How often do you see your grandchildren? Let us know if it’s on FaceTime/skype more

[wishesuponastar]

my first grandchild, a boy was born a year ago. He and his mom & dad live an hour away. I see him about once a month, sometimes twice a month. I would see him more but with my SUV the gas is too expensive and I’m a more nervous driver now to take long drives. Don’t ask why his parents don’t take the drive to us but we do talk on phone a few times a week.

 

[hereyago]

I am blessed that DD and DGD live with me.
When DD goes to work, I take are of the little one.

 

[Calee]

My children see one set of grandparents about 4 times a year and the other set about 8 times a year. We dont facetime with either set. I talk to one set every few days on the phone, but the kids dont talk on the phone.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

My kid has one set of grandparents who live 10 minutes away. We see them maybe 7-8 times a year, mostly for holidays and special occasions. We’ve FaceTimed twice, I think, on Christmas and a birthday. Phone calls are rarely for chatting, usually just for making arrangements to get together. My son is two and doesn’t talk on the phone as of yet.

 

[wishesuponastar]

When I have been seeing my grandson lately, I have been telling my daughter if she wants to do errands, etc, I will babysit and she has been appreciating that so much.

 

[jdb in AZ]

Three of our grand kids live 2000+ miles away so we're lucky to see them two or three trips a year. We spend a lot of time on Facebook and the phone with DD, but the grand kids (2, 5, 7) insist on FaceTime. If I'm not dressed and looking somewhat presentable (don't want to scare the grand kids) they just have to "make do" with the old-fashioned phone.

 

[wishesuponastar]

I agree that I would have to be presentable for FaceTime lol

 

[Ellie008]

Both sets of grandparents live far away (a full day's drive each way), so we don't see them that often. I would say 2-3 times a year for one set and more like 6-8 times a year for the other set. We skype once in a while (maybe 3-4 times a year) with each set. The kids will talk on the phone with them briefly maybe once a month. The kids don't like to talk on the phone (to anyone).

 

[scrhsa]

Not nearly as often as I would like. I've only seen my first grand daughter 3 times since she was born in Oct. We live several states away and we are unable to get to each other as often as we should.

 

[jo-jo]

DGSs live 20 mins ago, see them at least every week ,if not more. We go to the same church and I teach Sunday school.

DGDs live 2 1/2 hours away. We see them about 6 -8 weeks. Most holidays and birthday. A few times a year , we go stay with them for a week.

 

[Meriweather]

2 grand kids (2 and 5) that live 5 minutes away. We see them at least once a week, they spend the night at least once a month, sometimes more.
Now that it is warmer we will see them 3-4 times a week.....we have the pool They were over for a couple of hours yesterday and will be again today.
We do family vacations every couple of years. I am taking DGD to Disneyland in June and DGS in Nov.
We take DGD to the children's summer movies, so we will have her one day a week all summer for that

 

[Kitty 34]

My oldest granddaughter (2 and a half) lives in Indianapolis. We see her every couple of months. My DIL is soooo good about texting me tons of pics of her.

My grandson (one and half) and newest grand daughter ( 5 mo) live north of Detroit. We see them usually every 3 to 4 weeks. We Facetime usually every weekend.

 

[Kitty 34]

I agree that I would have to be presentable for FaceTime lol

I agree about the Facetime......my son always texts me first to make sure I'm ready ( presentable!!)

 

[Micca]

We see DGDs 4 or 5 times a week. We specifically moved to be close to them. On days we don't see them we will likely facetime.

 

[mjkacmom]

My parents lived 5 minutes away and saw my kids several times a day. My mom had a nursery, highchair, and tons of baby equipment. My kids had extra clothes there. My IL’s lived an hour away, and saw my kids about 8/10 times a year. When my kids were babies, it was a PITA. They were all solid crib nappers, and for the first couple of years, napped from 9 -11, 2 - 4.

 

[kuhltiffany]

My kids see my parents 3 times a year (we live 6 hours away) but talk about 1-2 times a month on FaceTime. Sometimes DD will chat with Grandma via email on her own (she's 14).

We used to live 45 minutes away from them, but still didn't see them more than once every 1-2 months, my parents are always too busy with their friends, travel, volunteering (work before they retired). I gave up asking after a while

 

[luvsJack]

2 live 30 minutes away in one direction and one lives 30 minutes away in the other direction. I see all of them a couple of times a week usually. Sometimes more, sometimes less. One spent the night last night and is sleeping in the other room right now. We are going to see Dumbo later.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I'm not a grandparent, just a mom. My kids are 18 and 15. We/they see DH's parents at least once a week when we go to their house for Sunday dinner, often more. ILs live about 5 miles away from us and come to soccer games, track meets, school events, etc, and they stop by our house if they haven't seen us for a week or so. FIL used to come by the house a couple times a week with donuts, but had a really bad accident last year and is no longer able to drive, so he only comes now when MIL does. We pick him up and take him to the kids' games and such if he feels up to going. They don't talk on the phone much but they do text with MIL.

As far as my "parents", they live about 20 minutes away. I was raised by my grandparents, and we saw my papa at least once a week, he came to the kids' things, and we went to his house; my momma had been in a nursing home since the kids were very little, but they did visit her there with my "mother". My papa died 3 years ago, and since then, my bio mother, who used to have my kids once a week when they were little and cute, has contacted us twice in the last 4-5 years (before papa died). Once she showed up at my house because she was having surgery and wanted to see "her grandbabies" in case she didn't wake up from surgery; they hadn't heard a word from her in 2 years and it was very awkward. The other time, this past Christmas, she brought them money because "she hadn't seen them for a couple months and didn't know what they like anymore". DS15 took his envelope and said thank you and went out the door; DS18 couldn't really escape, he stared at her without saying a word and his envelope is still on the shelf unopened. I have no interest in seeing or talking to her and I will not subject my kids to her unless they want to see her. I have never refused to let her see them but I won't make the effort, and they no longer care to see her because they see how she really is now. They loved spending time with her when they were younger, but she basically started ignoring them. She has no idea what she is missing out on. I fully expect her to show up at DS18's graduation next month, especially after she sees in the paper that he is the valedictorian--after all, that is HER grandson, and she is sooooo proud of him, blah, blah, look at her. She is not on the list to receive an announcement/invitation and is not welcome at his graduation party, if she finds out when it is.

 

[tcufrog]

My parents live an hour away and they see my kids about once a month. My mom lately has been complaining about not seeing them often enough. The problem is that the drive is hard on them so I don't wish them to do it too often. I wouldn't mind visiting them more often except that they have a cat in their apartment and I'm extremely allergic to cats. I usually leave their apartment at the minimum congested and with a headache. They are going to move into an assisted living place near us within the next several months so my mom should get her wish.

 

[DIS_MERI]

Parent/not grandparent here, but I grew up never having met my grandfathers (passed away before I was born) and adoring my grandmothers. Mom's mom passed when I was 8, and she was my favorite person ever. Dad's mom passed when my oldest was 5 months old (she was 94!). With great memories of my grandmothers, I wanted the same for my kids, but I was in the Navy when I had them (in England for 2 of those years) and it was a 10+ hour drive to my family. So, in 2008 I got out of the Navy after 12 years and moved back to the same town as my parents. We saw the nearly daily. After a year or so, we moved an hour away and saw them weekly (I would do my grocery shopping while the kids played with my Mom and Dad; saved my sanity!). After 3 years, I got remarried and moved another hour away, and we visited monthly. My parents were older, so 49/50 visits were me/kids going to them. Mom passed in 2014 and Dad last year, and the kids are just as happy as I am that we moved to be closer to them. XH and I split at the same time I got out/moved home, and I also drove 8-12 hours so the kids could see his parents for a while. The kids only see them about once a year now (but, his parents are much younger than mine were, and are just now in their 60s). My kids don't plan to have children, so I might not get grandkids, but I never planned to have kids either lol.