How Going with the Wrong Person Can Undo All the Magic

[proteus]

Back in 06’ money was tight and we had no WDW trip planned L. Luckily a short one came by invitation, free stay at AS resort, I pay for tickets, meals, etc. I accepted without a thought.

This isn’t a complaint for one should not look a gift horse in the mouth, just an observation on how other people can affect your perception at WDW.

When DD and I go to WDW we are on a cloud, it doesn’t end until we realize that in a few hours it will be over. Like a great dream it starts to fade as you wake up, as hard as you try to keep it going.

The person who invited us kicked off by commenting on the resort (one of the All Stars) “huh, this is supposed to be a themed resort? Looks like a regular hotel, we could have stayed off-site”. The next 3 days were more in the same vein.”I don’t see what all the fuss is about, rides at six flags are pretty much the same”. Yawn here, bored there. The parting comment was “well I did it once, not much fun and kind of boring, won’t come back”. Incidentally this person had the same comment about a cruise “there is nothing to do!”.

Try as we could the magic slowly got stripped away under this onslaught of negativism. By the end we wanted to leave as well only so we could come back alone to reclaim what we felt was ours.

Now DD’s friend’s mother is thinking of coming with us and I’m not sure this is a good idea. She is incredibly paranoid and undoubtably would not allow her DD (12) to go on anything but mild rides, even Soarin’ would be considered dangerous in her book. Top that off with the fact that she has no interest in WDW and will probably try to end each day really early despite her DD’s objections. No thanks, try someone else, lol.

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[baby1disney]

I totally agree!!! Why bring someone that would spoil the Magic for you all over again?!?!?

Me,personally,wouldn't do that. Or maybe ask that if her daughter could go with you if she's really not into going(the mom). But, from what it sounds like, that wouldn't happen!!

As far as for the people that took you on the last trip, forget them!!! They sound like they're the REALLY adventureous type that have to have something going on every second of every minute of every day!!! That's tiring!!!

This trip, I'm bringing my sister,who's 23, and this is her first time going!!! I'm so excited!!! She asked if she could go, so I really hope that she likes it or loves it!!! I think I'm going to have to have some "training classes" for her!!! Make her watch nothing but Disney movies the month before we leave !!!

But, back to the topic, being with the wrong person(s) can really ruin anyone's vacation no matter where they're going!!

 

[proteus]

I totally agree!!! Why bring someone that would spoil the Magic for you all over again?!?!?

Me,personally,wouldn't do that. Or maybe ask that if her daughter could go with you if she's really not into going(the mom). But, from what it sounds like, that wouldn't happen!!

As far as for the people that took you on the last trip, forget them!!! They sound like they're the REALLY adventureous type that have to have something going on every second of every minute of every day!!! That's tiring!!!

This trip, I'm bringing my sister,who's 23, and this is her first time going!!! I'm so excited!!! She asked if she could go, so I really hope that she likes it or loves it!!! I think I'm going to have to have some "training classes" for her!!! Make her watch nothing but Disney movies the month before we leave !!!

But, back to the topic, being with the wrong person(s) can really ruin anyone's vacation no matter where they're going!!

Yeah, we tried inviting only the daughter. Didn't work. Besides, when we have her over the parents alternate calling every 30 minutes, drives us crazy. We can tell from her responses what the questions are: 1. Where are you? 2. What are you doing? 3. What did you eat? 4. When are you coming back? Sometimes the father instructs the daughter to influence us to do something (which we ignore). DD and I are about fed up with this, the girl is nice enough but this total control paranoid atmosphere is poison, and that is just 1/2 the story.

 

[MonicaInFlorida]

My mother-in-law has had this problem. She travels a lot, and one of her friends (let's call her "Pam") begged my MIL to go with her on her African safari. Once they were there, Pam was constantly complaining about everything. One lady on the safari had mentioned that she really liked seeing the baboons. The next batch of baboons they see, Pam said something like "Oh, more baboons... I'm getting so sick of seeing them!" She did that the whole trip... once anybody said they liked something, she'd pounce on it and imply that they were somehow lame for liking it.

This same woman made a comment to my late mother when she was undergoing chemo. We were at my MIL's house for Christmas dinner with our newborn. Pam has no family of her own, so she was invited as well. My MIL keeps her condo like a sauna, and my mom was so hot that she took off her head scarf to cool down. This woman absolutely said, "Oh, how horrible you look without the scarf! Aren't you afraid of scaring the baby?" I still have to see "Pam" on holidays.

It's funny... We took my MIL to WDW for a weekend this past April. We invited her with us because she hadn't been in WDW since the 70s, nor seen AK or Epcot yet. After my MIL had complained so much about other people complaining on her trips with them (she's taken other trips with friends, and they all ended badly), she spent the whole weekend... complaining!

 

[zalansky]

Been there, done that. Its better to go on most vacations with your immediate family. We've found that other people's expectations are very high and never can seem to be met. Add to that, everyone has to make compromises as to what they want to do. But by far, the worst is the one who is never satisfied and voices it every chance they get! That can ruin the magic of any vacation - or even just a dinner out!

 

[Nie0214]

My father spoils any vacation. The last time we went to WDW as a family (my parents are now divorced) was in 2004. I used my high school graduation money to take my family to Disney for 5 days in early August.

Our flight was scheduled for the day after Hurricane Charley hit (which was supposed to hit around Tampa, but ended up getting Orlando instead). Our flight was re-routed to Tampa, we had to rent a car for the day, etc. it was just hectic all around. He did nothing but moan and complain, and acted disgusted with everything during the entire trip. It was especially difficult to listen to because I was 18 and had paid for it all.

In your place, I wouldn't go with the other family, and if you do.. make it clear that you'll do your own thing and aren't planning on hanging out 24/7. Make a few ADRs together, but not all of them, and say you have your own plans. (Definitely make sure your rooms aren't near eachother!)

 

[Maggie'sMom]

Agreed. In 2006, we had a family reunion in Orlando. DD was 2 1/2 and I wanted us to go to WDW for a couple days. My parents insisted I couldn't take her alone, they had to go along to help. It was awful. They wouldn't let me pay for anything, but complained about prices the whole time. They complained about waiting in line and we were there in early February when the lines are almost non-existent. Most were 5 minutes or less. I think the longest was about 1/2 hour to see the princesses in Toontown. We did one day in the MK and that was more than enough for me as long as they were with me. I wanted to do another day at AK, but they still insisted they wouldn't let me go without them because it would just be too difficult for me. No way was I doing another day with them so I dropped the whole thing.

I planned a 4 day trip (3 days in the parks) for the next February for just the two of us, and my parents kept saying they would come with us. I finally had to nicely tell them DD and I would have more fun without them. It helped that my mom was having problems with her knees and I stressed how difficult all the walking would be for her. DD and I had such a blast just the 2 of us that I started planning my next trip as soon as we checked out.

If you don't think you'll be able to enjoy the trip with your DD's friend's mom, then find a way to limit your time with her.

 

[baby1disney]

I have to agree with that last posting about make plans for a few things to do together, but not everything.

I have a friend who's going on vacation and her sister's inlaws are going. She can't stand them and they're a pain in the butt. They have three kids, the oldest, who is a complete and spolied brat(I've met them),doesn't listen to anyone but his mom and (sometimes) dad. The first trip they had together was bad because all the father did was completely baby him in order for him to act right(which if that was my son, he'd be getting something else instead of a gift) with everyone. She was absolutely dreading this trip with them. But, then she said she got the best news of her life(so far): They invited some other friends to go with them, so they're goin to hang with them. Her SIL said that they would TRY to meet up with them, but no promises. My, sounding all hurt, said ok and that we'll see what happens(I was there for the whole conversation!!) and take it from there.

Well, let's just say that she had me come back over later that night to "celebrate" this event!!! Even the sister's hubby is kinda excited!!!

I'm sure they're not going to have any problems vacationing without them!!!

 

[disneybridetobe]

My mom was that wet blanket. She had to go to Cocoa Beach instead of set foot in the parks!

That's why we're taking MIL with us... she'll actually enjoy herself!!

 

[budbeerlady]

I learned my lesson the hard way.. travel with your own family only, immediate family that is!

When DD is older if we can still go I would have no issue with her taking a friend, but when people dont get it, it will ruin your trip!

 

[kimbo0569]

The very first time I stayed on Disney property, I went with a co-worker (was supposed to go with another friend but she wound up not being able to go). Well, about a week before we were supposed to leave, she says she wants to rent a car and drive to Tampa to see some concert but I didn't have to go if I didn't want to. So I figured "okay, gonna be by myself for the whole day, what to do...what to do" So I called my grandparents and told them to meet me up there (they live about 2 1/2 hours away from Disney) ..well they were thrilled! And I had a great time too! But the rest of the trip, all my co-worker did was complain. She wanted to leave the parks early. We went to DTD one night and went to one of the clubs, dressed as if she was going to a club in NYC, and then was peeved because guys kept coming up to her and asking her to dance!

I can go on vacation with my mil or my mom and a select few friends. Dh and I would not even attempt to go on vacation with any of our siblings or their families.

 

[mlynn]

I learned my lesson the hard way.. travel with your own family only, immediate family that is!

When DD is older if we can still go I would have no issue with her taking a friend, but when people dont get it, it will ruin your trip!

Reading all of these it brought back memories of taking my in-laws.(then they were just my boyfriends parents)1994

They had never anywhere out side the NJ/Pa area. Farthest the Pocono's and the Jersey shore. So me being a nice person. Asked them and my husbands brother and wife. Well brother had to back out because wife found she was expecting due the week were going to be in Disney.

By this point I have already been to Disney 3 times. So I tell him to get a good pair of sneakers (he only likes slip on $5 shoes) because the shoes you like will kill your feet. Nope doesn't buy them "the shoes I have will be fine"
Whatever!!!!

So we leave early Oct. Drive down 95. We get to Maryland and he starts COMPLAING he hates the van we rented. He complains how my husband is driving.SO my he pulls over and lets his dad drive. NEVER have I gotten car sick until driving with him. After about an hour of this. I said my turn to drive pull over. So he *****es the whole time I'm driving.But I'm a ***** so I just turn up the radio. We stop for the night. Next morning we stop at a waffle house. He complains the whole time we are sitting there. I say we can get you a bus ticket home if your unhappy. He stops talking to me. NOt my lose.

Fast Forward>>> We get to the Days Inn by Old Town. He surprised us and lliked the hotel.

We go to the MK he seems to be having a good time. I made sure we went on things I knew he would enjoy.My MIL was only glad to be on a vacation outside of the tristate area.
Well 2 hours is FIL feet are killing him and he is mad. (well I told him those shoes wouldn't work.) So in the park it was hard to find sneakers but we did(I little store in Tomorrow Land) Cheap NIkes for $80 (this made him so Mad) but if he would have bought them at home they would have only been $50.
I could go on for days about this trip but it makes me mad. I didn't talk to him for about 2 months after coming back for ruining my time in Disney.
BIL baby was born the day we came home


We leave in Sept and my husband said to me while planning it Maybe we should see if my parents want to come. I pulled out the pictures and said I"m not ruining the 1st trip with my kids with him with us. I feel bad I know my MIL would love to come but she doesn't go any were without my FIL so Nope it is just the 4 us


I will never go with anybody I know will ruin any of vacations again.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I am so afraid of this happening on our December trip. My immediate family(me, Dh, & Mom) love all things Disney. Well, my cousin has decided to go and take her 3 children and her sister and I am so sure she is going to do nothing but complain. Her oldest and her sister have gone with us and her oldest loves all Disney too, but her sister wasn't too happy. I told my mom we will just walk away and leave them if they are going to act like that and I mean it, I am not going to have someone mess up my Anniversary/Chrsitmas present. She (Dcousin) says she is only going for the kids, but hopefully she will be too busy with them to complain.

Suzanne

 

[hollyd99]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1872155


If you haven't read this report, then YOU MUST!

Once you start, you WILL NOT want to stop reading! It's amazing!

Talk about someone ruining someone else's trip!

 

[daleswife]

I learned my lesson the hard way.. travel with your own family only, immediate family that is!

Even going with immediate family can ruin the magic!!! Im going in 7 days with my sister and BIL and they act like babies when they are together. Fighting and griping all the time. I'll let ya'll know how it went when I get back!!!!!!!

 

[Nie0214]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1872155


If you haven't read this report, then YOU MUST!

Once you start, you WILL NOT want to stop reading! It's amazing!

Talk about someone ruining someone else's trip!

I read the first few pages of that when it first started last month, and I was so annoyed with the sister I had to stop reading.

 

[Echo queen]

Even going with immediate family can ruin the magic!!! Im going in 7 days with my sister and BIL and they act like babies when they are together. Fighting and griping all the time. I'll let ya'll know how it went when I get back!!!!!!!

This is why we only go as a family me, dh and 2ds's only no one will steal my magic You can always meet up with your dis buds there

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

Yikes... one bad experience is enough. Don't let another person ruin it for you and your DD.

 

[proteus]

The more I read this the less inclined I am to share any part of a Disney vacation with them. I talked to the mother and she wants us to drive them down and back plus she wants to share our room. I told her that next year we are going for 14 days and she asked us to cut it down to 9 so they could come. I said "no can do" and she replied "who will drive me back then?".

Thankfully we will be in a deluxe for most of the trip and if she splits the bill it is beyond what she is willing to pay. They can stay at the All Star, fine with me.

Conversation then turned to eating..."where do you eat there?"..."they have restaurants"..."oh no that is expensive, i bring burner and cook food every day in room". Lolllll. I'm sure that isn't allowed.

The daughter is 12 and has never been taken by her mother anywhere, not a single vacation. When she comes to our house she eats like crazy and I found out why. Meals at her mother's are snacks and those soups that you add water to and microwave. The daughter could not believe that I made meals from scratch instead of pulling them from boxes.

So...I'm not going to arrange anything for them, if the mother wants to go she will have to drive or fly and make the reservations, etc. That will never happen because she is too lazy to lift a finger. We can then enjoy our vacation like we always have.

 

[baby1disney]

I feel really bad for the daughter because it sounds like she REALLY wants to be a part of your family and go with you guys!!! It's just too bad there's no median or that she's not older so she can make her own decision!!

Where do you guys live?!?!? I could come and scare the mom for ya!!!