How old would you consider to be too old for siblings (opposite sex) to share a bed?

[Pollyanna Poppins]

What a sad society we've become. What is the big deal that brothers and sisters have a close relationship. Family is supposed to comfort one another that is the point. If they were showering together as teens then you would hear me say creepy but I don't get the drama on this. If there's more to this story then spill the beans but just to share a bed is not abnormal.

 

[Pollyanna Poppins]

By the way my older brother was the biggest chicken there was. He was usually the one diving in the bed with my sisters at night. We still laugh at him for this.

 

[SleepyatDVC]

Weird and strange? A little bit. But not necessarily in a "sick" way, more like if a 22 or 19 yo were still trying to sleep with mom and dad all the time!

 

[wvjules]

What a sad society we've become. What is the big deal that brothers and sisters have a close relationship. Family is supposed to comfort one another that is the point. If they were showering together as teens then you would hear me say creepy but I don't get the drama on this. If there's more to this story then spill the beans but just to share a bed is not abnormal.

It most certainly is abnormal.

abnormal [æbˈnɔːməl]
adj
1. not normal; deviating from the usual or typical; extraordinary
2. Informal odd in behaviour or appearance; strange
[ab-1 + normal, replacing earlier anormal from Medieval Latin anormalus, a blend of Late Latin anōmalus anomalous + Latin abnormis departing from a rule]

 

[Pollyanna Poppins]

Normal is a setting for your washing machine not a means of monitoring your life.

 

[FireDancer]

What a sad society we've become. What is the big deal that brothers and sisters have a close relationship. Family is supposed to comfort one another that is the point. If they were showering together as teens then you would hear me say creepy but I don't get the drama on this. If there's more to this story then spill the beans but just to share a bed is not abnormal.

You can have a close relationship with your siblings and comfort them when they need it without jumping into bed with them when you are scared or sleeping in the same bed with them when you are old enough to vote. Sorry, that is just odd outside of extreme circumstances that are out of your control.

 

[luvmy3]

Normal is a setting for your washing machine not a means of monitoring your life.

But abnormal isn't.

 

[wvjules]

By the way my older brother was the biggest chicken there was. He was usually the one diving in the bed with my sisters at night. We still laugh at him for this.

Were you in your 20s?

Does you adult brother need comfort and safety by sleeping in the same bed as his adult sister? Sorry, but that is abnormal.

 

[U2_rocks!]

My DS actually complains because he has to sleep by himself in his own room while my DD gets to sleep with her grandma. He still gets scared at nights and would much prefer to sleep with someone, anyone! So some nights he convinces his big sister to sleep in the spare bed with him.

My 12 year old DS is like that - he hates that his sisters have each other and he has to be alone in his room. He loves when his sisters (9 and 11) agree to come and sleep in his double bed with him. They treat it like camping. The girls are small for their age and DS is average, so they all fit. None of them have gone through puberty yet, so there's nothing at all sexual about it. I'm sure as they get older they won't want to do that anymore.

I do think it's strange to want that comfort when you're much older though. Makes me wonder what has happened in that's girl's life that she feels so insecure that she needs her brother in bed with her. Most girls that age don't need that.

 

[Pollyanna Poppins]

Were you in your 20s?

Does you adult brother need comfort and safety by sleeping in the same bed as his adult sister? Sorry, but that is abnormal.

No, they were kids and all of my sisters and brothers were married before they turned 20. By this time everyone had their own families and lived in different houses so they were sleeping with their wives and husbands.

 

[SaraJayne]

There's a good way to get the shivers?

Yes.

 

[Teresa Pitman]

You know, in the past it was pretty common for siblings to share beds - in fact, for whole families to share beds. People just didn't have that many bedrooms in their homes! When visitors came and needed to stay overnight (remember that it took much longer to travel from one place to another), they would all share the bed too. It didn't have the sexual connotations it seems to have today.

TP

 

[luvmy3]

You know, in the past it was pretty common for siblings to share beds - in fact, for whole families to share beds. People just didn't have that many bedrooms in their homes! When visitors came and needed to stay overnight (remember that it took much longer to travel from one place to another), they would all share the bed too. It didn't have the sexual connotations it seems to have today.

TP

As it has been pointed out already, there is nothing wrong with siblings sharing a bed. There is something wrong with an adult (mentally) needing to share one with their brother.

 

[TinkTock]

What if one or both of the siblings is a homosexual? Would that make it less creepy? Would it be as creepy if a lesbian shared the bed with her sister at that age?

I agree that a person that age shouldn't frequently need someone's comfort to get to sleep at night.

 

[Robbi]

There's a good way to get the shivers?

This is a family board.

 

[Mickeyrella]

I never had a brother, so it is fair to say that I don't really understand the relationship between a brother and a sister. I know a family who has a son and a daughter. She is 22 and he is 19. They still share a bed quite often. By quite often, I mean anytime that they are on vacation together and occasionally at home if she is feeling in her words "scared or lonely". Now personally, I thought that was a little odd, but they said that it is perfectly normal, that I don't understand the relationship between a brother and sister, and that I am being prudish by thinking it is inappropriate. Now, I know that parents often have their son and daughter share a bed on vacation when they are kids, but is it common for adults to do this, as well?

I don't have a brother or sister (I'm a female) but when we go on vacations, my godmother usually shares a bed with my uncle (they are siblings) I don't see anything wrong with it they are just sleeping.

 

[Mickeyrella]

What if one or both of the siblings is a homosexual? Would that make it less creepy? Would it be as creepy if a lesbian shared the bed with her sister at that age?

I agree that a person that age shouldn't frequently need someone's comfort to get to sleep at night.

No, that wouldn't be creepy. Lesbians and homosexuals are normal people, they don't have any contagious disease, I don't have any brothers or sisters but I certainly wouldn't mind sharing my bed with my lesbian sister. Just because a woman likes other women doesn't mean she likes or gets aroused by ALL women, just like an heterosexual woman doesn't like or get aroused by ALL men, especially one related to you.

 

[LisaR]

I don't have a brother or sister (I'm a female) but when we go on vacations, my godmother usually shares a bed with my uncle (they are siblings) I don't see anything wrong with it they are just sleeping.

Does your godmother seek out your uncle when she is lonely and crawl into bed with him? I'm guessing she doesn't. Again, the occasional circumstance where there isn't a spare bed on a vacation isn't creepy. But when there are plenty of empty beds, but the adult sister needs to seek out her brother for comfort, sorry, but that is very strange.

 

[SDFgirl]

19 and 22 is too old to be sharing a bed IMO.

My brother and I had a tradition when we were growing up of sleeping in the same bed on Christmas Eve night. I'd say at about 9 and 11 we stopped that. Moving forward we still slept in the same room - but one of us would sleep on an air mattress on the floor.

We kept sleeping in the same room on Christmas Eve all the way through high school. One of my fondest memories...we'd lay awake talking for hours.

When traveling with our parents, if we got a room with 2 beds, we'd sleep in the same bed but he'd sleep on top of the covers, me under.

 

[TinkTock]

No, that wouldn't be creepy. Lesbians and homosexuals are normal people, they don't have any contagious disease, I don't have any brothers or sisters but I certainly wouldn't mind sharing my bed with my lesbian sister. Just because a woman likes other women doesn't mean she likes or gets aroused by ALL women, just like an heterosexual woman doesn't like or get aroused by ALL men, especially one related to you.

I don't think most posters on the thread are implying that the brother and sister have contagious diseases, just that it's creepy for them to share a bed. That would be the same situation for 2 lesbian sisters.

And by the way, lesbians and homosexuals can have contagious diseases just like anyone. They're just regular people.