How long did you date before getting married?

[budbeerlady]

Did someone date you too long and you moved on?

I have a great friend. He has been with his girlfriend for 7 yrs and 6 weeks. (Scary that I know that but to make sure you know I not that wierd thier first date was to my wedding to Dh. So it was pretty easy to count on a calendar!) I cannot belive she hasnt left him yet because there has been NO, NOT A SINGLE movement toward marriage. I keep telling him that MOST WOMEN WOULD HAVE LEFT YEARS AGO!

The girlfriend is less than pleased about not being married yet. He is in his early 30's and she is in her late 20's. They have been going to a few weddings lately and you can image how that goes. People (because we all know that people dont think) keep asking them when they are getting married, she gets upset and leaves crying. Then they fight, she doesnt talk to him for a couple of days and then life goes on untill the next wedding. Generally I think he will not be marrying her and to move on. But I feel bad saying that to him.

Anyone else together for years and then get married?

Dh and I dated 2 years before getting engaged and then our wedding was not quite 4 years from our 1st date.

 

[Aimeedyan]

We dated 3 years and then were engaged another year before getting married. But we met when we were 19 and 20, way too young to get married, so we dated all through college and married after college and before graduate school.

 

[transparant]

9 months. I met DH Dec. of "86' when I just turned 17. I graduated in June and was engaged that Oct. We married the following Oct when I was 18. This Oct. it will be 18 yrs. We have defied the odds

 

[need_a_Disney_fix]

I met my wonderful DH April 3, 1978 on a blind date and we were married December 30, 1978. He is my best friend and fellow Disney freak along with our two kids, their spouses and our beautiful granddaughter.

 

[DisneyPhD]

DH and I dated 4 years before we were married. We meet at 18 and got married at 22. Rather young all in all. If we were older when we meet we most likely would of gotten married or at least engaged with in a year of meeting if we weren't so young and wanted to wait until we were out of college and could afford to live on our own.

For us it was when, you know you know.

I have a friend who meet her DH shortly after I meet my DH (17 years ago.) They were friends for a long time, good friends, lived together as friends some or talked daily. It wasn't until 2 years ago it hit them, we are in love, lets get married. They will be married a year this summer. However they did not date all that time they were friends (and they both dated others for some of it.)

 

[ceiligh1]

When I began dating my DH he told me not to expect to even hear the words marry me until we had been dating for 3 years. His longest relationship had been 3 years and he thought that they would get married but she ended it. So in his mind it had to be at least that long to be sure. Of course a year and a half into it he asked me, but I said not yet. Another year and a half later he asked again and we were married 2 years later. We have been married for almost 3 years.

WHile it wasnt as long as your friends we have friends who dated for a long time btwn 8 to 10 years. All of their college days and several years after, they got married finally 3 months before we did. You never know what is going on in that relationship, there might be reasons that you dont know about.

 

[my2princessgirls]

DH and I met in Jan. 1996, had our first date Feb. 21, got engaged April 18, and got married Aug. 3, 1996. So, about 5 1/2 months from first date to walking down the isle! I think that we have also "defied the odds". We will celebrate our 10 year anniversary in about 6 weeks!

 

[Bob Slydell]

6 years We met as sophomores in college and got married when we were 25.

 

[MosMom]

Danielle,

I also started dating my DH in Jan 06 but we married in Oct 06. Here's to 10 years of wedded bliss!

 

[preshi]

we dated & knew each other 4 weeks to the day we eloped. We've been married 8 years in October.

 

[4greatboys]

Dh and I dated 4 years before we got married. I thought at the time it was kind of long but compared to 7 I guess not.
Marriage was important to me so Im not sure I would stay with someone for 7 yrs if they werent willing to marry, and he doesnt sound like its high on his list.

 

[MosMom]

Deena brings up a good point. If his girlfriend had a real problem with it she would leave him. Perhaps she just hasn't reached that point yet but if she cries at weddings, ultimatum time is probably approaching

 

[Pooh67_68]

We started dating the end of May 84 and married May 3rd 86

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

DH and I met in 1979. I remember telling my friend 2 months later that "he's the one" but DH and I both agreed that we wouldn't even consider getting married until after college, and then, I extended that until after we found out where college would lead us. I did take a job 200 miles away, and almost a year later we got engaged and 5 months later we were married. We'll be married 22 years this August.

I would never give an ultimatum about marriage...I wouldn't want to marry anyone who didn't want to be married. I think it's time for her to move on.

 

[mickeyboat]

DH and I met when I was 13, engaged when I was 19, and married when I was 21. We have been married for 14 years and are doing very well.

I think if my daughter comes home engaged at 19, I will freak out!

Denae

 

[lindakmonty]

dh and I dated 2 yrs... he was married before and said he'd never get married again but that was before we met! I thought it would be a VERY long time before I'd get married again too...but god had other plans! I have to say, if I were her... I would leave him. If after that many years he can't make a commitment to her, I don't think he ever will... but that is just my .02.

 

[lovinwdw]

DH & I met at the end of our senior year in high school. we started dating June 12, 1993 and got married September 13, 2003. We were only 18 when we started dating, so we did start young. But, we did it when we were both ready. I love him to death and it seems like we really grew up together. We're going to be starting our family this year!!!

 

[mickeyfan2]

We dated 5 month before we got engaged. We married 2 years and 11 months later. We just celebrated our 23 anniversary so it worked for us.

I have a cousin who has dated his girlfriend for ~17 years. I had an uncle (same side of the family) who dated his girlfriend from before I was born to about 5 years ago.

 

[MI mom of 3]

We dated for 4 months before we got engaged. Our wedding was 13 months later. This September we will be married for 20 years.

 

[sajetto]

We got engaged a liitle over a year after dating and will be married after 2 years.