How old is too old to adopt?

[DisTeach1]

Instead of wondering if you are too old to adopt, I think you need to take a step back and see why you really want to adopt.

I remember your posts of several years ago when you called my kids spoiled brats because they were older teens not wanting to go on a WDW vacation with us. Over the past year I have seen several post where you are now complaining that your DS no longer wants to spend as much time with you. He is now an older teen and thats just what older teens do. They start to spread their wings and become their own people. It doesn't make them spoiled brats.

Your DS doesn't want to spend as much time with you so you want to adopt another baby to fill in the gap.

You just posted on the community board how tired you are. How tired do you really think you will be with a baby. I had my last child when I was almost 40 and its so much harder now than it was when I had my DS at 24. I am exhausted most of the time.

I think you need to really take a look at your reason for wanting a child and maybe think about doing foster care or becoming a CASA volunteer before you commit to raising another child.

Thank you for your wonderful post and taking things out of context. Yes, I have been tired lately...the last month, not the last 5 years that I have been fostering, and just speculating on that tiredness. Yes, I have been sad over my son getting older...I'm not looking for a replacement, I'm just sad that he's growing up. Thank you for looking up old posts so YOU can post nasty messages and put me in my place...I am firmly chastised, and I will probably take a step back from this because of your nasty post. Feel better now? Thank you...You are right, of course, I am wrong and you can be sure that the next foster baby I take in, I will think of you and how wrong I am.

By the way, I just got back from camping with my son for 5 days...am I tired, yes, but you're right...I shouldn't adopt because I want his replacement. And didn't think I was looking for one, but you would probably know better.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Thank you for your wonderful post and taking things out of context. Yes, I have been tired lately...the last month, not the last 5 years that I have been fostering, and just speculating on that tiredness. Yes, I have been sad over my son getting older...I'm not looking for a replacement, I'm just sad that he's growing up. Thank you for looking up old posts so YOU can post nasty messages and put me in my place...I am firmly chastised, and I will probably take a step back from this because of your nasty post. Feel better now? Thank you...You are right, of course, I am wrong and you can be sure that the next foster baby I take in, I will think of you and how wrong I am.

By the way, I just got back from camping with my son for 5 days...am I tired, yes, but you're right...I shouldn't adopt because I want his replacement. And didn't think I was looking for one, but you would probably know better.

I wouldn't take it that way. I think that poster was trying to say (although I could be wrong) that maybe you feel the urge to have a new baby because your baby is growing up? Perhaps that poster is also saying that as we all get older we just tire quicker etc.? I think maybe they were saying that if you want another baby whether it be adoption or biologically, to really think about what it is that is making you all of a sudden want one. Do you want a child or is it the baby part you crave? Does your DH feel the same way? I truly don't think the poster meant anything offensive, I just think they were being honest and to tell you the truth, I would have told a close friend the same thing. Good luck in whatever you chose to do.