Warning: long vent
My DD is 17. She has not been officially diagnosed as Aspergers but when she was in 3rd grade and diagnosed with ADHD we were told verbally by the psychologist that DD did meet the DSM qualifications as a person with Autism. At that time we did not peruse that lable because it was not really impacting her behavior or schooling.
The older she gets, the more I can see the Aspergers characteristics though. There is still no impact on her academics, but the social aspects are much more obvious now. She loves her very small school where she can gets lots of attention from the adults, but she has very little social interactions with peers. She is happy with the way things are so that is fine with me. She would much rather be "right" than make compromises to get along with the other kids. Plus she is socially immature and does not have much in common with the other kids.
Now we are dealing with learning to drive. In our state, drivers Ed must be taken in school but the 50 hours of driving practice must be done at home. She did great in the class and can quote you most everything the book said.
The problem we are having is with the driving practice. She has to do everything exactly the way the book said no matter what. I try to offer suggestions that would make it easier for her but that doesn't work. If I correct what she is doing in an alarmed voice (because I think we are going to get hit or run off the road) she shuts down completely and will not say a word.
I try to keep as positive as possible giving her lots of praise and complements, but any correction is an issue.
This morning, as she was crossing a busy road that she has done before several times, we almost got hit because she would not accelerate as she cross the road. Yes, I did raise my voice to tell her to go faster. She got mad because I would not listen to her explanation as to why she was right and the other car was wrong as I was watching this car about to Tbone us.
I can't seem to get the point across to her that it doesn't matter who was "right" if you are all dead.
So, any suggestions for working with her on this? We live in the middle of nowhere about 1 1/2 hrs from a driving school or I would pay for her to get her hours that way. My DH would have an even harder time driving with her because he is much harsher with her.
I have been thinking of having her evaluated to get the label for her, but that won't help with the driving.
My DD is 17. She has not been officially diagnosed as Aspergers but when she was in 3rd grade and diagnosed with ADHD we were told verbally by the psychologist that DD did meet the DSM qualifications as a person with Autism. At that time we did not peruse that lable because it was not really impacting her behavior or schooling.
The older she gets, the more I can see the Aspergers characteristics though. There is still no impact on her academics, but the social aspects are much more obvious now. She loves her very small school where she can gets lots of attention from the adults, but she has very little social interactions with peers. She is happy with the way things are so that is fine with me. She would much rather be "right" than make compromises to get along with the other kids. Plus she is socially immature and does not have much in common with the other kids.
Now we are dealing with learning to drive. In our state, drivers Ed must be taken in school but the 50 hours of driving practice must be done at home. She did great in the class and can quote you most everything the book said.
The problem we are having is with the driving practice. She has to do everything exactly the way the book said no matter what. I try to offer suggestions that would make it easier for her but that doesn't work. If I correct what she is doing in an alarmed voice (because I think we are going to get hit or run off the road) she shuts down completely and will not say a word.
I try to keep as positive as possible giving her lots of praise and complements, but any correction is an issue.
This morning, as she was crossing a busy road that she has done before several times, we almost got hit because she would not accelerate as she cross the road. Yes, I did raise my voice to tell her to go faster. She got mad because I would not listen to her explanation as to why she was right and the other car was wrong as I was watching this car about to Tbone us.
I can't seem to get the point across to her that it doesn't matter who was "right" if you are all dead.
So, any suggestions for working with her on this? We live in the middle of nowhere about 1 1/2 hrs from a driving school or I would pay for her to get her hours that way. My DH would have an even harder time driving with her because he is much harsher with her.
I have been thinking of having her evaluated to get the label for her, but that won't help with the driving.