How often do you Hear from your Adult children?

[disney1990]

My oldest DD is a full time wife, mom and a full time nursing student living 10 minutes from my house. During the summer we probably talk 2-3 times a week. During the school year, we can go weeks and not talk to each other. My youngest DD is a full time student living in New York. We probably talk once a week, but send misc text messages every day or two.

My Mom is 87 and I talk to her about every other day. My FIL is 89 and my DH talks to him about once a week.

 

[shortbun]

I used to talk to my Mom about every 3 days. If I called her one day after another, she'd say, "Mimi, I just talked to you!" I would have called her every day if she had wanted me to. She was very busy until her cancer hit. I wish I could talk to her now. Call your mother.

 

[indimom]

DH and I live within 10 miles of both of our parents. I probably talk to my mom the most, maybe 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more, but they are short calls. She will stop in at our house about once a week for a few minutes, and we make a point of visitng with them on the weekend once or twice a month for a longer visit (an hour or two). We talk to his parents almost every Sunday for an hour or two (we visit almost every week), but only call if we need to ask something.
We talk to our sibs irregularly, but at least once a month. I talk to my sis in Florida the least, but they are the longest calls, sometimes 90 minutes or more...

 

[marybet]

My sons only call me on my birthday and Mother's Day the rest of the time I call them. I have made a real effort in the last year to call them every couple of weeks. Youngest son only has a cell phone and has never set it up to leave a message, he has caller ID, I called him on Sunday, he didn't answer and he hasn't called me back yet. Left a message for my oldest on Sunday too and he hasn't called back. I know they live busy lives but it would be nice if they could find 10 minutes a month to call their mother.

We live almost 1000 miles apart, so I usually only see them once a year. I left Ohio in 1998 and they have never come to visit me, I go visit them. Have taken the youngest to Disney World twice, the oldest has never wanted to go.

I talk to my sisters at least once a week. My DH calls his parents every 3 to 4 weeks.

 

[crazyme5kids]

I usually talk to my daughter a few times a week. I'll call her or she will call me. Sometimes our conversation consists of, "Is everything OK?" Oh good, I'll talk to you in a few days." My son on the other hand......... Well let's just say I have to call him, then his sister, and then his brother to see if they have heard from him. Finally I will get a call or text.
All I need is a, Hey mom, I'm busy, but I'm OK." I don't need to know every detail that is going on in their life. It is something my son doesn't seem to understand .

 

[descovy]

hmmm... I have a good relationship with my parents but we must not be very talky-talky in comparrison to the previous responses...

I am 34, live in TX, 2000 mi away from my parents in WA. We moved away 11 years ago and now have 3 children... We talk maybe once a month... and it seems like plenty. ...just call when there's something to say, while on the line we'll catter awhile. I guess we're not really phone people The past 2 winters they have come to TX for extended visits (full-time RV'ers) and every-other summer we go to WA to visit. Enjoy our visits... no guilt, works for us!

I also have a brother in WA. We call on holidays and birthdays. Again, I like him, but not much to say I guess. His wife is on facebook, so catching up with her lets me know what he's up to, too

I do say, I don't pour my deep secrets to my folks, so maybe that's why we don't talk so often? We're too far away for them to be involved in the mundane day-to-day issues. And I have a close friend, and my husband for the "heavy stuff."

Like I say, I love my folks and we get along great. No drama, guilt, etc... Just what works for us!

 

[A_Princess'_Daddy]

This thread makes me a bit melancholic. My mom passed away a couple years ago, but was very ill with progressive dementia for well over a decade before that, so I never really was able to have an adult conversation with her that was logical. She was brilliant before she fell ill, so I would have learned a lot from her as an adult; I certainly did as a child.

My dad and I try to talk several times a week, but I'm embarrassed to say that we end up talking to each others' secretaries far more than we actually connect directly. He's 73 but still a very busy executive, and I'm always rushing in my career, but we do try. We probably actually connect for more than 5-10 minutes about every other week.

My DW calls her parents every Sunday. They use it like a weapon and make her feel very badly about herself if she doesn't call, or calls at a bad time, yet they rarely call here. They have never forgiven her for having her own life and moving away from them.

I talk to my "surrogate" mom, a friend who is much older and has been a mentor for over a decade, at least weekly. We chat during my morning commute, so she does fill a very nice "mom" niche in my life.

 

[sbeaulieu]

Well, we are in the process of moving a few states away, so for the past month we have been living at my parents house....but I talked to her every day when I didn't live here. I probably only talked to her a few times a week before I had kids (and also lived in Germany), but now she likes to hear updates on them all the time!

My DH talks to his parents once a week.

 

[TwinsinCA]

My parents are a couple time zones away but I talk to them often. I talk to my mom almost every day, often more than once a day to tell her some quick thing. I talk to my dad several times a week too.

If I go more than 5 days or so my dad will answer with a "Who's this?" when I call. It is rare that I go that long without calling.

Unlimited calling is one of the best things ever. I remember having huge phone bills when I first moved across country.

 

[Disney Doll]

I call mine daily. They are in their 80's and I like to check up on them. I usually see them at least once a week as well.

 

[Kathi OD]

So I didn't get past the first page before I started thinking I am weird.

I have 3 grown children, but 1 still lives at home. Our oldest (daughter) is 32. She's getting married in October and just moved to her fiance's house, which is about 40 minutes from us, but just down the street from where I work. She used to live about 20 minutes away. I talk to her maybe once a week, sometimes it might be once every 10 days.

Middle child (son) is 30. He lives about 15 minutes from us. He has 3 lovely little children. During the summer months we see him almost every weekend. In the winter, we might hear from him once a week, sometimes less.

The youngest (son) is 24. While he lives with us now, he was in his own apartment for 2 years, about 1/2 hour away. I heard from him at least 4 times a week.

DH sees his mom every week. She lives about 20 minutes away and he usually stops on his way home from work to see her and make sure her finances are in order.

My parents live 1.5 hours away. I talk to them a couple of times a month and see them maybe every other month, although it has been more lately.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Well, now that my DS is in the same time zone, and he is in the process of buying a house, I have heard from him more in the past week, then I have in the past year...LOL (at least via phone)!!

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

I'm 47 and DH is 48 and we live 30 minutes away from our parents. We call them once every 2 to 3 weeks. I used to talk to my mother almost every day when she was widowed. She now travels a lot and I hardly can keep up with her schedule. She never turns on her cell phone. She's saving minutes for an emergency.

My mother remarried 2 years ago. Every time I would call, her 80 year old husband would be sitting right beside her and she would repeat/shout everything I said and he would shout back and she would then tell me. I got really tired of the 3 way conversations. The frequency of my calls has gotten significantly less as I am now busier with 3 children.

 

[pilesoflaundry]

I call my gram about once a month, my dad once a month or sometimes I go longer (he hates the phone but I say hi on facebook or send him a note)

My mom it varies. I talked to her 4 times this week but I can go two weeks or so without talking to her. My mil I talk to sometimes once a week, sometimes every day.

 

[Snow_White]

I'm 30 and I talk to my mom a couple of times a day. She is my best friend I don't really talk to my dad on the phone regularly, but I still see him (and my mom) several times a week.

 

[N&B'smom]

I'm in my 30's and I talk to my parents everyday, several times.

 

[Silent1CB]

I call my parents when I have something to ask or tell them. Maybe once a month. Or I just email the question. My Dad calls looking for computer help a lot. My mom calls once in a while to shoot the breeze -- about her. She gets annoyed when I don't report in. I'm mid-40s & married. I don't feel like I need to report in. Especially when we are away on vacation. She recently got pissed at me because she was worried something happened that we didn't call to tell her we arrived at vacation place ok. I've never done it before. Had no idea I was supposed to. She had our complete itinerary & knew where we would be every day. I thought that was enough. My mother refuses to admit I've grown up, so I refuse to give her more stuff to treat me like a kid with. She's very controlling.

DH calls his parents on their birthdays & holidays. He does not like the phone. His mom calls every few months. His dad does not call here at all but calls his other children frequently.

 

[vettechick99]

I talk to my parents about once a week. They live out of town.

My DH talks to his parents everyday. I talk to them several times a week. They live behind us.

 

[SandrA9810]

My mom, hardly. My sister, rarely. My aunt at least once a week along with my g'mother. My aunt always like to have "check ups on what's happening". And if something is going on that's big, usually every couple of days.

 

[Danauk]

My parents live 2 to 2 1/2 hours away (depending on the house they are staying in at the time) and I try to speak to them every week. Now they are retired though they spend more time away at the house in the country where the cell signal is limited to say the least so then I might not speak to them as often. I try to see my parents and my family every 2 months, in fact I am going home tomorrow to see my aunt and uncle as we haven't seen them for a while.