How old were you when you got married?

[robinb]

How old were you when you got married?
How long was your engagement?
How long did you date?

32
31
7 years
(Married Lucky #13 )

 

[robinb]

I'm biased but I think 22 is the perfect age.


I am 22 years old, and for the past couple of weeks marriage has been a major discussion of ours. We've been dating for 3 years but in a way it's kind of silly for us to get "married" because it's not legal in a lot of states, the IRS doesn't recognize it... No one would come to our wedding, well a couple of friends but that's it

Anyway, since you married "young" did you have a big wedding, or was it a small affair?

While I suport 100% two women getting married, I wonder if it's the best for you. Has she worked out the problems with her folks?

 

[DisneyPhD]

I'm biased but I think 22 is the perfect age.


I am 22 years old, and for the past couple of weeks marriage has been a major discussion of ours. We've been dating for 3 years but in a way it's kind of silly for us to get "married" because it's not legal in a lot of states, the IRS doesn't recognize it... No one would come to our wedding, well a couple of friends but that's it

Anyway, since you married "young" did you have a big wedding, or was it a small affair?

Pretty big, I was my parents only girl and the youngest so I had that going for me. My Dad paid for it all, but it was not over the top. Chruch wedding, normal dinner reception. I think around 150 people came. He had just finished college but I had a year to go (changed schools and added a 2nd major.) We both continued on to grad school so we were pretty poor for a while.

I thought 22 was a good age too, but really I would of married him when I was 18.

 

[CharlesTD]

Married at 29 dated 3 years lived together 3 years our oldest daughter was 2 when we got married DW was 26 when we got married. We met Nov 11th 95 moved in together a week later she got pregnant in Nov/Dec of 95 end of Nov early Dec can't really remember to be honest LOL our daughter was born in Sept 96 we got married Feb 14th 98 non denominational church wedding with JOP no minister. 150-200 people at the wedding.

 

[Nancy]

We officially met December 10th, 1983. I was 25 1/2. I say officially because he saw me at a bar the day before Thanksgivng and asked his friend to set us up. I was there with his friend and Rich's then girlfriend who was a friend of mine. I supposedly was introduced to him that night, but to this day I do not remember meeting him that night...and I was NOT drunk either. I guess the important thing is that he remembered me!

We got engaged in February of 1984..yep in 3 month!

We got married in June of 1985. I had been 27 for 1 whole week!

 

[pfishgirl]

ok this is a long story so pop a squat...

I was 18 when I got married the first time. We were together 3 years prior to the wedding day. We were engaged for 8 months prior to the wedding.. Divorced 2 months shy of our 8th year anniversary..

2nd and present marriage, engaged for 1 year 3 months.. We will be married 5 years in April..

 

[MoniqueU]

I was `19. I am a lucky wife. I took a LONG time to grow up. Too long actually! In fact maybe I am still working on it?
I would have a stroke if my kids came home and told me they were getting married at 19. But when i was 19 I knew it ALL. I have been married 13 years now.
Edited to add I am shocked at the number of babies that also got married young.

 

[icebrat001]

While I suport 100% two women getting married, I wonder if it's the best for you. Has she worked out the problems with her folks?

Wow, you remembered, excellent memory!

Keep in mind this wouldn't be something we would do in the next 12 months. She spoke to her step mother and her step mother said if she tells her I am the one that she would "respect our relationship", if we were to have a wedding, the step mother would come but wouldn't help pay for the wedding or anything like that. The biological mother really isn't in the picture, they talk about 2 times a year, so her opinion doesn't matter. Her father, that's a different story, in the 3 years that I've been dating his daughter, I've yet to meet the man, I've seen the back of him, the side of him, the bottom half of him (boxers) always running the opposite direction of me. It will take some more time for her father to accept me (us). He thinks that we should be 100% settled into our careers and that if she is going to continue to date a woman that our combined income needs to be 6 figures, we are only 22, we are averaging the $60 k range combined and I thought that was good for our age. Nonetheless, she is beginning to disregard her fathers opinion and follow her heart.

 

[icebrat001]

I don't think it's silly at all for you to want to marry your partner. I think it's silly that you can't! Tell me when and where and I'll be there! Can I be your matron of honor??

That is very very kind, will you bring Petey?

 

[JennaTX]

I got married at 18, twenty days before my 19th birthday. We had known each other two years, dated for 10 months before we were married (while living in two different states) and were engaged for about 3 months. We have now been married for 16 years! And before you ask, I did not "have" to get married, I was not pregnant, which is what many distant relatives thought!

 

[joshsmom]

I was 23 and had known my (now ex) husband since I was 13. We were engaged 6 months and had dated over a year. You think you REALLY know someone--until you marry them.

 

[Mickey76]

I won't be married until July, 2007, but I wanted to answer the question anyway.

I'll be 30, almost 31 when I get married. My fiancee will be 26, almost 27.

Our engagement will have lasted 2 years, 3 months.

We'll have been for 4 years, 2 months.

It seems like a long time until July, 2007, but when I really think about how quick the time has passed when we got engaged in April, I begin to think differently.

 

[robinb]

Keep in mind this wouldn't be something we would do in the next 12 months. She spoke to her step mother and her step mother said if she tells her I am the one that she would "respect our relationship", if we were to have a wedding, the step mother would come but wouldn't help pay for the wedding or anything like that. The biological mother really isn't in the picture, they talk about 2 times a year, so her opinion doesn't matter. Her father, that's a different story, in the 3 years that I've been dating his daughter, I've yet to meet the man, I've seen the back of him, the side of him, the bottom half of him (boxers) always running the opposite direction of me. It will take some more time for her father to accept me (us). He thinks that we should be 100% settled into our careers and that if she is going to continue to date a woman that our combined income needs to be 6 figures, we are only 22, we are averaging the $60 k range combined and I thought that was good for our age. Nonetheless, she is beginning to disregard her fathers opinion and follow her heart.

Thanks for the update. That actually sounds ... promising! The step-mom sounds like she has hear heart in the right place (finally!) and the dad sounds like every other dad who loves his daughter and wants her to be OK. IIRC, you are in Med-School, so the 100K figure shouldn't be too hard for you to meet eventually. Of course, the fact that he has not actually met you sends huge red flags up. It sounds like you have gone a long way with her family, so maybe he is close to "cracking".

Marriage is s big step ... gay or straight. I wish you and your sweetie the best of luck. But ... there is no need to rush! As you can see my DH and I dated for 7 years and we have been together for 20. If you can move her parents a bit more in your direction it will make everyone's life easier.

 

[icebrat001]

I was 23 and had known my (now ex) husband since I was 13. We were engaged 6 months and had dated over a year. You think you REALLY know someone--until you marry them.

Did you guys live together prior? Is there really that big of a difference?

SO and I have lived together for 2 years, although, I did move out for 4 months 1 mile away and we still saw one another every day. Stupid, I know.

 

[icebrat001]

Thanks for the update. That actually sounds ... promising! The step-mom sounds like she has hear heart in the right place (finally!) and the dad sounds like every other dad who loves his daughter and wants her to be OK. IIRC, you are in Med-School, so the 100K figure shouldn't be too hard for you to meet eventually. Of course, the fact that he has not actually met you sends huge red flags up. It sounds like you have gone a long way with her family, so maybe he is close to "cracking".

Marriage is s big step ... gay or straight. I wish you and your sweetie the best of luck. But ... there is no need to rush! As you can see my DH and I dated for 7 years and we have been together for 20. If you can move her parents a bit more in your direction it will make everyone's life easier.

I've spoken to her father on the phone (ie. he calls and ask to speak to his daughter, I call there to relay a message to the step mother, never any chit chat). The parents actually moved from California to Florida in September, so I doubt I will see them any time soon.

I have no problem waiting, the only thing that really bothers me is the fact that our government officials are trying to make marriage something between and man and a woman and overturn any laws the states have passed.

California is a nicer state than others in the fact that I am on SO's medical insurance with her job and we aren't married, civil unioned or anything of the sorts.

 

[Goofyzgurl]

We were engaged 2 months, dated for 6 months, knew each other for a year. He was 20 and I was 18. Got engaged in May, graduated in June, got married in July. We've been married now for almost 14 years.

 

[DVC Jen]

I was 20 and DH was 23. We had been "dating" (we pretty much lived together from the day we met) for about a year and a half. Our official engagement was about 5 months.

In three more days we will celebrate 19 years of marriage.

 

[SDFgirl]

How old were you when you got married?
How long was your engagement?
How long did you date?

I will be 29 (by two days!!) when I get married in a week.

We were engaged for just over six months.

We dated for just over two years before he popped the question.

 

[palmtreegirl]

How old were you when you got married? 24

How long was your engagement? 8 months

How long did you date? 3 1/2 years

 

[Alice28]

Dated about 4 years

Engaged 10 months

I was close to 23 when we married; DH was 25

Been married 11 years next month.