How Going with the Wrong Person Can Undo All the Magic

[Jenvenza]

I was so worried about this, because my BIL is this way and he and my sister were coming with us next month. My sister is a Disney freak, but her husband not so much. Ever since they booked it, it was - WHy couldnt we go on a cruise? Or - I am NOT getting to the parks before noon! Then when he found out my parents were going on a Cruise around Europe, instead of being happy for them, he got jealous and told me - This whole Disney thing was YOUR idea! Ugh. Well lucky for me, he had to cancel a couple weeks ago! So now I wont have my Disney vacation spoiled!

 

[zalansky]

When I said immediate family earlier in the thread - I should have specified. I meant MY immediate family, meaning myself, my husband and my two children - and THATS IT!

No in laws, no sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, friends of friends, NO ONE.

 

[budbeerlady]

When I said immediate family earlier in the thread - I should have specified. I meant MY immediate family, meaning myself, my husband and my two children - and THATS IT!

No in laws, no sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, friends of friends, NO ONE.

That is what I mean also... Never, Ever, Never again!

 

[DopeysMommy]

I agree about the only immediate family rule-UNLESS you have been blunt and laid out the ground rules ahead of time. I went on a cruise a few years back and we made a bill of rights--basic stuff, everyone is allowed to decline an activity, spend alone time, etc. It worked. I would travel with same family members again, as long as we made new rights. there are kids involved now, so respecting space is even more important.

 

[daleswife]

This is why we only go as a family me, dh and 2ds's only no one will steal my magic You can always meet up with your dis buds there

I have no choice. My parents paid for the whole family to go. My mom really wants everyone there and its very important to her. So we are gonna go.....and try to keep mouths shut!!!

 

[ekball]

Oh geesh. This is my fear for our upcoming (next week!) trip.

We are going with my best friend and her family - our first time vacationing with anyone but family. I have planned a LOT of time away from eachother (on purpose), but we are doing 3 park days together and I am a little (lot) worried about how this is going to go. Specifically, I'm worried that bf's husband is going to take the fun out of our park days because he can be more than a little sarcastic and negative. I'm hoping that he'll put it all aside for his girls, who will be experiencing their first trip to WDW, but I'm not at all sure that he'll be able to do it. I refuse to let el negativo ruin our fun - but I don't know how I'll get out of doing the parks together idea: "I'm sorry....but we have to go back to the hotel...we forgot ________. We'll catch up with you later!")

Someone reassure me.... please.

 

[proteus]

I feel really bad for the daughter because it sounds like she REALLY wants to be a part of your family and go with you guys!!! It's just too bad there's no median or that she's not older so she can make her own decision!!

Where do you guys live?!?!? I could come and scare the mom for ya!!!

Yes she really wants to join us but they won't let her unless one of them comes. This despite us knowing them for 7 years and her daughter being at our house constantly.

The Dad is ok and won't ruin the trip but he is hard to communicate with and never discussed it with me. He just canceled a beach trip with his daughter and instead will take her to 3 amusement parks.

The Mom is incredibly lazy and is constantly asking me for favors, fixing stuff in her house, helping her apply for jobs, etc. She asked me to teach her something and then wasted my time by not practicing at all. I've lost patience with all this and have cut way back. We can't even go to her house without her asking me to work on something and before the request I have to hear this phony flattery "you are my best friend, i tell everybody" speech. She found out I have a gym in my complex and wanted to come over every day to exercise. I said ok, she came once, and that was it.

 

[HGD24]

DH and I have seen more family arguments at Disney than anywhere else! Usually, over what park they are going to or are at and what rides/attractions to hit next. Whenever we hear of large families going together, we politely tell them that they should not count on doing everything together, but instead plan to meet up for meals.

We are going with my in-laws in Oct and DH's uncle invited himself and his wife. We all get along well, but after a few hours, DH's uncle can get a little overwhelming with his comments and loudness. My MIL loves her brother to pieces, but can only take so much of him at a time so we will definitely be taking our own advice and having some time to ourselves in order to keep the peace.

 

[misskrystal]

My first trip to Orlando was with my friend and his family and I found out very quickly that we had drastically different ideas about what makes a good holiday. In 14 days, they spent 5 by the pool (we were off-site and hanging out around an I-Drive hotel for almost a week is not fun!), slept late every day, ate at Ponderosa at least once a day (often twice) and got to the parks very late. I felt like we missed so much that trip, we didn't do Epcot or AK and had no touring plan what so ever, so we ended up crossing from one side of a park to the other when someone picked an attraction. I've never been so tired from doing so little Never again!

Next year I'm going with the same friend (although not his family) and I've already told him that, if we do want to do different things while we're there, we'll split up and do our own thing.

 

[Luhts]

I think everyone's idea of what makes a good vacation is different, so when we try to do everything together we do run into a bit of a problem...even immediate family. I love DisneyWorld, and find the whole place totally magical. My dh, on the other hand, found it not all I had hyped it up to be.

But he knows how much I adore it, so we are going back. When we told our parents, they decided they wanted to come with us! My bil and sil will also be joining us.

We have rented an enormous house, and so far we have made plans to be together for one day out of the trip ( my son's b-day) and that is just fine with me!

My mom hates animals and heights, my MIL hates rides and has a million dietary restrictions, my FIL will golf and be asleep by 8 pm, my BIL will sleep all morning and party all night...I could go on and on. So everyone will just do their own thing, and we will get together occasionally to talk about what fun we are having doing the things we want to do! Now the only person I will have to put up with is my dh ("this line is too long, this food is too expensive..." ) but he and I will have a little 'talk' about keeping things to himself as well.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

DH and I have seen more family arguments at Disney than anywhere else! Usually, over what park they are going to or are at and what rides/attractions to hit next. Whenever we hear of large families going together, we politely tell them that they should not count on doing everything together, but instead plan to meet up for meals.

We are going with my in-laws in Oct and DH's uncle invited himself and his wife. We all get along well, but after a few hours, DH's uncle can get a little overwhelming with his comments and loudness. My MIL loves her brother to pieces, but can only take so much of him at a time so we will definitely be taking our own advice and having some time to ourselves in order to keep the peace.

I am waiting for that to happen. My cousin really needs to go when we do, so someone can ride the rides with her children, because she can't because of a heart defect, but I have planned EVERYTHING and she is just along to pay her portion and take care of her kids otherwise. She will not put a damper on my trip at all, cause I will leave her butt in the dust. We have decided to stay at different resorts (well she is cheap), but this will be for the best. Her oldest DD (10) will be staying with us, which is fine, she is no trouble and she likes being with the "big" girls (adults). I think my problem will be with DH, he can't stand my cousin and he might say something he shouldn't, I have learned to ignore her, but he can't seem to remember to do that. I can sned him off by himself if I have to.

Suzanne