercial, which creeps me out anyway, but in a very down to earth way. Also, he is much more romantic than I am, so I am taking notes.

 

[SRUAlmn]

My BF and I are now recently engaged and this is one of the most frustrating parts of our relationship. I am a mushy gushy overly considerate romantic, and he is totally the complete opposite! He has his random moments once in a blue moon, but rarely. It's so hard for me to feel like I don't get anything back, but it's just not in his nature. Has anyone else dealt with this difference? How do you overcome it? I have given him ideas, led by example, tried to just appreciate the little things he does do once in a blue moon, but it's still hard. His brain is either in horny mode, or regular mode. There doesn't seem to be any in between

ETA: We had a very frustrating day today, sorry if this sounded like a little bit of a vent. I just watched Wife Swap and realized how good I really have it Ignore the previous paragraph, for today anyway

 

[MrsNick]

My DH is the best! He will buy me a really good chocolate on occasion (which I prefer to a lot of cheap chocolate).
If I am too tired to cook, he has never made me cook him dinner, but will take me out for a bit to eat. He does laundry. When he saw me cleaning the house this weekend, he started cleaning, too. I honestly didn't expect him to, and wasn't going to ask him to, but he did.
We still hold hands when we're out together.
Although I do the majority of the grocery shopping, when he comes along, we feel like we're on a date.
He called our dog walker today to ask him to dog sit for our long weekend away next month.
He is always in my corner at home and at work (we work in the same place).
He's my best friend.
He's a keeper!

BTW, we've been married for only 2 years, but have been together for 8 years, and I'm more in love with him now than when we first got together.

 

[Just2554]

My DBF is pretty romantic. Not in a flower and chocolate sort of way (although he does buy me those things once in awhile, such as this weekend), but in a way that shows he understands me most of the time.

Just little things he does are romantic to me. He'll call me on his lunch break at work or during a break at school if I'm not there to tell me he loves me and to see how I'm doing. Every morning he wakes me up wanting to cuddle (which I do have to say is distracting when I have school or work, but nice nonetheless). Ane he does things that just show he understands/listens to me. He'll decide to try a restaurant I've been raving about or he'll mention something I've mentioned I want. Or he'll send me flowers with a letter attached about all the things he loves about me (which he did this weekend).

DBF isn't perfect, no guy is, but he really is a great guy. I love him deeply and can't imagine not being with him after 3 years of happiness.

 

[becjlek]

One year for Christmas I got a really nice and super warm winter coat. It was a practical gift but I thought it was romantic because I really needed it and I wouldn't have spent the money for such a nice one.