How many others feel the same way about the fact that NOONE can post anything anymore

[workinggal]

I'm clueless. Who are the 3?
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[MsDisney23]

I do not post as often as I used to, nor do I come to the site like I used to. I find it very very SAD I do stay away from alot of threads, and I always try to say something nice to other's. If I can not say anything nice, I need to keep my mouth shut! I try to stay neutral. (oops, did I spell that wrong)

 

[WDWHound]

Originally posted by workinggal
I'm clueless. Who are the 3?
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[minniepumpernickel]

Originally posted by NMAmy
Aww...bless your heart, EsmeraldaX, for bringing a little humor to yet another heated situation!

One person that I remember getting picked on was Esmereldax. It might have been the dog thread. I didn't read the whole thing. It was kind of like the "snow ball " effect. One person starts something then everybody jumps on it, and rolls.

With some people, the ball never gets rolling, and with others it creates an avalanche. I think Esmerelda is just too nice to tell people to kiss off!

Maybe the problem is too many followers, and not enough leaders. I'm not really sure.

 

[Planogirl]

Originally posted by N.Bailey
For me, if I'm posting in a debate thread, it's anything goes. I feel most debaters expect this and hopefully, I'm not hurting anyone's feelings. I don't think any of us really want to hurt anyone's feelings. If it's a CB type thread, I just go with the flow of that particular thread. So, if I attack your opinion in a debate thread and I see you a nice pink and fluffy thread 2 minutes later, I won't be holding any grudges and I hope you won't be either.

Naw, there's very few posters that get to me. I'm pretty easy-going IMO. I do agree that anything goes in debate threads. I personally don't like them if they disintegrate into vicious sniping but I can usually ignore that.

The only threads that really bother me are those that turn into insult fests. You see them occasionally and usually the same people are involved. It must be the famous '3'. Maybe other people enjoy these arguments but really what's the point?

 

[auntpolly]

Originally posted by faithinkarma
allow me to pass along a trick that I, unfortunately, do not use often enough any more. Go ahead and reply. Type away furiously. Preview. Refine. Preview. Until you have completely vented. Then get up and walk around the room before hitting "submit". Then, do not submit, just close the page and move on. It really does feel good to just let it go.

Good idea! But if you ever see a post of mine that just says, "never mind" and has been edited, you'll know I've been up to no good!

 

[N.Bailey]

Originally posted by disney4us2002
This is justification for me to avoid those posts like the plague. I've seen debates in college and some tv debates and it is NOT 'anything goes'. I'm not telling you or anyone to debate according to the rules of debating, but that because so many feel the 'anything goes' policy is okay, I don't want to be a part.

I've read that many people just feel they are telling the truth. Since when is truth and fact the same thing?

I haven't been around the CB long enough to know how it used to be or to recognize the 'instigators' by name but I know when a post is mean. I just skim and keep going.

I understand what you're saying, but you're free to check my prior threads to see if I attack anyone. Personal attacks are against The Dis policy, so they are not included in the anything goes philosophy. When I say anything goes, I simply mean, I state my opinion without feeling like I need to sugar coat it and while I don't always agree when the others state their opinions the same way, I fully respect them and their opinions.

Now, concerning debates you see on TV, these candidates do a LOT of sugar coating IMO.

 

[faithinkarma]

Does no one see that all this "pssst pssst there are three people who are not wanted here" is completely inappropriate? Would, in fact, be innapropriate in a schoolyard? Maybe the way some are posting might give you some insight into how threads go so horribly bad.

 

[jennyanydots]

well said.

 

[WDWLVR]

I'm clueless - who are the three. Feel free to pm me if you don't want to post in the thread.

 

[DMickey28]

Yup I have noticed it. At first, I thought it was just me because I had started posting questions and thoughts more often, but then I realized that it wasn't me. And I know what you mean about a few people that do it... it's sad. Really changed my thoughts on some of those people....

Oh well. I still visit and I still read every day but I don't and won't post anything remotely personal or questionable. Just questions about different parts of the country and non emotional questions!

 

[N.Bailey]

Originally posted by minniepumpernickel
One person that I remember getting picked on was Esmereldax. It might have been the dog thread. I didn't read the whole thing. It was kind of like the "snow ball " effect. One person starts something then everybody jumps on it, and rolls.

With some people, the ball never gets rolling, and with others it creates an avalanche. I think Esmerelda is just too nice to tell people to kiss off!

Maybe the problem is too many followers, and not enough leaders. I'm not really sure.

I think there was more than one thead about pit bulls. I had just seen reference in the last one that suggested there were others as well. I also know Esmerelda is very passionate about this breed of dog and while I do not agree with her on that subject, I hope I never said anything to hurt her feelings. I tried hard not to, simply because I knew it was a passion she has. I mean, I think her and I can disagree on this issue and I know for a fact I totally respect her and I love reading her posts. I feel she brings a lot to CB. She seems very intelligent and her responses at least IMO seem to be very well thought out. I could say the same about you minniepumpernickel. I think it's bound to snow if you and I agree on anything, but I still think your contributions here are worth taking the time to read.

Well, my take on it all anyway.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

This is not directed at anyone in particular, I was just thinking.

Disgareeing with someone is not being mean, or bullying or picking on them. When you post a question, you should expect to get an answer, and it may not be in agreement to what you are thinking. We ALL have different opinions, and there is no reason why we can't share them. It is not personal, although some people take it that way.

 

[Planogirl]

I think the references to the "bad" threesome are only damaging if someone says who they are. I only mentioned the 3 in a joking manner because I have no clue who this is supposed to be.

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by Miss Jasmine
This is not directed at anyone in particular, I was just thinking.

Disgareeing with someone is not being mean, or bullying or picking on them. When you post a question, you should expect to get an answer, and it may not be in agreement to what you are thinking. We ALL have different opinions, and there is no reason why we can't share them. It is not personal, although some people take it that way.

Of course, this goes without saying. The thing is, there is a HUGE difference between disagreeing with someone and bullying them. Its all the delivery. Most have the ability to disagree and still maintain civility, some don't. Bullies do exist here on the DIS, on the schoolyard, in the office, just about everywhere you find a large group of people you'll find a few people who feel better when they are attacking or putting down someone elses character. I don't think that is particularly shocking that it happens here, but I do find it shocking that some people don't think it exists.

Happy weekend all! I hope everyone who is feeling bad goes out and takes advantage of the great big world AWAY from the PC this weekend.

 

[Crankyshank]

IMHO there are a lot of people that have their heads in the sand and go crying to mommy whenever someone dares post a response questioning or disagreeing with them. Maybe if you only want cavity inducing responses, you should put it on the thread title. Just like those who post a debate do it on theirs.

Life is not all sweetness and light and some people really do have the best interest of the poster in mind when they post the negative responses. they just might be lacking tact.

I think there are also some people that are incredibly sensitive and look for things to take offense at. Just like there are some here that probably need to think or take the OP's thoughts or feelings into perspective before they post.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by EsmeraldaX
ITA.

I used to be able to post here to vent, or ask for serious advice as well as play along in the fluff threads.

I will NEVER post a thread on here looking for serious advice again. It's a shame because I was actually able to get some great advice from the good folks here, but there are certain people who can't go by the old saying, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".

I agree. At the very least, it's a snide remark that's posted.

 

[debster812]

*wading back in*

You know what else? Online, we do not have benefit of tone of voice, intonation, and volume. We also do not have benefit of facial expression and body language. I *think* quite a bit gets lost in the translation, so to speak. It is much harder to interpret what someone might 'mean' to say.

That being said:

Just as there may well be people here on the DIS who want nothing more than to stir the pot, cause trouble, and pick fights, my opinion is that there are just as many who are looking to find an insult in almost everything that is posted to them, in reference to them, or in their general direction. (disclaimer--NO I am NOT blaming the victim, just an observation).

Hey, I got caught up in something about a year and a half ago, where one well known pot stirrer posted something ridiculous and inappropriate on a thread of mine. The uproar was incredible. The pot stirrer was ultimately banned (and came back). You know what, we all survived.

Hey--at the risk of being a rose colored glasses wearing CB-er: I hope everyone has a very nice, restful, and stress free weekend.

Debbie

 

[ripleysmom]

See what I mean about the PMs (or even email). Oooohhh....there are 3 mean people on the CB, let's all PM each other about who they really are. Worse than high school.

The same thing happen with those threads where people are handing out hugs yet those same people are PMing each other to talk smack about the OP.

The OP (and others) may not like the people that are speaking their mind or offering their true opinions but you can be damn sure that there are a lot more people who offered PD and {{{{HUGS}}}} that are PMing each other with the same exact comments. If nothing else at least you now know what kind of knife is being passed around.

 

[tmq2766]

The CB used to be a fun place where you could actually post and not worry about being attacked yes attacked it is not constructive critisism it is just certain people surfing the boards looking for people to hurt! This is why everyone wants the debate board back so certain posters can go back and debate and belittle all they want!!!!!!
The sad part is that thesa posters are not only on the CB but they have invaded other boards as well.
Like Thumper said "If you can't say somethin nice don't say nothin at all"!!!!!!