How old is to old??

[smidgy]

And eventually they are going to have to learn to change in a locker room. Or walk into a bathroom where the one stall is so filthy they'd never sit down in it. It's better if they can learn young to go with the flow.

 

[MistressMerryweather]

These threads are always so hilarious. Nothing is a "one size fits all" answer when it comes to children and families.
I'm not so much concerned with my 9yo using the men's bathroom alone, as I am about him standing outside waiting on me for 15-20 minutes, while I futz around with my 3 other younger children(1yo, 4yo and 7yo) in the woman's bathroom. By the time we are done pottying, washing hands, etc., he'll have been standing alone outside for at least 15 minutes and that is not okay with me.
If my dh is not with us, and the companion bathroom is not available, he'll come in with me. I do usually drag everyone into the handicap "accessible" stall, but I don't always.

On the other hand, if he's the only one needing the bathroom. We will all wait outside for him to use the men's bathroom.

 

[CarolineB]

My DS9 still comes with me or we use a companion bathroom at WDW (he has ADHD and Aspergers) and I feel more comfortable with him with me.

 

[GillianP1301]

I haven't read every response here, I admit, but my 2 cents...

My DS is 5 and he's just starting to balk at going into the ladies room with me, he is learning from school to use the gender appropriate washrooms. However, I'm not yet comfortable with him using a public washroom on his own. And call me naive, but molestation is really not in my thought process at all, it's more about the fact that most times he can't reach the soap dispenser (they are almost always high and back against the mirror/wall) and sometimes even the paper towel dispenser is too high, and he's a little over the average height for a 5 year old.

At WDW, we went as a family and he was 4 at that time and not an issue at all to go in with me, but this time around, we'll start having DH take him into the men's room instead.

I have no idea at what age I'll be okay with him going in the men's room on his own, probably when he's tall enough to reach soap!

 

[Planogirl]

I used germ killing wipes on DS' hands because he didn't really do a good job when he washed his hands. That is if he even washed them.

 

[kimmar067]

having 2 non-verbal austic boys - I emailed Disney & asked
age 10 is the limit
so if I needed to take the boys by myself - I need to use the companion bathroom - if no companion bathroom was close by (like at Chef Mickey's) then I got a staff to check to make sure no one was in the lady's room & the staff stood outside & made anyone else wait until we came out - I gave permission for said staff to say austic boy with mom - no one came that time

....wow...you must be ONE TERRIFIC MOM!

 

[NotUrsula]

And how may i ask does a 3 yr old even know to find that funny? My ds wouldn't bat an eyelash if another kid did that.

Oh, please ... preschoolers ALWAYS find seeing other people's butts to be endlessly funny.

Once they have been taught about keeping "private parts" covered unless you are in private, seeing them in public becomes funny.

 

[mamabear0222]

Oh, please ... preschoolers ALWAYS find seeing other people's butts to be endlessly funny.

Once they have been taught about keeping "private parts" covered unless you are in private, seeing them in public becomes funny.

Maybe because he's not in school yet this honestly does not phase either my dd or ds. Then again they just turned 4. And then again no one we know or run into has dropped their pants yet in front of them....

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[EMom]

If he's too old to be in the stall with you (Mom), he's too old to be in the women's bathroom.

I haven't read the whole thread, so someone may have already brought it up, but when I thread like this popped up a while back I had an idea. It stirred up lots of comments. Some thought it was funny and some thought it was horrible. And some attempted to "correct" my grammar.....

I should make t-shirts that say,

YOUR
BIG BOY

YOUR STALL

At WDW, I was in a stall and noticed HUGE feet outside my door, between mine and the next stall. I walked out and saw a boy that looked to be 12 to 13, easy. He was probably 4 to 6 inches taller than I was. Boys that old do not need to be in the ladies room, as there are cracks between the doors, females change out in the open, etc.

 

[lillygator]

ok we went to Epcot on Sat and AK on Sunday.....not one older boy, teen boy, young adult boy, man or elderly man was seen by me in my trips to the rest rooms.

 

[shortbun]

For me, this issue falls in the 'meh' category. If I'm in a stall, I don't care who's in the next one. Different in the men's room where men just go in public. All the bathrooms in my house are co-ed.

 

[davedmaine]

If they are old enough to get a female pregnant, they are probably too old.

That's a strange comment

 

[goofyintoronto]

That's a strange comment

I know right? Disturbing thought too. :/

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

You know that scene in a Christmas story when Santa puts his boot on Ralphie's forehead and pushes him down the slide? That is what would like to do to the kids who stick their head under the door in my stall. I'd never do it though because I'd probably get sued.

 

[tinkerpea]

My DH has already posted so I thought I would,

My problem isn't so much having the boys in the restroom ( although I think by at least 9 they should be in the correct toilet)

It is the fact that the restrooms I have been in usually have decent cracks in them and so yes I may be in a stall but that does not stop boy being able to see what I'm doing!!! If its your own child seeing your parts then so be it but its NOT my child it's YOURS!
I might be changing out of a wet underwear ( in the stall ) which would mean I'm completly exposed OR I could be doing other lady things that little boys " and bigger ones" should defiantly not be seeing! I mean I want to be able to change certain lady things without worrying about if the boy stood waiting for his mum can see what I'm doing!

And as much as some may say its not appropriate you WILL get the odd girl/lady who decides instead of taking up a stall that somebody might need they will do a quick top change in the corner by the mirrors, it happens at every theme park you get wet you change your clothes, plenty of mums decide to just quickly change a little girls dress instead of waiting wet and cold in a long que' and IMO since its the GIRLs room there should be no problem with that!

" before people start flaming I'm not on about a grown women getting everything out for all to see"

We have an Autistic son who is 10 but I still would not dream of making others uncomfortable by bringing him in the lady's we will find other ways that are appropriate for ALL!

 

[tinkerpea]

I posted this on another thread that is running right now about the same issues and thought I'd post it her too,

Has anybody thought about the implications of certain religions when it comes to older boys in the female bathrooms?
There would be very serious consequences if a Muslim or similar was seen without there full face cover (?sorry can't think of the name) was removed while they was in the ladies, plus even simply being in their with a male could land them in hot water, not to mention how it would embarrass and make them feel,

No matter wether its right or wrong I do think this needs to be considered when thinking of taking your very capable child into the women's with you.

 

[jodifla]

My DH has already posted so I thought I would,

My problem isn't so much having the boys in the restroom ( although I think by at least 9 they should be in the correct toilet)

It is the fact that the restrooms I have been in usually have decent cracks in them and so yes I may be in a stall but that does not stop boy being able to see what I'm doing!!! If its your own child seeing your parts then so be it but its NOT my child it's YOURS!
I might be changing out of a wet underwear ( in the stall ) which would mean I'm completly exposed OR I could be doing other lady things that little boys " and bigger ones" should defiantly not be seeing! I mean I want to be able to change certain lady things without worrying about if the boy stood waiting for his mum can see what I'm doing!

And as much as some may say its not appropriate you WILL get the odd girl/lady who decides instead of taking up a stall that somebody might need they will do a quick top change in the corner by the mirrors, it happens at every theme park you get wet you change your clothes, plenty of mums decide to just quickly change a little girls dress instead of waiting wet and cold in a long que' and IMO since its the GIRLs room there should be no problem with that!

" before people start flaming I'm not on about a grown women getting everything out for all to see"

We have an Autistic son who is 10 but I still would not dream of making others uncomfortable by bringing him in the lady's we will find other ways that are appropriate for ALL! :)

While I can see a regular bathroom working at a place like Disney, what about places like stadiums, with multiple doors, and 80 men in the bathroom? Your child could literally be lost in a sea of 100,000 people.

Or a desolate truck stop? Will you still so easily send your autistic son into these situations?

 

[JennaDeeDooDah]

My DH has already posted so I thought I would,

My problem isn't so much having the boys in the restroom ( although I think by at least 9 they should be in the correct toilet)

It is the fact that the restrooms I have been in usually have decent cracks in them and so yes I may be in a stall but that does not stop boy being able to see what I'm doing!!! If its your own child seeing your parts then so be it but its NOT my child it's YOURS!
I might be changing out of a wet underwear ( in the stall ) which would mean I'm completly exposed OR I could be doing other lady things that little boys " and bigger ones" should defiantly not be seeing! I mean I want to be able to change certain lady things without worrying about if the boy stood waiting for his mum can see what I'm doing!

And as much as some may say its not appropriate you WILL get the odd girl/lady who decides instead of taking up a stall that somebody might need they will do a quick top change in the corner by the mirrors, it happens at every theme park you get wet you change your clothes, plenty of mums decide to just quickly change a little girls dress instead of waiting wet and cold in a long que' and IMO since its the GIRLs room there should be no problem with that!

" before people start flaming I'm not on about a grown women getting everything out for all to see"

We have an Autistic son who is 10 but I still would not dream of making others uncomfortable by bringing him in the lady's we will find other ways that are appropriate for ALL!

I haven't posted on this thread but your post reminded me of a situation I had blocked out. I was in elementary school and was at the movies with my parents. I needed to go to the bathroom and while I was in there, I could see a boy from my school was also in there. And, while he wasn't being weird and looking through the cracks, he could see through them. I knew he could see me going to the bathroom and he knew that I knew he could see me. Talk about an embarrassing school year. Every time we saw each other at school, it was really weird and I was very embarrassed that a boy from my school had seen me sitting on the toilet.

 

[tinkerpea]

While I can see a regular bathroom working at a place like Disney, what about places like stadiums, with multiple doors, and 80 men in the bathroom? Your child could literally be lost in a sea of 100,000 people.

Or a desolate truck stop? Will you still so easily send your autistic son into these situations?

What you are mentioning is not everyday life!
How many times a wk or even month do you go to a huge stadium or need to stop at truck stops?

For 1 we don't stop at truck stops " we would stop at more appropriate places "
2 I have never been to a stadium my son wouldnt cope right now having autism and all!!
so I couldn't comment BUT I should imagine that if I went to a stadium it would be the last place my son and I would be going on our own!! We would go as a family and so my DH would be with us also, plus when traveling my son would rather pee in a bush on the side of the road then go in the girls room lmao! Please remember we are from the UK stopping on the side of the road is done all the time

Like I said we WOULD find alternate ways,

 

[Planogirl]

I personally like the nicer truck stop chains. They tend to be busy and well-lit unlike many regular service stations or rest stops.

I want lots of people around. I feel that incidents are less likely with a lot of witnesses in the area.