How do you respond to rude invitations?

[LuLuO]

OP really seems to have a bee in her bonnet. If the family knew of her comments, I'm sure they would be glad that she and her negativity will be far away on the cruise.

I see nothing wrong with the Facebook invitation or with telling people not to buy clothes. I don't find it the least bit rude. I actually find asking for a book in liue of a paper greeting card to be a bit presumptuous if it is expected in addition to a gift. Most of the cards I get aren't over a dollar. I don't know that I've ever spent $3-5 for a card...lol. Often when I give a book, that is the gift.

 

[dzorn]

OMG...you would think she asked for a Lear Jet. It would be considered inconsiderate to arrive at someone's home empty handed. (just the way I was taught) She couldn't have found a more reasonable object or useful one or basically inexpensive one to bring along. What is the problem?

Sometimes I think people just go out of their way to find something to get offended about. Jeez, Louise.

I think that she just wanted everyone to see the baby and knowing that many bring something as a gift, she offered a reasonable suggestion. I'll bet that if you brought nothing at all, she would still be delighted to show off the little one.

The baby is not born.

Denise in MI

 

[Miniefan]

I just think it's tacky how her sister wrote it. They have no class or finesse this family. I HATE greeting cards. They end up lost or in a shoe box in my house so I requested that people buy a children's book equivalent to the price of the card and write their message in there. Either way i'm not going because we are leaving for a cruise that week.

Are you kidding me?!? How is your request that no one give greeting cards really any different than them asking for diapers???

And then, you aren't going to even be home to be able to attend said shower??? Who gives a ****!!! Why even worry about it then?

In most all of the people I have been around or ever met, you throw a shower when every, EVERY is child being born. The idea is to do something special for the parents to be or at the very least the newborn. If you associate with people and family that you couldn't even be bothered with to do something nice for, I am sorry for you.


Kim

 

[DWGal210]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

 

[luvmy3]

I think the wording of the invite is tacky, especially the "she has plenty of, if you could just bring....." Its the written expectation of a gift that would rub me the wrong way. I don't have a problem with a FB invite and I don't really consider this a second shower unless the mom is registered and also asking for big ticket items like crib, high-chair, strollers etc. In my family and circle of friends we don't have second showers but we do celebrate each new birth by sending some type of gift, however I would have an issue with being told to bring a gift KWIM.

 

[Jennasis]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

Holy SMOKES you beautiful genius DIS-detective...it sure IS!

This certainly explains a lot.

 

[Rora]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

Good one Nancy Drew!

Now things seem to be a bit more clear...

 

[LuLuO]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

I remember that thread. Well, then this thread isn't so surprising then. What a shame.

 

[ols386]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

I remember reading that thread also.

That answers a lot of questions.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

Yep it is the same one. She is also going to teach her child that she (the child) is the most important person in the world (her words). She doesn't want princess to have low self esteem don't ya know

 

[DWGal210]

Holy SMOKES you beautiful genius DIS-detective...it sure IS!

This certainly explains a lot.

You're welcome, glad to be of service. The user name sounded familiar to me & I couldn't place it right away.

 

[ols386]

If you go to the op profile, and click on "find other posts by this poster", that thread is on page 7.

 

[Magic Mom]

Yep it is the same one. She is also going to teach her child that she (the child) is the most important person in the world (her words). She doesn't want princess to have low self esteem don't ya know

Wow! Nothing like setting a kid up for disappointment.

 

[kwelch10377]

OP, is this the same SIL you were upset with b/c they were having a baby girl & that would take attention from your "princess"? Is that the source of your feelings about the invite, that you really seem to dislike your in-laws?

Same one, as well as thinking her SIL is trash because Cheesecake Factory is fine dining to her and is the OP to the DIS Mom's Panel thread.

 

[southern_redhead]

So SIL's sister send this event invite over Facebook. And I quote:

Come enjoy brunch & relaxation to celebrate the arrival of our newest family member!!!! The new baby girl has plenty of clothes sizes 0-12 months, so if you could bring just a pack of diapers that would be such a blessing to them!.....She also has a small wishlist at Target

Ok A second showers are tacky in my eyes even if it's for a child of a different sex. Second where do they get off telling people what to bring? Obviously every parent loves getting diapers but if they are considered a "blessing" maybe you shouldn't be having a second kid. I checked out her Target list and was surprised to see breast pump. Someone bought her a breast pump last pregnancy and you know what happened to it? She forgot that she placed it on the ground outside and her husband backed up the truck over it. It was a hands free Medal pump--not cheap.

It just rubs me the wrong was as does many thing with that side of the family.

Well, yes, I find the whole affair a tad tacky. I have had three babies (boy,girl, boy) and only had one shower. Mostly because that is what I was comfortable with due to the tackiness factor but also because we lived pretty far away with the first two and then our third was another (third counting stepson) boy and only 15.5 months after DD so we were pretty set for both boy and baby items.

The bolded part is what made me Was she expressing milk in their driveway? How ON EARTH does one leave a breast pump outside, much less in the direct line of someone's vehicle?! I suppose she could have had it in a travel bag and set it down - but still, to walk off and forget it? LOL

As far as the "blessing" comment...I find that people throw the word "blessing" around for most everything.

 

[SeaShelley]

AND.....it's okay to have a shower for each wedding you have.

I know this is snarky, but I just sit here and shake my head at some of the things that folks put out there.......

 

[disneyjunkie]

Didn't your daughter just turn one?


And maybe I'm mistaking you with someone else but didn't you recently post that you made a registry for your daughter's birthday? Many people would think that was tacky.[/QU A registry for a one year old????

 

[Miniefan]

THANK YOU DIS

Sometimes I forget why I don't have that many friends who are chicks, and then there are times like this and I totally remeber why.

I am not what I would refer to as a "FRU-FRU" type of woman, I am pretty plain and simple and what you see if what you get. I try not to get bent out of shape or let other's agenda get to me, but some people in this world, just take the cake, I mean all you can do is sit back and laugh.

I am such a happier person in my life knowing that I am grounded, happy in and of myself and my family, and not concerned with such triviality-is that a word?

A phrase keeps popping up in my mind- Holier tha Thou, yep, thats it.

Kim

 

[msjprincess]

Didn't your daughter just turn one?


And maybe I'm mistaking you with someone else but didn't you recently post that you made a registry for your daughter's birthday? Many people would think that was tacky.[/QU A registry for a one year old????

Yes http://www.disboards.com/showpost.php?p=39379614&postcount=51

 

[Ceila]